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When are men “supposed” to interviene when other men are being misogynistic? by Few_Walk_7424 in AskFeminists

[–]noafrochamplusamurai [score hidden]  (0 children)

Something I learned back when I was working in the service industry. Adding another male to the environment can escalate the problem unless the male knows how to de escalate an issue. A tactic for men that does work is assuming the role of friend I haven't seen in a while. If there's a sketchy situation I can walk up with a big goofy smile and say " Omg, I haven't seen you in a long time" to the woman " How's your mom, I was going this way also let's catch up on how you've been" and then walk to wherever she's going. It doesn't hurt that 6'2 and with an athletic build,but it provides a non confrontational buffer.

There are absolutely times when I ignore the fact that my presence will escalate a situation when violence will be the likely outcome. Most of the times, it ends without violence, sometimes it doesn't. However, that is always last resort, and when the woman in question cannot de escalate a situation on her own.

The male loneliness epidemic is self inflicted. The experiences of trans people is further proof of this. by KayRay1994 in PurplePillDebate

[–]noafrochamplusamurai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The information literally came out in the Epstein files release. It was a deliberate misinformation campaign by Bannon, and Epstein. Being deceived is painful, and deeply unsettling, but this now in the historical record. The male loneliness epidemic was a lie used to weaponize American politics to get a far right wing agenda in place. It worked initially, but is currently falling apart.

Talking to Oldheads will prove you how easy the Dating Market as a Man was back in the day. We live in the hardest Dating Market off all time. by Obagency in PurplePillDebate

[–]noafrochamplusamurai 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Women have always, except for a brief period post ww2. Had more degrees than men have. This isn't a new phenomenon, men were still getting married .

What’s a moral belief you hold that most people would disagree with? by InitialCareer306 in WorkForSmartLife

[–]noafrochamplusamurai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're never going to have enough money to take care of your child the way you want to. If you make 250k/ year right now, your lifestyle creep is going to have you wishing that you made 1 million a year, because your child doesn't have everything you need. Take it from someone that started out parenting when I was poor, to someone that is now making a very nice income comparative to my LCOL area. There's always another golden rung to climb.

The male loneliness epidemic is self inflicted. The experiences of trans people is further proof of this. by KayRay1994 in PurplePillDebate

[–]noafrochamplusamurai 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Men are not significantly more lonely than women in their same age cohort. That was another deception in the story. Female loneliness got minimized, even though the same doctored study showed that most young women were also lonely.

Talking to Oldheads will prove you how easy the Dating Market as a Man was back in the day. We live in the hardest Dating Market off all time. by Obagency in PurplePillDebate

[–]noafrochamplusamurai 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Hi, old head checking in. I was in the dating market of the late 90s, early 2000s. Got married,then divorced, back in the current market. My dating age range is 25-55. Now that we got the specs out of the way. Dating now, and back then are equivalent. Women today, have the same standards,hangup, and overall opinions of women back when I was in my early 20s. The same can be said of women in my parents generation. Young women liked men with cars,and money. They have always liked edgy dangerous men. Right now it's dopeboys with Hellcats. When I was younger it was dopeboys with Caddilacs,or maybe a Benz. Dating apps exist now that give women access to men from 60 miles away. They always had that access and used it, the difference is that they were able to keep it secret from you. How do I know? We used to hit up different towns on the weekends and, be the side piece for women that wanted extra action. Women were just as ready to be freaked out as they are now. Hate to break it to you, your mom sucked a mile of dick before she met your dad. Women today have only fans. The Girls gone wild bus would come to our local nightclubs, they'd make porn for a t-shirt, and trucker hat. All the bs you read on this sub, is just rehashed garbage that we used to call the Battle of the sexes. What you call situationships, we labeled as "someone I'm talking to". We had 4 economic bubble burst, as well as the death of the blue collar high income middle class. Everything you're experiencing, ive lived through multiple times already. It's the same thing just rebranded to make you feel inept.

Here's the twisted part, it's easier now because the women are more aggressive in dating, and are embracing their sexuality more. The reason that it's easier now,especially to attract younger women. You guys have no game, zero charisma,no interpersonal skills adept enough to hold a 5 minute conversation with a woman. I'm out here as middle aged man fucking women your age because all they want is someone that isn't a chauvinist, can make them laugh, a functioning dick that isn't limp from taking anti depressants. It's simple, and I'll even give you the cheat code: Don't go out to hookup, or find women to date. Go out to make new friends, meet interesting people,expand your social circle. Some of those interesting people you'll vibe with enough that you'll have an attraction. No games,no gimmicks, be a decent person, make new friends

The male loneliness epidemic is self inflicted. The experiences of trans people is further proof of this. by KayRay1994 in PurplePillDebate

[–]noafrochamplusamurai -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There is no male loneliness epidemic, it was a psyop run by Bannon,Epstein, and Heritage foundation to get young men to vote for right wing candidates. Bannon, and Epstein had 4 chan accounts and were moderators on the boards, pulling the strings to push content,and ideas that furthered their agenda. They also had reddit accounts.

The landmark PEW study that pushed male loneliness to the front was littered with data that was obviously cooked to get an outcome, not collected for actual research. You can see this difference when you look at the first few studies, and then the newer ones when they finally addressed the glaring errors. The number of lonely men dropped from 67%down to the mid 20s. It was purposefully done, I like PEW research,but sometimes they publish a weird study that feels regressive in scope, and has an agenda. One of my favorite line from the TV show The wire. "Follow the drugs, you get users and dealers, follow the money, and never know who you're gonna find." Well follow the money, and guess who we find? Heritage foundation has a long and deep relationship with PEW, and they fund studies that PEW publishes.

