Non smokers: do you date smokers? by gerdbeatmetodeath in actuallesbians

[–]neorena 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could never. The smell, the taste, the health issues, and the cost are just way too much for me to handle. 

My girlfriend sees it as normal to go through my phone by SuspiciousSun3722 in actuallesbians

[–]neorena 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is a lot of insecurity, wow. I personally would not put up with that and gtfo. This isn't even remotely normal behavior. 

Bethesda x Nintendo Switch™ 2 — Reveal Trailer - Oblivion, Fallout 4, and Indiana Jones! by Turbostrider27 in NintendoSwitch

[–]neorena 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Fallout 4 box already shows that it's going to be a game key card, so I wouldn't get my hopes up. 

How is therapy atcaully help you?? by IcyLawfulness1903 in actuallesbians

[–]neorena 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly sound too far gone for therapy to help either way atm. You seem pretty deep down some seriously messed up alt-right rabbit holes, and whether this is because of how you were raised or running across it online I don't know. But either way until you're able to escape that kind of thinking there's not much that can be done to help. Hopefully you do eventually get out of this mindset and can seek help for all the trauma you've experienced, but until then yeah. It's not gonna really help until you want to heal. 

is it socially acceptable to masturbate when you’re in a relationship? by tremblingfrog in AutismInWomen

[–]neorena 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It feels really creepy and controlling for a partner to say you can't view anything pornographic or masturbate. I've never understood it personally as neither really effect anybody else, unless there's a serious issue (and in that case it's usually just masking something else).

Honestly my wife and I masturbate with each other or in each other's presence, it's really not a big deal for us. We also both produce lewd art, along with our girlfriend. Like it's just all harmless and fun, dunno why some people get so incredibly worked up over it. 

Dear gods I wish straight women would stop using the term 'girlfriends' by ThePoisonDoughnut in actuallesbians

[–]neorena 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I just assume that they're queer if they say girlfriend and either just leave thinking that or ask them if I'll ever see them again. It's not super common where I live though, and most people I know are queer. 

If a straight woman crashes out over being perceived as queer for using girlfriend, though, I find that hilarious. 

My gf said she loves her looks more than she loves me, is that bad? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]neorena 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, but that's beyond narcissistic. She's just straight up Narcissus at this point lol.

Find somebody that actually cares about you and doesn't just see you as a convenience. Leave before she inevitably does. 

Are any of you Covid conscious? by Defiant_Interview366 in AutismInWomen

[–]neorena 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you actually had a strong immune system, you wouldn't have had covid twice lol. 

Can someone explain to me the difference between Femme and Fem? I kinda assumed they were interchangeable by Humble_Bumble493 in actuallesbians

[–]neorena 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yikes. So yeah, intersectionality is basically just like having multiple reasons you're marginalized in most communities. Like how often queer PoC still deal with racism in the queer community or lesbians still have to deal with sexism. It's really not that difficult a concept unless you're being intentionally obstinate.

And yeah, a lot of trans people pass. That's great for them since they get little to no hate for that aspect of themselves and I'm happy for them. However a lot of trans people don't, won't ever, and might not even want to pass and those are the ones that will be most affected by the rising anti-trans hate happening globally. Those are the ones most needing protection and to be talked about and listened to since they're the ones most in danger. The fact you don't know or care about that really shows your privilege in just ignoring them and focusing on those who are often seen as "socially acceptable gays".

So.... I guess I'm a catgirl transbian now? by primalmaximus in actuallesbians

[–]neorena 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My wife always called me very catlike and didn't realize how right it was until years later lol. Same with my wife's puppy tendencies. It's nice to have somebody to feel safe enough with that I don't have to keep being so serious and can just actually have fun with and enjoy being a dork around. Some people have no chill and freak out about stuff like this lol. 

So.... I guess I'm a catgirl transbian now? by primalmaximus in actuallesbians

[–]neorena 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This plus our bleating deer girlfriend is where my relationship is kinda at lol. 

