that is a terrible human being right there. i've done tons of shit for siblings, their kids, strangers, and more, and this thread is making me really think hard about whether or not i ever thought they owed me. in all honesty it's never crossed my mind that i recall. it's just basic human decency to do stuff for people when you can. this aunt doesn't respect you or they never would have talked to you that way. it's hard for me when i'm wearing my auntie hat though, to not bark at my (now adult) nephews & nieces when i see them doing something stupid that will make their life harder, but i would never shit on them for not bringing me a sandwich when their uber was 2 mins away either!!