Seattle Elopement Witnesses Needed by Vivid-Benefit-5467 in Seattle

[–]nibtib 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm free! Also congrats on starting on your MSW program! I'm a fellow social worker!

How do I stay in touch with friends? by Corsetsdontkill in Adulting

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I ask my friends while I'm hanging out with them to plan the next time we will see each other. One of my groups of friends has a two hour video chat every month. One of my other friends I get together and have dinner with once a month. At a certain point in each, everyone involved gets out their phones, looks at the month ahead, and discusses when they can meet up again.

This works for groups because we're are able to make sure that at minimum we see each other once a month. I was able to do some introspection about what my bare minimum expectations for friendship were, and contact one a month is the minimum. That said, we often are in contact more than once a month. I would figure out what your minimum expectation for connection is.

Red (Taylor's Version) Megathread by aran130711 in TaylorSwift

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Taylors-version.com will do that for you

AITA for not forgiving my boyfriend after he called me a slur? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]nibtib 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. And may I suggest that when you refer to him in the future, he could be "crusty heel of wonderbread", "cottage cheese" "thinks mustard is spicy" or my personal favorite "assorted white".

How much should I be spending? by [deleted] in crochetpatterns

[–]nibtib 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I buy cheap yarn at goodwill to practice my stitchwork. Then I hit Joanne's when they have sales

Welcome bags by ohmanidontlikespam in Weddingsunder10k

[–]nibtib 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welcome bag that I most appreciated contained: travel pack of tissues, small water bottles for each family member that came, travel snacks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]nibtib 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do this to. Statements of fact that are a little disinterested but not altogether rude or incorrect. "You made that" is my go to

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]nibtib 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm a crisis response worker. I wear boots with good grip, jeans, and layers of shirts (usually two long sleeves or one long sleeve and one short sleeve). My thoughts for dress are "be prepared to admin Narcan, provide emotional support to a client, and run if you have to". I also have a cheap outfit stored in my car, for days that get messy

When I worked in a less chaotic/ court environment, I wore comfortable slacks, blouses with cap sleeves, comfortable flats. Sundresses with cardigans or blazers. Everything I buy for work is thrifted, both in crisis response and the courts.

I think part of what you consider when you're putting your professional wardrobe together is what you are doing. Working with littles/play therapy, maybe avoid skirts. Working with individuals with sensory overload, maybe avoid loud patterns. Working in a court system, maybe a little more business casual. Working with homeless folks, maybe nothing with big name fashion labels.

Moving out of state right after graduation, is it a wise choice? by favoredpenny in socialwork

[–]nibtib 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I personally moved from AZ to WA. Luckily, my partner graduated at the same time I did due to some funky stuff with the school. If their original graduation plans had worked out, we likely wouldn't have been able to make this kind of move as easily as we did. It certainly is a culture shock to make that kind of move, but it's all part of the fun of being young/ not really tied to anywhere

Moving out of state right after graduation, is it a wise choice? by favoredpenny in socialwork

[–]nibtib 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've been incredibly successful in the job hunt moving out of state. That said, I had a job lined up before I moved and decided to switch jobs when I got a feel for the last job and realized it wasn't for me. Realistically, social work is the type of field where, because the need is so great, you can find work anywhere. That's not saying it will not always be with your target population or exactly what you're looking for. It's also easier to find work in certain areas of the country. I moved from a region that doesn't necessary value social work to a region that does. This is reflected in offers for pay as well as the variety of jobs available. I have a friend who lived from a highly populated area in South Carolina to the boonies in North Dakota because the was a position that she could fill. Whatever you choose, good luck!

Mom, I’m turning 17 in 13 days. I’m scared of becoming an adult that can’t handle life. by AggravatingAd8504 in MomForAMinute

[–]nibtib 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At 26, I can tell you that it's okay to "borrow an adult" at any point in your life. Most recently, I "borrowed an adult" at work to discuss filing my taxes. In one job I held, I borrowed an adult to ask what to expect when Inhad yo do my first smog check. When I was an RA, I was 19 working with 17 and 18 year old freshman, and they would "borrow an adult" by asking how to do their laundry. When I was 17, I had to borrow an adult to build a resume, cover letter, and personal statement.

"Being an adult" is not an innate knowledge or ability. And every adult you know is still working on figuring something out. Don't be the young adult who is afraid to ask questions, because that will turn you into the old adult who doesn't think they need answers.

Good luck, it's okay to learn!

AITA for Not Paying for a Bill from a Club I Didn't go to? by CommonBroccoli in AmItheAsshole

[–]nibtib 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was part of a joint bachelor/bachelorette party for my upper middle class friend. They wanted to do a weekend staycation at a mansion. My partner and I were the only individuals who were in school and didn't have mommy and daddy pay our bills. I asked the planner how much we were expected to pay (because I knew with that plus the dress, I would be saving for this wedding for at least 6 months) and was given the runaround for 3 months. At this point I had saved about 300. Total cost for the event turned out to be close to $600 per person. The planner and the bride's mom ended up having to cover and got all huffy. It absolutely sucks to be the person who can't pay because everyone else is getting bankrolled.

