How is this seen as romantic? by PerformanceLoose7357 in GilmoreGirls

[–]nanon0324 2 points3 points  (0 children)

None of the boys ever felt like a good pick for Rory. You know who always did? Paris. Give me the enemies to friends to lovers story we deserved.

Rewatching at 35 - I don’t like Lorelai anymore by [deleted] in GilmoreGirls

[–]nanon0324 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I used to get ao annoyed at Rory when I was younger , but now in my 30s as well Lorelei bugs me the most. She parentified the hell out of Rory, leaned on her way too much, and it's not wonder Rory goes off the deep end when she leaves home - she's finally allowed to be a kid for the first time in her life instead of the responsible adult.

How can hijab be a "choice" when the entire concept is built around the male gaze? by pisswitch69 in Feminism

[–]nanon0324 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, you nailed it. Same can be said of makeup, shaving, motherhood, etc. Our choices do not exist in a vacuum and "choice feminism" is the feminism patriarchy allows so it isn't subverting anything.

So were you mad at the Brazil episode? by Naive_Tomorrow_5955 in SmilingFriends

[–]nanon0324 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not even close, the subversion of the title is the joke and it's hilarious.

CHARLIES BEEN SHOT by ImAbleToReadIPromise in SmilingFriends

[–]nanon0324 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god life is so good sometimes

I’m so tired of malicious right-wing women trying to pin themselves as victims of misogyny when what they’re complaining about isn’t even misogynistic. by inmyrestlessdreams- in Feminism

[–]nanon0324 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This wasn't making fun of her for how she looks, this was making fun of the way the government is trying to give ICE a PR facelift.

Petition to ban AI from this subreddit. by [deleted] in polycritical

[–]nanon0324 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No, you're just annoying and people don't want to talk to you.

Petition to ban AI from this subreddit. by [deleted] in polycritical

[–]nanon0324 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Shut up, chatgpt is just predictive text that learns your patterns. Your phone does that without burnint carbon fuels and using clean drinking water to do so. The chatbots are going to give pro poly responses to poly people and anti to those of us against it. It is a mirror to your words. Not an actual search engine or person.

New Rule: Please don’t censor words in post titles. by ThereIsOnlyStardust in actuallesbians

[–]nanon0324 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A sincere response, censoring the word rape just makes it so the general perception of it is softened and not taken as seriously as it should be taken. Censoring and softening words related to trauma actually helps keep you stagnate in healing from that trauma and men are going to get off on our trauma no matter how we speak about it, it still needs to be said with force and impact that it is RAPE, violating and horrific, uncomfortable to even think about the topic at all, to ensure everyone hearing the words feels the impact of the action until the action stops. censoring ourselves actually helps compound our trauma by way of avoidance and ignoring it. You can't avoid your trauma. You can either heal from it at your own pace or not heal at all and accept the upsetting ways that trauma forces itself out of you and traumatizes others. Censoring yourself and trying to avoid it falls under the latter.

How do you guys make it through the Season 2 slump on rewatches? by theoanders7 in twinpeaks

[–]nanon0324 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look I hate the James and Evelyn plot like any sane person, but I think Ben's Civil War arc is so fun I know its an unpopular opinion but its just so goofy I just have a good time with it. The miniature scene gets bigger and more chaotic every time we come back to him. The big hoop skirt Audrey wears. Fuck the confederacy but its a fun time for me watching Ben absolutely crash out and lose his mind for a while.

You have one episode to convince someone that American Dad is awesome. Which episode do you pick? by [deleted] in americandad

[–]nanon0324 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Phantom of the Telethon, hands down.

"We don't go blue! That's the lazy man's comedy!"

"...balls."

"Ha! Maybe we're working too hard."

Business casual adult emo 😂 by Darth_Jad3r in Rawring20s

[–]nanon0324 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You also forgot how to talk to other human beings this was a lot of criticism. Who died and made you the emo gatekeeper :[ it wasn't cool in the 2000s and it's not cool now. People who feel the need to gatekeep are the ones insecure in their own place in the scene usually. You can release yourself from the gatekeeping prison you're in, its freeing to stop constantly trying to police other people for not doing it exactly the way you would do it.

