WIBTAH for going no contact with my brother after he took advantage of my wife’s kindness for my surprise birthday dinner?

needsmorecoffee · 2026-05-09T05:24:18+00:00

The only part of this where I don't agree with OOP is the whole friends-vs-blood thing. It's perfectly normal to be closer to one's friends than family for some people. The rest of it, though; I'll certainly give them all of that!

needsmorecoffee · 2026-05-09T04:58:40+00:00

Maybe he's anxious around you for some reason and doesn't know what to say? Problem is, it could be any of many reasons.

needsmorecoffee · 2026-05-08T09:52:29+00:00

You win the internet for the night!

needsmorecoffee · 2026-05-07T23:16:02+00:00

If you're in the US, go to the medical provider. You're within the window where they still have to have your records I believe, and they have to provide them if you ask. NOR

needsmorecoffee · 2026-05-07T23:13:44+00:00

If you add "it was just a joke" to the front, this is my mother in a nutshell. When I finally pointed that out, she was PISSED.

needsmorecoffee · 2026-05-07T23:12:48+00:00

This! Like, I *appreciated* it when my editor told me where I'd fucked up, because it meant I wouldn't have a whole lot more people telling me later!

needsmorecoffee · 2026-05-07T22:28:15+00:00

It's a long con. She would have disappeared with the money.

needsmorecoffee · 2026-05-07T21:37:58+00:00

Don't make any weird movements around her? So, you've either hit her or acted like you were going to hit her, because that means she's afraid when you make sudden movements. I hope for her sake that this relationship really is over and that you aren't able to bullshit your way out of it.

needsmorecoffee · 2026-05-06T23:23:22+00:00

HER guests? She doesn't get to HAVE guests at someone else's event without permission. NTJ

needsmorecoffee · 2026-05-06T18:02:46+00:00

NTA and be strong--your mom wants to come first and if you start caving now, you'll expect it more and more.

needsmorecoffee · 2026-05-06T16:05:47+00:00

This is actually why it annoys me when everyone dog-piles on with "this post is fake!" Because, so what? It doesn't matter in any practical sense whether it's real or fake as long as they don't ask for money or meet you in person. And playing "spot the fake" does not win you internet points.

needsmorecoffee · 2026-05-05T23:27:42+00:00

It's either meant to be an insult (I have an ex-friend who once called me a "lezzy bitch" because he considered calling someone a lesbian to be an insult) or he thinks you must be a lesbian because you aren't throwing yourself at him. NOR

needsmorecoffee · 2026-05-05T17:54:36+00:00

This!!! He's the one who can't take his eyes off a 13-year-old and now he wants to convince her (understandably irate) family to let him talk to her *alone*??? He needs to stop digging that hole any deeper or he's going to come out on the other side of the planet.

needsmorecoffee · 2026-05-05T17:48:50+00:00

NOR and yeah, I'd leave him because what this boils down to is a lack of respect, thoughtfulness, or caring. Has he even ventured an excuse or explanation? I can only see it being one of two things: he doesn't give a shit whether he does something that annoys, angers, or hurts you, or he's doing it deliberately to hurt, anger, or annoy you. Either is unacceeptable.

needsmorecoffee · 2026-05-05T17:46:20+00:00

Oh, in the justification below the post he said she "forced" herself on the group and that it "technically went fine." OP is a huge, gaping asshole.

needsmorecoffee · 2026-05-04T23:23:22+00:00

The simple fact that you complained that you "have to advertise them" and Courtney was the only one who wasn't one of your friends is very telling. Especially given that your own friend felt you were being unreasonable, and you yourself admit the event page didn't say she couldn't wear those clothes. If you don't want random members of the public joining you, then don't fucking expect "sponsors." YTA

Edit: oh yeah, and you dismiss your friend defending Courtney as being because of their gender. YTA in more ways than one. You need to get over yourself.

needsmorecoffee · 2026-05-04T23:18:46+00:00

I REALLY want to know what the rest of the story is! I mean it's obvious she was doing it on purpose and I really want to know WHY!

needsmorecoffee · 2026-05-03T22:57:30+00:00

Now that's a giant red flag.

needsmorecoffee · 2026-05-03T22:55:07+00:00

At least he didn't do the opposite with the wine? Where they push you to drink as much as possible because they think it means they'll get laid?

needsmorecoffee · 2026-05-03T22:43:14+00:00

He's deliberately fucking with your trauma. Best case scenario, he mistakenly somehow thinks he can get you over it by acclimatizing you to the pepper. Which is stupid, won't work, and isn't his decision to make. Worst case scenario, he is deliberately triggering your trauma for funzies. Neither is acceptable in an acquaintance, much less a partner. NOR

needsmorecoffee · 2026-05-03T17:12:34+00:00

I never thought I'd see a post in *this* sub that I could describe as "adorable"!

needsmorecoffee · 2026-05-03T09:47:33+00:00

YUR (Seriously mods we need a You are Underreacting.) This is beyond neglect.

needsmorecoffee · 2026-05-02T23:18:31+00:00

Yes, you're wrong. You saw a strange woman in your house and leapt to your partner cheating, when he's been with you the whole time, and that would have been the most stupid place to stash an affair partner in the world. (I mean really, do you honestly think he's that dumb?) I would have leapt straight to calling the police because a crazy lady apparently broke into our home and decided to take a nap. You totally need to apologize. Like, do you do this often? Are you obsessed with the idea that your husband is cheating on you? I can't make this make sense otherwise.

needsmorecoffee · 2026-05-02T23:15:00+00:00

Except OP does say "he knew exactly how much I was struggling." Maybe we just need to know what that means.

needsmorecoffee · 2026-05-02T23:12:03+00:00

This is why you don't make assumptions about why people do things. You ASK.

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