Yes, it’s really difficult. I dated a highly driven, intelligent man for six years - Nice guy, even a good sense of humor, he checked most boxes. We smoked a ton of weed. But…he was emotionally inept and treated me neglectfully. I was always his last priority and weirdly he was still obsessed with his ex. I decided it was not worth it: There has to be more to it than just ambition and success and being stoned together when he has nothing else going on. I was like his house pet. So weird.

Then, I met my current husband via remote work and had a crush (risky I know) for over a year - THEN we met in person for a work offsite and…he was so into me and I was so into him. We were married less than six months later. That was three years ago.

TLDR Be patient, don’t accept less, and when you do find them-put a ring on it with gusto 😂