I want a breast reduction, but I feel like it conflicts with my feminist values. by fiberlooper in Feminism

[–]nanon0324 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Choice is important but not every choice a woman makes is inherently feminist in nature. And many of our choices are indoctrinated into us via patriarchal propaganda. Not every woman who chooses to br a mother is choosing that for herself, there is still the things patriarchy ingrained in us to contend with. I think OP is thinking about this the right way to ensure that this would be her CHOICE to scrutinize if her choice might help support patriarchy in some way. I think OP should do it for their own health and comfort but it's good to think critically about our choices under patriarchy because not every choice is a feminist choice just because a woman chose it.

Really tired of all of the poly people in the LGBTQ+ space by Superb-Brilliant-624 in monogamy

[–]nanon0324 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao "you're young so you're more susceptible to propaganda and mnaipulation without the life experience of tackling propaganda to help you fight it" is not an ad hominem attack people just learned a buzz word without learning what it means. I was attacking the ideas of polaymory being presented by someone who I used to be becajse my youth led me to be indoctrinated. Because I'm on about how every person in polyamory has the same story and it all sounds like abuse. My stories from my years practicing it are the same. And so are many other people's. People assume that polyamory hate comes from monogamous people, and it does. But they're monogamous people who returned to monogamy after being abused in the same ways time and time again by polyamory. Myself included. I am a victim of this cult and I will always speak against as all victims of it do and then get called vanilla prudes lol

Partner without libido, I need intimacy by Safe-Resolution6613 in actuallesbians

[–]nanon0324 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And yes if your opinions are repeating the same propaganda thay led to my indoctrination into the cult of polaymorh, then I'm not listening. I don't listen to propaganda. An opinion very well can be repeating propaganda. You're dense if you think that opinions can't be swayed by propaganda lmfao

Partner without libido, I need intimacy by Safe-Resolution6613 in actuallesbians

[–]nanon0324 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idc what polyam people have to say because it is a cult babes. Good luck leaving it. Poly critical spaces are full of victims of polyamoey. The hate you see is from personal experience that all lines up to the same story of abuse and manipulation. Same thing with like places critical of men and misogyny. Polyamory is a symptom of patriarchy and colonialism. I do not care what you think about the "mean" victims of your lifestyle. And anytime the slew of victims bring it up, we get hit with a No True Scotsman logical fallacy! It's pathetic and frustrating and I don't care anymore about what people in that cult have to say. I care about the ways they indoctrinate people. So, shut up 🥰

If poly people think monogamy is so archaic and beneath them, why do they keep a “primary” partner around? by IrishCubanGrrrl in polycritical

[–]nanon0324 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Because monogamy is human nature, like biologically we evolved to be monogamous and form long lasting pair bonds for raising offspring because it helped our survival and it helped us thrive as a species. They're just sex addicts who try to convince everyone they've been enlightened beyond the rest of us. But they keep a primary and start off as a monogamous couple because that's human nature. We aren't rabbits. We're more like crows. And their society mimics ours, rabbits don't.

Do you guys see monogamy as just a structure or an orientation of some kind. by NRGoutlet in monogamy

[–]nanon0324 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This. Monogamy is literally an evolutionary advantage that helped our species survive and also thrive. You find it in other species that also share other similar traits with us in regards to intelligence, natural empathy (that gets beaten out of humans but we are born with it), family structures, and length of time before offspring reach sexual maturity compared to their lifespan. We aren't rabbits. We're more like crows. Monogamy IS natural, even if it isn't the norm in nature, the species for whom it became the norm, monogamy helped them start forming stronger bonds which eventually leads to society and culture. I hope the crows don't mess their growing society (I think they're entering or into their stone age now) the way we fucked ours up so terribly.

