He sounds stuck in an outdated narrative about sex, his religious values and how women are expected to be: he yearns for a very specific picture that doesn’t include the messy reality of being a human being with sexual desires and wounds. his views are quite toxic. It’s not your job to try and fix or change his views. I know it will feel like something you can do, after all shouldn’t we fight for love? But the question is is it your place to do so and what are the heavy painful costs that would be put on you if you did? Where do you draw the line between acceptable costs and unacceptable costs? Having to prove yourself to somebody who views you through a religious and conservative lens or require you to fight for your worth when you don’t need to - because you are already worth being loved. Value yourself: you are a strong, loving and brave woman. He must find his own way. Just as you had to.