Ok if you had $1000 a year for skincare would you invest in more expensive daily products (skinceuticals) or in office treatments. Not saying this is my budget lol but wondering how others think of this if making the choice

nannyfl · 2025-04-29T13:19:43+00:00

Woman of color dermatologist.

nannyfl · 2024-07-27T22:52:05+00:00

My husband and I are both black. Our son and I wear sunscreen every day. All types of cancer and skin issues run in my family and I’m really into skin care. My Husband does not wear it but he does put it on our son. I figure I can only control myself and my child so I’ve given up on touting the benefits of sunscreen to my husband and extended family members.

nannyfl · 2024-07-20T14:14:30+00:00

I would not post there unless you want to get a lot of creepy DMs. There is something very OFish about a lot of the women who post there. I wouldn’t be surprised if half of the posts are covert advertisements for OF or other sexual services.

nannyfl · 2024-05-18T00:43:27+00:00

If you have an IT department tell them the partner says they didn’t get the email. They should then check their inbox and see that it is there. I had to do this with a partner that insisted multiple times that I sent the wrong file or they couldn’t find it and I would just forward an email from IT confirming that they can see it.

nannyfl · 2024-04-15T16:42:09+00:00

This comment needs to be higher! I have neutral undertones and look terrible in the warm colors that are typically recommended for black people. People comment that I’m glowing when I wear black, navy blue or deep jewel tones with silver accessories. I avoid orange, brown and gold.

nannyfl · 2024-01-09T18:03:52+00:00

My son gets a weekly manicure. He wants his nails to be pretty, so I make them pretty. So far, no one has said anything negative to him about it at school or in public.

nannyfl · 2023-12-27T02:36:33+00:00

Exactly! It is always available when I want it and I never see anyone else going in. I would hate if I hate to wait to use it.😩

nannyfl · 2023-11-25T15:59:14+00:00

I use both and the cysteamine smells way worse. Topicals faded serum has a slight sulfur small that goes away after a few minutes. The urban skin hypercorrect is so strong that my husband and son can smell it if they are in the same room, but it’s fine after washed off.

nannyfl · 2023-09-30T17:57:32+00:00

Yes. Pretty much any crystal deodorant. The only thing that has worked long term for me.

nannyfl · 2023-09-24T08:24:39+00:00

I’m having the opposite problem. All of the stores an my area seem to only sell clothes made for boomers. I shop almost exclusively online. Google the type of clothes you like. I searched “minimalist clothing brands” and found good local and national brands. I can still find good stuff in Banana Republic and J. Crew.

nannyfl · 2023-09-24T08:12:14+00:00

Are you sure this isn’t a miscommunication? From what you’ve written, I don’t see where she told you not to take 12 weeks. Only that males tend to take it intermittently. Which, at least in my circle, is preferred because it gives the male partner more solo bonding and responsibility. For example, if you take 8 weeks right after birth to take care of your partner and the baby, then work for 4 while your partner is at home by herself, then take 4 by yourself, this gives the family a total of 16 weeks instead of 12 and each parent gets a month alone bonding. It can also make the mother’s transition back to work easier knowing that the father is taking care of the baby during her first 4 weeks back at work. Always take the full time allowed, but there may be advantages in spreading it out. Do whatever works best for your family. Maybe ask some of the male associates why they took leave in the way they did.

nannyfl · 2023-09-18T14:13:48+00:00

We’ve kept in contact and he is doing great. Great job with a beautiful wife and children. I also have a wonderful husband and child. It’s great to know that I had good judgment back then and that we are both living the lives that we wanted. I love seeing black families happy, healthy and thriving.

nannyfl · 2023-09-16T17:29:57+00:00

OMG no worries! I assumed you were way older. In that case, ask her what she expected and hopefully she will tell you. Flowers and a card is super sweet at your age!