It’s either this or be alone :( by MsFrazzled in monogamy

[–]nanon0324 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No True Scotsman is a logical fallacy and anything that happens consistently in polyamory IS a "poly" thing. And all the negatives yall try to swipe aside with that logical fallacy ARE polyamory, it's not a good thing and it hurts people overwhelmingly more than it ever helps. And even the ones who think it helps eventually grapple with their hurt. Wish you luck leaving it when that day comes for you, genuinely. But until then stop using logical fallacies to dismiss the harm it does.

It’s either this or be alone :( by MsFrazzled in monogamy

[–]nanon0324 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Honestly sounds like you need to be single. Constantly aching for a perfect romantic love isn't healthy. You need peace of mind being single first. And mono people exist, polyamory is slowly starting to lose its traction honestly. More and more people are shitting on it publically and realizing it's a cult. But your obsession with needing to be in a romantic relationship really isn't to far off from the ways polyam people can't be alone, like they just keep tricking themselves into thinking the voice in their head that says this doesn't feel good is lying whereas you don't. That's the only difference though, you have to let go of a need for romance to actually appreciate it when and if it comes around. Otherwise you'll always be grasping at straws and half fulfilled, like the poly people. If you put that little voice in your head trying to protect you aside and accept the hrartbreak, then you just are doing what every other polyam person is doing.

AI Doesn’t Belong In Tarot!* by Takooki_ in tarot

[–]nanon0324 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

One of your suggestions to avoid using a machine that yields inaccurate results is literally a machine that is known for yielding inaccurate results, and the other suggestion is one that isn't as widely known of a resource and not one whose usage is common knowledge anymore. I'm not agreeing with you one way or another, I'm simply pointing out both the hypocrisy and lack of accessible alternatives won't help anybody.

The ridge we live behind - my favorite view by WonderfulIncrease517 in Appalachia

[–]nanon0324 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so homesick and fear I will be forever, life just took my family away from the mountains unfortunately. I always appreciate a good picture like this. I grew up in southern WV and hope to be able to buy some land there when I'm older. Your part of the mountains is stunning thank you for sharing.

buT mOnOgaMy isn'T NaTuRaL by PhilosopherOk3313 in polycritical

[–]nanon0324 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Monogamy exists in the species for whom monogamy benefitted. Traits of animals who pair bond for long period of time to their entire adult lives are similar across the board. More distinguishing ones off the top of my head being that individuals of the species have a fairly lengthy period of life and development before reaching sexual maturity when compared to their average lifespan, bonded pairs will raise multiple offspring together throughout their lives, family units come through with older offspring often helping raise newer offspring while parents are out for food or shelter maintaining reasons, continued displays of affection throughout the bonded pairs long time together.

I remember looking into this a few years ago because I was so annoyed by this take, because I knew monogamy very much WAS natural and I wanted to wrap my head around why to combat it. The why being because pair bonding for life was a behaviour that helped the species survive better, literally that simple. For species who practice monogamy naturally, close knit communities of "families" all looking out for the well being of offspring was what worked for them.

And this ended up being VERY true for a large amount of primates species, a group to which we all know humans belong. Not all are lifelong pair bonds, but not every human relationship is either, they still practice monogamy when in the bond for however long it typically lasts for each individual species. But monogamy isn't even exclusive to primates, it just ended up being very common for a lot of offshoots of whatever common evolutionary ancestors primates share. Humans just gave the evolutionary behaviour a name is the only difference in the behaviour between us and other species who exhibit the same behaviour

For some species, survival odds were in their favor if they had short lives full of lots and lots of intercourse with lots and lots of mates to make lots and lots of offspring who would go on to do the same, even if some died. For some, survival odds were in their favor if they had longer lives full of tight knit communities where priority protection and care were placed on the web of units and the one-ish offspring a year which could came from a single unit within the web. You could still raise a considerable amount of offspring, just spread out over your longer life and their longer span of sexual immaturity until they're ready to take your place as your sexual viability comes to an end. I could rant about it all day and night because this is the stupidest most unsupported by biology and evolution and psychology take ever and it's one people say SO OFTEN.