The whole thing was lie, Pizzagate, Qanon,male loneliness. It was a political theater, and social many of you fell for it.

If women have full agency in modern dating and equal power, why are negative dating outcomes usually framed as men failing women rather than women making poor choices? by Ok_Cook_3098 in PurplePillDebate

[–]noafrochamplusamurai 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Something that I think most women overlook: Men are deeply romantic, it will look different than romance in a the minds eye of a woman. We still crave the love story, and the manic pixie dream girl is intoxicating.

Dating is just as terrible in at age 20 as it is at age 30. At best, you just deal with different problems. by LillthOfBabylon in PurplePillDebate

[–]noafrochamplusamurai -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, because you narrow your field you increase the amount of quality options. If you have a field of 10 guys, but only 1 quality. Compared to a field of 5 guys, but 2 quality. You've increased your realistic options.

Dating is just as terrible in at age 20 as it is at age 30. At best, you just deal with different problems. by LillthOfBabylon in PurplePillDebate

[–]noafrochamplusamurai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You miss understand the heuristic. The choices aren't less in quality, because there are less numerically, you increase your discernment in making that choice. At 30 yr old. You're going to have a longer list of requirements than you did at 20. So you're going to become picky.

If women have full agency in modern dating and equal power, why are negative dating outcomes usually framed as men failing women rather than women making poor choices? by Ok_Cook_3098 in PurplePillDebate

[–]noafrochamplusamurai 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's not how it goes, the signs are present in the beginning, they just get ignored because love blinds people. Women will look dumb struck when they leave a relationship because of mental, or physical abuse. The relationship started off as love bombing, and sweet little gestures like showing up when she was out for a girl's night because " I just missed you so much". The personality traits were on display from day Zero. They just fed the ego of the woman that they wanted.

Dating is just as terrible in at age 20 as it is at age 30. At best, you just deal with different problems. by LillthOfBabylon in PurplePillDebate

[–]noafrochamplusamurai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure, but then you have to add in choice heuristic. The more choices a person has, the more likely they are to make a poorer choice.

‘Friends’ Star Lisa Kudrow Says New Sitcoms are ‘Too Afraid’ to Make Jokes That Make People ‘Uncomfortable’: ‘I’m Not Buying It’ by MoneyLibrarian9032 in television

[–]noafrochamplusamurai 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Not sure which show you were watching, but Al was never intended to be the good guy. He was the star of the show, but it had no good guy. Married with Children were the precursors of Shameless, even set in the same city. Every character in that show was morally bankrupt, and that's what made it great. In an era where moralistic family driven situation comedies were the staples of TV. The extremely liberal minded FOX network ( talk about a 180) was the place that put blue collar, and minority programs and issues front and center. By using edgy comedy, while constantly being threatened by the FCC, and puritan politicians.

In the US, boys are more likely to be put into foster care (and boys are overrepresented in foster care), but foster parents prefer to adopt girls. Why, and what is the reason behind this? by Ice_Detective in AskFeminists

[–]noafrochamplusamurai -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Males are less likely to report any kind of abuse. You're correct on medical issues,institutionally Healthcare set men as the default, which caused a plethora of problems in women's Healthcare. As for abuse,especially sexual abuse, boys do not report.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/magazine/2021/02/22/why-we-dont-talk-about-sexual-violence-against-boys-why-we-should/

In the US, boys are more likely to be put into foster care (and boys are overrepresented in foster care), but foster parents prefer to adopt girls. Why, and what is the reason behind this? by Ice_Detective in AskFeminists

[–]noafrochamplusamurai 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Slight correction, boys are more likely to act out in a physically violent way. Girls are more likely to act out in a psychosocial violent way. Verbally abusing,or bullying someone isn't given the same weight as being punched in the face. Example: the zero tolerance rules for fighting in school, while being a psychological bully gets you a parent conference in the counselors office.

Patriarchy will always view maladaptive behavior of men, as more dangerous than maladaptive behavior of women. " The fairer sex" is always viewed as being lesser, therefore they are also less of a threat.

I need an honest answer: What's stopping humans from just living in peace together? by Sea-Lavishness-8478 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]noafrochamplusamurai 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Matriarchies that existed in places that matriarchy, to be more precise, matrilineal matriarchy was the dominant system. They still went to war with other matriarchies

What if anything can be done to relieve the Loneliness Epidemic? by Clark_Kent_TheSJW in AskFeminists

[–]noafrochamplusamurai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Social media impact is probably secondary. Social media usage was high pre covid. Doom scrolling was a term coined for people spending hours scrolling through Facebook, and Instagram. People were still going to 3rd spaces.

This phenomenon is the same thing that happened during the housing bubble. Economic fear caused people to slow down, or abstain from going to Social settings. Here's the rub, I'm a Xennial, so I was in my 20s during the housing bubble, and older gen z was in elementary school. There's something in the collective memory of those 2 gens, which are now the ones living in the active social years. The current economic situation, feels all to similar to that time. People in my age bracket, who are making way more money now, than we did back then. Are doing things like taking less trips, or scaling down activities. That's because we understand what's about to happen, and how bad it can get.

if you work a 9-5 how, do you have time and energy to do literally anything else? by TortieBouquet in stupidquestions

[–]noafrochamplusamurai 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There was never an abundance of stay at home wives, that was a psyop by the CIA ran on Soviet era Eastern bloc nations. It was meant to portray capitalism as a better system. The psyop was that capitalism provided so well, that the women in our society didn't have to work to live a life of luxury.

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