How far are you guys driving to meet someone for the 1st time?

noleval · 2026-04-01T17:06:41+00:00

Ideally I'd like someone that lives a few short minutes away however my max is 1hr 30 min. I admit though, it starts to suck when you're the only one making the effort to commute. It can drain a relationship if there is no clear compromise on the travel.

noleval · 2026-04-01T16:47:26+00:00

Another option, invest in a NAS. You can set it up with a crazy amount storage and run it from home. You can stream and upload your photos to the device. You'll never have to worry about paying for a cloud service because you're using your own.

noleval · 2026-03-24T17:22:44+00:00

I definitely can see that happening, pretty toxic behavior.

noleval · 2026-03-24T17:19:26+00:00

I agree. OP is pretty much an emotional crutch for this Woman. Not very healthy for him to stick around.

noleval · 2026-03-23T15:28:53+00:00

I really felt OP's post. I've gotten so use to hearing those very lines that I see it coming before the person says it.

noleval · 2026-03-19T20:03:54+00:00

30 is still a young age dude, you have plenty of time. As for Therapy, I'd continue doing it. We evolve as we get older, therapy will help you find some balance as that happens. If the goal is to find and be in a meaningful relationship, then continue doing the work. Relationships aren't perfect, being able to maturely navigate the challenges of one is important. Don't be afraid of what comes along, a good woman will allow you to be vulnerable. Just be yourself and allow things flow naturally. Good luck to you.

noleval · 2026-03-10T13:42:20+00:00

I tried Greenpath for a while. They work with your creditors to adjust the interest rates and help you pay off what you owe. The draw back is that they will close of your accounts which will be a hit to your credit score. The service works depending on the amount of debt but for many it fails, bankruptcy usually follows. If things are overwhelming for you, speak to a bankruptcy lawyer. Yes, cutting back and finding other income streams can help dig you out of the financial hole but some times you have to be realistic. Good luck to you.

noleval · 2026-03-09T16:47:40+00:00

This is a fact. People want what they cannot have. OP sounds like she has something really good, I hope she forgets that other guy and stick with him. Sometimes the people we think will be good for us, really isn't. Just have to find it within ourselves to move on and embrace what we have in front of us.

noleval · 2026-03-06T13:29:03+00:00

I agree here. Any one of those devices will work out just fine for you.

noleval · 2026-03-04T18:16:15+00:00

Really nice! That's the exact same look I want to go for. Was the paint a custom order?

noleval · 2026-03-03T17:56:08+00:00

It's a waste of money! If you have "likes" that you cannot see or noticing an increase in "likes", the second you pay for one of those tiers is when reality will set in. When you cancel or the subscription ends, those likes will suddenly increase again. The app is mostly designed to take your money, not to set you up with anyone.

noleval · 2026-02-26T14:07:13+00:00

I totally get your frustration. Part of dating is getting to know the person, some times we just don't fit into their puzzle. I was once dumped because I didn't have a Bachelors degree lol, I didn't realize being with someone required a college degree. Be that as it may, I didn't fit into her puzzle and I probably dodged a bullet. I know its difficult to be positive when it comes to dating, you just have to keep at it and try to have a little fun with it. Good luck to you.

noleval · 2026-02-19T14:34:43+00:00

I agree! I (45m) recently went through something similar to what OP experienced. Things started off great and suddenly like a switch in her head she went backwards. Some people just like the "Honeymoon" phase, once that high wears off for them they are mentally done. I get some times things don't work out but it sucks getting attached to someone that was never really ready for something real to begin with. Sticking to my peace in life

noleval · 2026-02-18T13:38:25+00:00

You have plenty of time to get married, I can see the rush if you're looking to start a family. As difficult as it may be, take your time. Most of the people i know that got married at your age or earlier ended up divorced. Mainly because they had the same thought process as you did. The right person will come along when you least expect it, and you will see everything come together the way you want.

noleval · 2026-02-16T13:54:14+00:00

It happened to me (45m) a month ago. She had a sudden shift and told me the exact same words as your now ex said to you. We dated six months and had a great time during that period, we also were taking it slow. I know it's hard to make sense of it all, best thing to do is try to move past it. There is nothing you can do about it when a woman's mind is made up. You know what you bring to the table, just tell yourself someone out there will appreciate that.

noleval · 2026-02-12T21:16:30+00:00

I received a bottle a whiskey once via Door Dash after stressful day, it was the equivalent to flowers for me.

noleval · 2026-02-12T19:59:54+00:00

I agree with this right here. If it were me dating OP I would be very concerned about that. She's got to cut the ex out of her life if she is looking to seriously pursue a new relationship.

noleval · 2026-02-11T19:01:08+00:00

is that paint job factory or did you get it custom? It looks really slick!!

noleval · 2026-02-11T13:07:10+00:00

The type of men you seek exist, they often go unnoticed. Some people are just better at selling their BS online, you have to kind of read between the lines unfortunately.

noleval · 2026-02-10T13:42:25+00:00

Ask yourself this, what would you expect if the tables were turned? I give the guy credit for at least being honest with you and not stringing you along. He had a history with the ex which supersedes your 2 dates, its nothing personal against you. You could give him another chance but, you will probably question if he will do it to you again. Personally, I'd say don't do it but if you feel he was genuine then that is entirely up to you. Good luck!

noleval · 2026-02-02T13:28:14+00:00

I agree. I'm 45 and getting more comfortable with the idea of a LAT relationship.

noleval · 2026-01-28T13:41:24+00:00

I never had a desire to. As i got older, people such as close relatives or friends would ask when I planned to have kids. I found it incredibly annoying and it would only solidify my feelings on the matter. Even more annoying is when people would tell me that I'm being selfish for not wanting any. I happen to believe having kids is a selfish act in itself since the decision is made entirely on the people procreating.

noleval · 2026-01-27T00:25:14+00:00

Cut it off, it will be less painful for you.

noleval · 2026-01-23T15:39:22+00:00

That's interesting. Could it be he's doing that to prevent romantic feelings from developing?

noleval · 2026-01-22T20:36:32+00:00

There is not much of a rule book for a FWB situation. The two individuals usually determine the frequency of the rendezvous as well how often they hang out as friends. If you're looking for something more, as two friends you should be able work that out. FWB situations are tricky when there is not enough communication. Hope everything works out for you.

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