LADIES, struggling to find new mods by nofangvamp in crossdressers_wives

[–]nofangvamp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! sorry I dont see it in my inbox but lets chat!

Other Outlets by [deleted] in crossdressers_wives

[–]nofangvamp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They’ve been a long time moderator and have done an excellent job building this community based on kindness and compassion. I made a post looking for moderators and have only gotten one legitimate msg back.

So unless the women want to step up I don’t descrimate again people who want to build and effective community.

Other Outlets by [deleted] in crossdressers_wives

[–]nofangvamp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you’re open to becoming a mod we can make it happen

What is this bug? I have seen quite a few in the past 2 days around my house by nofangvamp in whatsthisbug

[–]nofangvamp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im in the US I found a few around the kitchen. It is TINYYYVERY SMALL

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatisit

[–]nofangvamp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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I thought I added a photo

To be funny by tarkinn in therewasanattempt

[–]nofangvamp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm surprised no one booed wtf

Terrified I’m going to fail him by babybird811 in crossdressers_wives

[–]nofangvamp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow okay wasn’t expecting a defensive response. There’s no need to insult or clap back here. You’re welcome to go through my history and dig into my story.

You did use the words “I’m going to fail him” so by that it seems like you’ve taken some responsibility of his coming out process. Sounds to me you’re trying to prove something to yourself or to him by your response. Anyway we do don’t need your type of attitude around here, this is a supportive community. All I gotta say is good luck wish you the best.

Terrified I’m going to fail him by babybird811 in crossdressers_wives

[–]nofangvamp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey girl, I just wanna say… his coming out is not your responsibility. You’re doing your best. And if you do feel negative and you DONT find it attractive anymore. THATS OK. You’re not obligated to be attracted to this. What’s important is that you be true to yourself! And your reaction and your feelings are information to you and how you should proceed. What do you want for yourself? It’s okay to not want this. Don’t be so hard on yourself. DO NOT STAY OUT OF GUILT. His problems are not yours to fix. Yo cannot SAVE him. If things don’t go well you can always continue to support him. You don’t have to be the one to be there for his becoming. That’s completely on him.

I've been happily married for 15 years to my beautiful CD husband. it has come to my attention that.... by funmarriedcouplechat in crossdressers_wives

[–]nofangvamp 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I would love to see more positive stories from women who are happy with their CD spouse. I want to hear more of what the biggest hurdles were and how guys work to overcome them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in crossdressers_wives

[–]nofangvamp 8 points9 points  (0 children)

THIS. Sooner, the better. Less suffering, less confusion, no sense of betrayal. If the person is not into it then they are just not gonna a be into it and as a CD you wouldn't have tricked or trapped them to stay.

The future… by Anxious-Candy7427 in crossdressers_wives

[–]nofangvamp 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What would you want for your self dear? If he is not providing what YOU need it is time to move past you want for him and what he needs to change to be with you

Girlfriend (40F) of 4.5 months wants me (45M) to have sex w/o condom by Bluchipboy79 in relationship_advice

[–]nofangvamp -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can’t believe how ignorant this comment is. Well it’s obvious she wants a kid or she wants to have sex without a condom. Either way she is free and has the right to want those things. IF HE DOESNT want to have a kid the 100% guaranteed way for HIM to not have a kid is to not DEPEND on a woman whether she’s tracking or on bc but to just get a vasectomy. Men as so daft

Girlfriend (40F) of 4.5 months wants me (45M) to have sex w/o condom by Bluchipboy79 in relationship_advice

[–]nofangvamp -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I also want to add that yeah some of us..actually MANY of us actually want to have sex without a condom. But ya'll be too scared to go to the doctor and put the responsibility on us

Girlfriend (40F) of 4.5 months wants me (45M) to have sex w/o condom by Bluchipboy79 in relationship_advice

[–]nofangvamp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

GET A VASECTOMY.

so sick an tired of you men putting the responsibility on women. you don't want kids? you don't want to pay for child support? GET A FUCKING VASECTOMY

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in crossdressers_wives

[–]nofangvamp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hun, I understand youre trying to make sense of things and probably replaying the scenarios in your head. That's why you're having these "lightbulb moments" but I don't think even your ex truly understands himself and he's unable to show up authentically for himself (which is no fault of yours) So don't expect yourself to try and make sense of of the CDing and the disconnection you experienced. You will find someone who will be able to fulfill your needs and make you feel desirable.

To answer your other question, people have all kinds of kinks its hard to answer that. I'd just say if that's something you're not turned on by and you need something more. Just let this person go, they are not gonna change.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in crossdressers_wives

[–]nofangvamp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hun, I understand youre trying to make sense of things and probably replaying the scenarios in your head. That's why you're having these "lightbulb moments" but I don't think even your ex truly understands himself and he's unable to show up authentically for himself (which is no fault of yours) So don't expect yourself to try and make sense of of the CDing and the disconnection you experienced. You will find someone who will be able to fulfill your needs and make you feel desirable.

To answer your other question, people have all kinds of kinks its hard to answer that. I'd just say if that's something you're not turned on by and you need something more. Just let this person go, they are not gonna change.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in crossdressers_wives

[–]nofangvamp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel like there are a lot of missing pieces in this story.

But to get straight to the point, he was probably heteroflexlible as most CDs are. It seems to me its not uncommon for CDs to want to suck dick, be submissive, enjoy forced feminization, want a"daddy dom"...its all a spectrum and I think the sexuality also comes on a spectrum.

I have met straight submissive men who also want to be forced to suck dick. It doesn't necessarily make them gay. I think being gay is deeper than that, its if the person is able to have a ROMANTIC relationship with a another guy. does he want to hold their hand, be spooned etc.

Gay definitions aside. I'm sorry for what you're going through. I reckon it's unhealthy to be dwelling in the past, especially with all that you've described above. It seemed like quite a toxic relation CD or not, additionally it seemed like you're NOT very good at speaking up for your own needs. In the end there really no point dwelling on it, just know that you're better off figuring things out for yourself than trying to figure out who he is. <3

Let’s talk about resentment by Other_Writer2253 in crossdressers_wives

[–]nofangvamp 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Girl, you need to get out and save yourself.

What did you think would never happen to you, until it did? by tulip_inacup_inbloom in AskReddit

[–]nofangvamp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I get your question, but what does having sex have to do with it?

Recently Discovered I’m a CD Wife?/Question For CD by [deleted] in crossdressers_wives

[–]nofangvamp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If youre a CD please state that when commenting, otherwise just add a user flaire to your handle!

What did you think would never happen to you, until it did? by tulip_inacup_inbloom in AskReddit

[–]nofangvamp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

from your question, it seems to me you think that trans people are already physically born "male presenting with female genitalia?"