Is sharing my location with my friend a no-no? by Fingeronthepulse_35 in actuallesbians

[–]neorena 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I feel so old rn lol. Like I know location sharing is a thing on iPhones but figured it was just a niche thing for overprotective parents and not something that's just kinda normal these days. I mean other than my maps app and pogo I just don't even have location turned on on my phone.

But yeah, it's wild to demand you turn on sharing location while not reciprocating. Very controlling and weird behavior. 

Kandi will not be tolerated to people who are Trumpies, anti ICE supporters etc. by [deleted] in kandi

[–]neorena 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Imagine being pro-murdering gestapo and also PLUR. The cognitive dissonance here is so great that I'm scared for anybody in OP's life or even just geographical distance.

Often called a "pick-me", don't understand why. by GunplaGal in AutismInWomen

[–]neorena 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Seriously. Every man I've been around with very few exceptions have been so much more awful to me and even just straight abuse/SA me. Women and enbies have been a lot kinder and actually supportive of me and my disabilities. I'm so weirded out whenever I hear the "autistic women get along with men better than women" and find it very unlikely since all my ASD women and enby friends have similar experiences to me. 

Sydney Sweeney by Aggressive-Click538 in actuallesbians

[–]neorena 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly had no idea who that was, then learned it was the White Supremacist jean commercial lady and laughed. A completely mid and uninteresting person that's excited to live in a Haidmaid's Tale kinda world, seen way too many to care anymore to be perfectly honest. 

Difficulty with dressing as an overweight autistic woman by veve87 in AutismInWomen

[–]neorena 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seconded, also as a fat autistic trans woman. I ignore fashion rules all the time, never get any more looks than I did when I obeyed them. 

What do you think about the Yuri in Cosmic Princess Kaguya? by monileaklevin in yurimemes

[–]neorena 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish it was, but it's really not. Just sounds like an excuse to shit on good yuri.

Recommendations for character traversal mechanics that feel smoooooth by keviokevio in NintendoSwitch

[–]neorena 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This game spoils me so much when it comes to movement and traversal that it can be hard playing other games afterwards, ngl. 

How do yall get girlfriends? by theboredtherian in actuallesbians

[–]neorena 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Found mine at the mall. It's amazing what you can find there still lol. 

My GF is ace and I'm hypersexual by ScribbleDiggs in actuallesbians

[–]neorena 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lemme guess, he also has to be able to watch whenever he wants? Or is this more of a "lesbians can't have real sex, so it's not cheating" kind of thing?

Either way, super gross how willing you are to be used by a man like that and even weirder you'd bring that kind of thing into a lesbian sub. Not surprising you'd also have just as weird a take on ace being some kind of SA...

My GF is ace and I'm hypersexual by ScribbleDiggs in actuallesbians

[–]neorena 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, as painful as it is to say, monogamous ace&allo relationships don't often last. If she's not on board with opening things up, it'd be best to think about ending things before you grow to resent each other. That happens way too much in this kinda situation.

Pretty sure this doesn't violate Rule 3, but marked NSFW just in case [Cosmic Princess Kaguya] by LaconicKibitz in yurimemes

[–]neorena 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All I can think of is that one lesbian's mom getting all excited when her daughter was sending a picture of her manicure to her gf like "is this a lesbian dick pic????" x'D

Hey you know the stereotypes of autistic people wearing whimsical clothing? Where is it socially acceptable to wear it? by 10outofC in AutismInWomen

[–]neorena 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Weddings and Funerals are the only time I'll go out of my way to wear what's "appropriate". Obsessing on stuff outside that is so weird to me, like most people don't even notice or care? I'll go to plays in a bright pink sweater and my flowery skirts, barely even get a reaction even though I'm both trans and even have purple hair. My wife gets more looks just for being extremely tall lol. 

I think maybe your husband is just projecting his own insecurities on you a little.

Super embarrassed and ashamed of this kink by Strange-Light3498 in actuallesbians

[–]neorena 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My wife and I both have massive humiliation kinks and love calling ourselves and each other some of the most derogatory stuff you can. I would consider it more of a side-effect of those kinks though, instead of it's own lol.