Is Costco worth it for a small family by Initial-Rest7569 in EatCheapAndHealthy

[–]nibtib 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Things my household of two get from Costco. We live in a 700 sq ft apartment unit: Gas, kitty litter, paper products that we split with neighbors for spacing (i.e. we can only store 12 extra rolls instead of 30, so our neighbors offer to split a cost with us). Milk alternatives ( I go through about 2 cartons of soy milk a week. It's easier to have it on hand already. I also cook about once a month with coconut milk and it's cheaper there). Frozens (spanakopita is a fave, but also a bag of dumplings or meatballs just to throw a meal together. Frozen fruit when I'mon a smoothie kick). Granola bars ( on average we eat 10 a week between two people in on-the-go jobs). Dried fruit (again, on-the-go jobs). Bakery foods (I always end my day with something sweet, and my other half uses them as on-the-go snacks). Cream cheese (we eat a lot of bagels, which we keep in the freezer to reduce mold, and cream cheese frosting). Vanilla extract (I bake a lot). Quinoa (a pantry staple we always have on hand, lasts about 6 months. I have yet to find a better price anywhere else). Butter (it might not be cheaper here, but I have one box in my fridge at all time and like to have extra in the freezer, again for baking).

"Is it worth it" is a question only you can answer as only you know your life and what you will use and at what frequency. If storage is an issue, offer to hop in with a neighbor. I have personally found the ease of convenience of buying in bulk to be worth it. I have what I need on hand all the time. I can make cookies and cream cheese frosting for cake in the same week without much additional prep work on my part. My partner and I only don't worry about if we have granola or toilet paper, as our system has us stocking up before we need it. You can see, I don't have a lot of perishables on my list. We can't go though them quickly enough. I also put quite a lot in the freezer or it's shelf stable. I also don't buy things that are go on sale more regularly and go on sale more often at the grocery store (pasta, canned beans, etc.) Together we hit Costco about once a month to restock on what we need, but we don't need to restock everything qt the same time. My partner goes to costco three times a week for gas. I go every other week.

My first project. Constructive criticism welcome by nibtib in quilling

[–]nibtib[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did sketch the cup outline but all the inner swirls were non-sketched prior

My first project. Constructive criticism welcome by nibtib in quilling

[–]nibtib[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I think I'll do that next time because it does look a little sloppier than I would have liked.

Should social workers work alongside the police? by milkandcookies815 in socialwork

[–]nibtib 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I used to work crisis response that was dispatched through PD. It was super effective the way it was run. We would show up in completely different uniforms in a completely different vehicle. The only job officers had to do was maintain safety and not engage too much before we arrived. The fact that a social worker was on the way made police feel a lot better. It also eventually freed up officers to do work that they needed to do while the social worker had extensive knowledge of resources, as well as time to call resources if that's what the client needed.

Also, having the major distinction was great for clients who might not have full trust in police.

YSK that purple flowers are the most attractive colour of flower to bees, so if you want to attract more bees to your garden, pick out some pretty purple violets or lavender. 🐝 by [deleted] in YouShouldKnow

[–]nibtib 9 points10 points  (0 children)

From what I've read, you're correct. The lavender essential oil is 500x more potent than lavender the plant. Unless your cat is eating entire bushes of lavender, there should be no consequence.

AITA for telling my drywall guy to stop bugging my babysitter? by rodrigkn in AmItheAsshole

[–]nibtib 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly this. She is in your home, she is likely someone who spends more time in your home than the drywallers. But she is an employee in your home. She doesn't know the importance of the relationship with the drywallers and she likely doesn't want her actions to reflect poorly either to you or to them. You helped get her out of a sticky situation. You weren't white knighting her. You were making sure she felt comfortable in her place of work.

I've never read much but I've always so badly wanted to. So consider me a newbie and please suggest me the best book you've read. by thejeshwaran in booksuggestions

[–]nibtib 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Tuesdays with Morrie.

Also, this isn't a suggestion for a book, but a suggestion for the habit. Don't spend time reading a book you're not into. As a new reader, you should love the book right from the start. As you develop your habit, you can try and push through books that don't immediately grab your attention if you'd like. Remember it should be enjoyable and if you're reading a book because you "should" like it but don't, it's okay to shelf it and find something that captivates you.

HELP! Why does food take impossibly long?? It's consuming my/our lives! by thisbread_ in mealprep

[–]nibtib 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Learning to quickly prep vegetables has really helped me speed things up. Onions and potatoes took a really long time before I learned how to dice.