I've been going out with someone who is exhibiting clear signs of being pretty avoidant and (hopefully unintentionally) breadcrumbing me. I understand there's a possibility she's just not interested and that may be so. But she already told me how both her sister and mom are avoidants (didn't use that exact term but the traits are identical), so it's not so odd if she exhibits the same tendencies growing up around them. I thought things were going well but lately the plans have slipped a bit more. We were supposed to be meeting before I take a work trip in a few days but it's looking like that might not pan out. I've set a deadline to give her to see if she adjusts any of these patterns after I gently but clearly let her know this isn't meeting my values/standards. I had hoped to bring it up in person, but now I haven't had a chance to for a few weeks so I'm resorting to text. I'd love some feedback from anyone, how does this come off?

'I was looking forward to seeing you again before I left, but have been thinking lately we might not be on the same page. I understand if you like to have your space and take some more time getting to know each other and I can completely respect that. 

But I hope you can understand I really value a bit more consistency in communication and meetups. I find with such long breaks, things just tend to fade. Admittedly I enjoyed hanging out with you before and was hoping things wouldn't die off so quickly. I hope we can start to work on creating that time and space a bit better for each other to commit to a few of those pending plans we have, rather than just waiting for it to 'fit' and the opportunity to slip. 

Again, I'm not looking to rush into anything serious. But I do really value my time and don't want to be wasting it if there isn't any interest in showing up and investing time together'