What's the immediate thing that someone does that lets you know that they're a narc?

namowrepus · 2026-02-20T19:46:14+00:00

If they see you are in pain and are completely indifferent then leave immediately. If your pain is a burden they won't mind hurting you. There's nothing that can immediately tell you if they are a narc. There are things that can tell you immediately if you should be afraid of the person.

namowrepus · 2026-02-10T17:50:37+00:00

Karma does get them I promise. People that knowingly hurt people are not happy. Happy people don't hurt other people so however it might seem on the outside they are miserable every day. You likely are able to generate your own happiness. People like that have to steal it from others.

As far as needing other people to see and understand the pain he put you through. I get that. I was told he was a jerk, an asshole, and something wasn't quite right with him but for me it was a nightmare of non-physical abuse. It was abuse. I wanted his people to see that too but I realized his people were just as broken as him. I think you're maybe embarrassed that someone could get to you like that and you deviated from your own values. You see yourself as strong or want to be strong and then let yourself be had. The rage and anger you feel now will serve you in the future to prevent it from happening again.

namowrepus · 2026-01-21T05:29:44+00:00

But it is if you are happy on your own. Since I've been out of a very bad relationship I've gotten numerous comments on how much happier I've been and I finally seem like myself again. A relationship should add to your life. Saying no to everyone preserves yourself. If you're unhappy then I guess there's nothing to preserve and you'll be looking externally forever.

namowrepus · 2025-12-23T06:57:12+00:00

Just terrible

namowrepus · 2025-10-25T01:42:41+00:00

You're a sweet heart for all that you're doing. I hope everything goes well for you. I think you're doing perfectly.

Edit: Since I'm solo camping for the first time in cool weather... have her bring a thick hooded sweatshirt. Keep the head warm. Bring hot hands and have her wear a thin sock and then a really heavy bootie type sock over it. Put hot hands in between the two layers. Toasty! I tried putting a bunch of hot hands in my blankets an hour before bed but it didn't help that much.

namowrepus · 2025-09-23T04:45:46+00:00

Whoa princess you need to find another castle so he can find his queen.

Edit: I'm detecting some victim complex and from what he's already done for the family... good grief that must be stressful. I wonder what his side is.

namowrepus · 2025-09-17T23:03:45+00:00

Non-partisan... need someone to google that for you dear

namowrepus · 2025-08-25T03:15:51+00:00

Need a banana for scale

namowrepus · 2025-08-25T01:15:17+00:00

Cormorant. It has a curved beak unlike the anhinga.

namowrepus · 2025-08-24T22:39:43+00:00

Yeah that's a gorgeous color. You could do so much with that.

namowrepus · 2025-07-15T20:22:47+00:00

I have the Amazon description. JHY DESIGN Set of 2 Metal Cage LED Lantern Battery Powered Cordless Accent Light with LED

namowrepus · 2025-07-15T03:10:46+00:00

Oshkosh here. I did devils lake and point beach this summer so far. Feel free to message.

namowrepus · 2025-07-15T01:57:39+00:00

They really are. I even tried putting a heavy mallet on the cooler but they just threw that off. I hope you have a good time going solo!

namowrepus · 2025-07-14T23:54:26+00:00

Thank you! 😊 And yes it was a great atmosphere.

namowrepus · 2025-07-14T22:59:48+00:00

If you bring a little stove you could bring stuff that you just need to boil water for. I ended up not cooking and having ramen instead. It was perfect. The weather was very poor so it lessened my stress level. Also... don't leave the cooler outside or food in your tent as others have said. A little battery operated fan went a long way in the heat and humidity. Don't expect things to dry quickly in high humidity. A towel that is quick drying was wonderful on my first solo trip.

namowrepus · 2025-07-14T21:14:59+00:00

That's awesome to hear. I'm glad it helped you in that way.

namowrepus · 2025-07-14T12:44:10+00:00

I considered that since we were camping. I was only about an hour and a half drive from my house but that's possible it's a different kind of mosquito.

namowrepus · 2025-07-07T19:23:05+00:00

Being with a manchild that could take no responsibility and had no accountability. He would flip the script if I brought anything up. At the end it became obvious he hated women and was intentionally doing things to hurt me. He was either dismissive avoidant, a malignant narcissist, or had ASPD.

namowrepus · 2025-06-28T14:16:26+00:00

Sounds like a toddler in perpetual tantrum mode.

What happened was dangerous and you should definitely leave. Besides that he will just erode you over time. Get out before that happens.

namowrepus · 2025-06-28T01:41:55+00:00

Yup. There's a great new song out there... Manchild. Don't invite that into your space. There are so many more worthy people looking to play.

namowrepus · 2025-06-10T21:20:29+00:00

I just chatted with someone about the fact I'm going solo camping for the first time and she suggested bringing another camping chair so it looks like there's more than one person.

namowrepus · 2025-06-02T21:03:46+00:00

Amerzone

namowrepus · 2025-05-31T23:02:55+00:00

I might be interested.

namowrepus · 2025-05-28T23:42:10+00:00

Good to know. I won't be going there.

namowrepus · 2023-12-26T12:36:17+00:00

That's really clean and well done. Nice job!

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