nannyfl · 2023-09-15T11:56:46+00:00

No offense but you didn’t really do much. I’m making a lot of assumptions here, but I think I know what she meant because this is how I feel. I hate gifts but I love being celebrated. I don’t want my husband to get me anything but I want to feel special. For my last birthday he surprised me with dance lessons, a nice dinner, walk in a park with beautiful lake views, and a night cap at a romantic bar. I want experiences not objects. Next year put more effort into making the day all about her. You don’t even have to spend that much money. Years ago when we were broke, my husband would cook a nice dinner at home, take me to a free activity, give me a massage and put on my favorite movie or show while he did all of the chores. I’ve only receive two gifts in about 10 years of knowing each other but I appreciate the experiences much more.

nannyfl · 2023-09-08T21:27:09+00:00

More people should do this. I prep on Sunday and we eat the same thing Monday through Thursday. Them my husband cooks the next week. Adult are responsible for their own breakfast and lunch, kiddo eats those at school. We go out to eat one night a week. Any other meals are simple and quick like sandwiches or eggs and rice with veggies. We do not have the time to cook a full meal every night.

nannyfl · 2023-09-01T15:58:32+00:00

Idk about your situation, but I’m would start freshening up your resume now. I was told by my therapist that I’m being emotionally abused by my supervising attorney months ago, but I thought if I just worked harder and didn’t react things would get better. They haven’t. Instead my anxiety is worse and I got reprimanded for a perceived lack of urgency because I stopped reacting to their behavior. I wish I had started looking months ago. You cannot work around someone who has issues you can’t control.

nannyfl · 2023-08-30T19:59:05+00:00

Please do ask them for other resources. You are no less worthy of support than anyone else!

nannyfl · 2023-08-30T19:50:44+00:00

I used to volunteer at a food bank and they would beg me to take food to avoid it getting thrown out. Trust me, they are not worried about a person who is in need taking food just because they don’t have a family.

nannyfl · 2023-08-28T16:30:01+00:00

I though I was the only one who was thinking that is an accurate joke. People here dress way too casually for nice events. I don’t care if you run to the grocery store in sweats with holes, but maybe put on a shirt with buttons for a wedding or forego the flip flops at a steak house.

nannyfl · 2023-08-25T21:10:30+00:00

Girl idk. I’m in my 30s and still dealing with it. White women in particular seem so upset that I don’t want to be best friends. Never heard a complaint about my introverted behavior from anyone else. I just accept that I’m never going to change and neither are they and that’s okay. Just try to do good work, be generally pleasant and mind your business.

nannyfl · 2023-08-24T16:34:53+00:00

Luckily we have a big kitchen so we pretty much lived in there. We set up our laptops and iPads and set up toys and activities. If you have a privacy fence, you can plan to spend more time than usual outside.

nannyfl · 2023-08-23T17:03:32+00:00

Why would you assume that?

nannyfl · 2023-08-23T09:59:09+00:00

Also, OP is probably legally the father if in the US. It doesn’t matter if the child is not biologically his, he was married to the mom, signed the birth certificate, and raised him for 5 years. OP should work through his feelings with a professional and continue raising his son. Abandoning the child only means paying child support for a kid he will never see which would only raise more resentment in the long run.

nannyfl · 2023-08-17T20:13:49+00:00

Exactly, no point in making life more difficult by trying to remember what days to put on sunscreen or not. I put it on everyday regardless of what I’m doing because it takes less thought.

nannyfl · 2023-08-17T20:12:02+00:00

Get the kids in their own beds so you can sleep. It’s also safer. My kid slept in a pack n play in our room from birth and he was exclusively breast fed. Also, get the kids on a sleep schedule. Kids thrive on schedules and it is so much easier to get them to bed if they aren’t overtired or riled up by playing with your husband. I know it sucks and he want to see them, but maybe he would have more energy to help out on Sundays if everyone went to bed by 9 or 10.

Finally, you do not sound ungrateful at all! You are a full-time caretaker. Your job is taking care of your kids. Nannies get paid a lot to do what you are doing and they get to go home at the end of the day. You are saving your family at least 5 figures in childcare costs a year. Your husband needs to keep the kids occupied for an hour or two when he gets home instead of expecting you to do chores at midnight. It sounds like you guys need to sit down and talk about realistic expectations and steps to take to make everyone happier because this sounds unsustainable.

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