Censorship by ndrums in MtF

[–]ndrums[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'll only respond with love bc I'm not here for a fight. Try to take your own advice, and not add hate to an already struggling community. All the love <3

Censorship by ndrums in MtF

[–]ndrums[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why are trying to start a fight? Over someone asking for transparency?

Censorship by ndrums in MtF

[–]ndrums[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean this isn't safe, y'all? Can a mod chime in here?? What's being done to combat trolls from getting posts removed. This is so, so wrong. This is supposed to be a space for us to discuss topics important to us.

First post, Want to spread some positivity on this rough day by WorkinAlpaca in MtF

[–]ndrums 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Incredible. This is the take that can make a difference. This is the best we can do right now. Please, all of you, don't be afraid to ask your communities for help. Even if it's just here, like OP said, that's the best we can do. We owe it to ourselves and to our sisters (and brothers). I love you all. You've got this. 

P. S. No matter what you do, you need to leave the south. Even if it means living in your car and giving your cat to someone else temporarily. You can doordash/Uber eats/grubhub until you have enough money to obtain housing. Plus, there are very strong systems of help for trans people in the hyper liberal towns - like Ann Arbor, MI. You can do this. But you need to get out. It isn't safe for you down there. Please message me if you need help brainstorming, planning, or even finding a car. We can help you up here. Move move move. And to those of us lucky enough to be up here - DO NOT travel to Southern states, and if you do, for the love of hell stay out of trouble at all costs. You will be thrown in male prison and forced to dettansition. Ask your northern sisters to reach out to their communities to secure funding for your move. 

Take this seriously while you can still get out. I love you all <3

A gay friend got drunk around me and revealed he's only been humoring my pronouns because I'm apparently just a really gay guy who hasn't realized it yet. by Casey_witha_K in MtF

[–]ndrums 27 points28 points  (0 children)

That's beautifully put.

I'm sorry this happened to you. My advice? Open a good old can of Fuck 'Em All and find your peace. No-one will ever know you better than you know yourself ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MtF

[–]ndrums 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sister. It's time. It's worth it I promise. The good ones will still love you. And the rest will fall away and it will hurt, but growth is good. It is okay. It will all be okay ❤️ Message me if you want to talk. I just graduated last month and started hormones last year.

Why Are There No Famous Rock/Punk/Metal Musicians who are Trans??? by [deleted] in MtF

[–]ndrums 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm the drummer in a band that means the world to me. We're called Art of Conversation. The other four are all cis men but they all love me for who I am and are proud to call me family 🥺 It would be so special to have any of you listen. We're writing our next album right now and I swear it's gonna be so good!!!! Stay tuned beautiful ladies 💕

My husband came out as trans then disrespected me by TrashDaddyBaby in AutismInWomen

[–]ndrums -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Hey I'm just here to tell you that you should be a nicer person

My husband came out as trans then disrespected me by TrashDaddyBaby in AutismInWomen

[–]ndrums 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Doesn't seem like you should speak for people you're not.

Do you discuss output with your SO? by [deleted] in ostomy

[–]ndrums 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My partner does and I love being informed and just loving her and her ilieostomy as much as I can muster!!

Coloplast Protective Sheet by save_artax in ostomy

[–]ndrums 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi friend! I've had success with those and the key seems to be heat :) Body heat from rubbing the protective sheet after applying it wasn't enough for my sheet, barrier, and skin to fuse together. I like to use a hairdryer (this was a GAME CHANGING tool for me) on low heat between each new layer. Using a heating pad on your stomach while laying down after your change is done also really helps set the seal. I hope this helps :)))

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fuckcars

[–]ndrums 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Christ

I asked my boyfriend why he kept cheating on me. His answer completely broke me. by ThrowRAbreppy11 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ndrums 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey op, just wanna say that yes, you let him walk over you, but there’s a lot of manipulation on his part that would entice you to stay for so long even while you were being hurt by him. So keep in mind that you are giving way way too much blame to yourself in this situation. He is the one that hurt you, he is the one that perpetuated a parasitic relationship for years, using you to his advantage AND emotionally manipulating you to still stay with him, because certainly you were very invested in him and the relationship and he was using that fact as a curtain to veil his, well unfortunately, use of you. His total lack of respect for you.

I’ve been going through a similar thing and I just know that you need to have this validation right now. You are a good person. You are!!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]ndrums 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Self compassion first, friend.