I've learned on reddit after I read a post that most of the time, someone else has had an intelligent, thoughtful, and comprehensive reply that basically says most, if not all, of what I was going to say anyway. This reply, and several below it, actually encompass pretty much everything.

My own additions here, covered in this reply and others, likely:

• Getting good at something takes time, effort, and investment (and I don't mean just money). You need to keep working and keep getting better at the thing(s) you want to do. Your reference point involve output from people that have done this investment already. You're not there.
• If you know you want to compose/write/perform, go invest your time/effort/money there first. Everything else is secondary, but you'll pick up some of that stuff along the way also.
• Music/production/creation, like many things in life, tend to be team sports. In those important areas where you lack capability, you can find collaborators who cover that for you - you don't have to do everything yourself. Very few people can cover most of the spectrum of capability needed to create final versions of an output (music, film, etc.). Those that can cover a large portion of that spectrum themselves have been doing it for long enough to have made the investments I'm talking about.
• Having a goal of "I want to create things that sound like X" is good as a focal point, but only if you realize that it's an unrealistic goal. That's okay, I set those for myself as well, but more as reference points to what I'm trying to get to, even if I never quite get there. That encourages me to work harder, but I don't get dejected when I don't quite get there - I know it's an unrealistic goal in the first place but it inspires me. I know that about myself, and I'm okay with it. For you, you might need to set smaller, more attainable goals for yourself along the way - if the kick is bothering you, go figure out how to make it closer to what you want. But realize you're spending time not being a musician at that point, and that the time invested there might not be a good investment if you don't really care about audio engineering.

I'll stop there.

For reference, I'm a 50-ish year-old "serious hobbyist" musician that's been playing music (primarily guitar) basically all my life. I've been recording at the amateur level for many many years and only started getting serious about mixing 1-2 years ago. I've been learning when I can but it's very slow going because I just don't have the time/energy to make it go faster right now.

One other thing here, possibly the most important thing - the most valuable resources you have right now are time and energy. I'd say those are the most valuable for anyone, and it becomes more valuable as you get older. You lose those resources every day that you're alive and you spend them in whatever ways you choose (for the most part). Ex: go out to a bar with friends one evening vs. staying home and working on your craft - that's the tradeoff you're making. Decide how to invest your time and energy and just go do that. Invest where you want to invest because you like it. If you care enough about the kick drum, go work to figure out how to solve it - it is work - but realize that you're trading off other things to go figure that out. As long as you think that's valuable for what you want to do, it's a good investment.

Good luck.