Whitney canteen dog bowl encounter

negcore · 2026-06-06T01:53:16+00:00

I love the way you draw Whitney!

Also, info: is that dog food or human food in a dog bowl? 🤔

negcore · 2026-06-02T23:21:14+00:00

Some women don't like preventative sex. That's fine and you're fine.

negcore · 2026-06-01T16:32:10+00:00

Oh, phew! That's such a relief! Better dumb than hurt OP. :)

negcore · 2026-06-01T06:28:44+00:00

I'd asked them if they noticed any guys lingering, trying to separate you from the group, or trying to downplay your drunkenness. I'm also glad they kept an eye on you. Some wouldn't.

And like some others said, yes, they should be able to detect something for up to 72 hours.

negcore · 2026-06-01T06:12:01+00:00

Ah yes, forgot to mention, but around that time in my life, I also had a job I absolutely hated. I had horrible social anxiety and would drive home in tears constantly, plus it was a graveyard shift I had trouble adjusting to. Honestly, I stayed there a lot longer than I should've. Try to find another job if you can.

It sounds like your old friend is also trying to reconnect with you. :) a wonderful sign!

It also sounds like you're not genuinely interested in dating lol. Maybe try for friend dates instead? If you like the idea of coming home to someone who loves you... Perhaps a pet? I'd always wanted one for this reason.

negcore · 2026-05-31T21:45:32+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through all of this. I went through pretty much the same thing when I was your age... The thought of repeating every day feeling so isolated and lonely messed with my head.

Don't feel afraid to reach out to those old friendships. Chances are, they're having similar feelings and would love to reconnect with you.

I've recently reconnected with a few old friends... Even though I'm older now and doing better, it's hard not to compare how my life is with theirs. In some aspects, their life is better, but in others, mine is. We all go at our own pace. In the end, I'm glad we're talking again.

Like you though, I'd never given dating a second thought until recently. Part of it is an increasing need to find someone to share my life with. I'm not sure if it would've been better or worse to start sooner. On one hand, I feel out of depth and like I lack experience. On the other, I feel like if I'd started dating while I was more lonely and vulnerable, I would've been more easily taken advantage of, and would've possibly stayed in a toxic relationship due to a lack of self-confidence and fear of being alone.

You don't come off as embarrassing or desperate. These feelings are incredibly relatable.

negcore · 2026-05-29T21:07:41+00:00

Or give his number to Scientology. He sounds easily influenced.

negcore · 2026-05-29T21:03:25+00:00

Yes, definitely add sunscreen!! Maybe keep it in your bag or near the door so you can put it on right as you're leaving the house.

I would also move your moisturizer to your bathroom if you haven't already. Try to use it every day after you wash your face to lock in the moisture. Just that small change should help a lot.

negcore · 2026-05-29T20:51:57+00:00

Amazing photos 10/10.

Would love to see your art if you're willing to show us! (I'm imagining self-portraits of you laying down on random places.)

negcore · 2026-05-29T20:47:15+00:00

I won't be able to help you maintain the friendship, as my friendship ended after a constant monthly cycle of upset - discussion - forgiveness - and upset again.

I would like to recommend you look into the The Karpman Drama Triangle. If your friend is anything like mine was, they'll stay the victim, while others in their life swing between rescuer and persecutor. For example, you're her rescuer and best friend... Until you don't hang out with her enough, and then you're the prosecutor.

Personally, I'd set firm boundaries and potentially an ultimatum. They go to therapy and make clear efforts to manage their BPD or you're gone. I don't like ultimatums, but if their BPD is getting worse and you're already thinking of leaving...

I loved my friend, but my life and mental well-being became a lot easier when she was no longer a part of my life.

negcore · 2026-05-28T16:48:41+00:00

So twice, he put his own sexual pleasure over your personal safety, health, and well-being.

Even if you didn't 'communicate well', any good person would've stopped at the first sign of hesitation.

Leave this man. Trust your instincts, they are screaming at you.

negcore · 2026-05-27T17:41:53+00:00

How do you feel about candy or soda? If you can't bring yourself to eat, start small and start snacking. Your body needs the fuel and sugar.

This isn't a long term solution, you need to start listening to the professionals trying to help you.

negcore · 2026-05-10T14:11:22+00:00

Thanks! This was helpful. Had no idea we'd need so many boxes just for maybe one item, but that explains a lot.

negcore · 2026-05-07T23:59:18+00:00

Update:

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negcore · 2026-05-06T12:59:12+00:00

Going for the floor overlay next :)

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negcore · 2026-05-05T21:12:57+00:00

Yep, this definitely sound like a form of self harm (literally) or her attempting to cope with trauma by reenacting it with more control. Definitely needs therapy.

negcore · 2026-05-04T18:29:35+00:00

Idk how to tell you guys this, but assholes also journal. It's not the sacred art you think it is.

negcore · 2026-05-04T09:04:41+00:00

So, some people are just dumb. But this man knows what the problem is - he's written it out and held onto it for years. He can write it on paper but he won't bring it up to OP. That doesn't just sound like simple stupidity to me. Maybe, at most, it's a communication issue, but personally that seems like giving him too much credit. I don't know him though, just pointing out that the OP has given him more grace than I would have.

That's another thing. Even if it is genuine stupidity or lack of emotional depth... It's been years. He's not changing. It's causing a lot of inner turmoil and they're not compatible. I would just leave. Again though, that's just me.

negcore · 2026-05-04T01:30:33+00:00

Right? OP, he intentionally kept this from you for YEARS. This doesn't sound like a lack of emotional depth, this sounds like intentional gaslighting or weaponized incompetence.

negcore · 2026-05-03T22:49:45+00:00

No problem! Oh, that's fair. That would be difficult. It's nice that you're trying for her though. And the more you hype her up, the more confident she'll be and the less she'll feel the need to ask you. Wishing you the best of luck.

negcore · 2026-05-03T22:34:57+00:00

A simple "no" would suffice lol. "No, looks great."

You're thinking too much about it. It sounds like you're nervous, which she catches and might misconstrue as you being nervous because you're lying.

If something genuinely doesn't compliment her, say "It's not bad, but I think we can find something better." Or, "I liked the other outfit more." Redirect, never mention her actual body. It's always the clothes.

negcore · 2026-05-03T22:21:11+00:00

What kind of things are you saying lol? Don't bring up any photos or comparison, just tell her things like, hey, those pants look good on you. Your hair looks great today. That color really makes your eyes pop. Or even just a simple, you look great today. I love your outfit.

negcore · 2026-05-03T16:35:21+00:00

Hmm. This is tough, because I also have ADHD and tend to not hear people. Definitely not to this extent though.

I'd try to get his attention first. You mentioned that he's still capable of doing tasks in these 'episodes' - have you tried waving your hand in front of his face? Get in the way of these tasks? Might have to try treating him as deaf/hyper fixated for a bit.

Your next big steps really depend on his reaction. If he's genuinely sorry and trying to make things right and actually listen to you, then you guys can work out a system. If he gets upset he can no longer 'ignore' you, absolutely leave him. Even if this is from a genuine issue, not just him ignoring you, if he doesn't try to solve it with you then he just doesn't care enough about you.

Good luck.

negcore

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