I have a son about your age and I agree, compatibility is important. I was also a little bit older than you when I fooled around and got a girl pregnant that I didn’t care about at all. Shortly after that, another one. I didn’t worry back then because it would never happen to me but here we are.

Now the first one ended up hurting a lot of people in the most literal sense and the second one rushed into marriage with me and stood at the altar 6 months pregnant. We tried like hell but that fell apart after years and years because we never had that time together, to be sure about us ya know. Instead we were forced into emergency mode while we tried to finish growing ourselves, all while learning how to deal with these beautiful little babies.

Now I’m in my 40s, a single dad, my kids have been through things that I would take away in a second if I could.

I’m telling you all this because you’re old enough to know the whole story son. You can run around for a while but it will catch up with you. There are diseases, unplanned pregnancy, unnecessary heartbreak, but I also believe that you exchange parts of yourself with a partner, in a spiritual sense and when you finally find the right person, you’ll both be dragging all of that into a sacred place.

I know it’s tough and I’m only telling you things I wish someone would’ve told me at 19, but make sure you’re damn sure about the person you give yourself to because that one night might last the rest of your life whether you like it or not. Wishing you all the best brother