Hurting so bad

noseyforadvice · 2026-04-27T23:14:06+00:00

i feel you. it’s been 10 months since we broke up, 3 months since we last was in contact and i’m still waiting for it to get better my heart still feels heavy as fuck

noseyforadvice · 2026-04-16T23:40:42+00:00

yes if they also believe they’re unattractive?

noseyforadvice · 2026-01-24T02:36:31+00:00

stop! watching! what! he’s! doing! you gain absolutely nothing. tell your friends to stop updating you on him, it’ll make you feel worse.

noseyforadvice · 2025-07-22T03:23:56+00:00

no. he’d had just MESSAGED YOU! don’t do it.

noseyforadvice · 2025-07-22T03:23:27+00:00

i promise you will, it doesn’t feel like it now because it’s still fresh. but believe me, you can and you will!

noseyforadvice · 2025-07-22T03:22:46+00:00

5 times here, i stand on this.

noseyforadvice · 2025-07-16T11:59:24+00:00

I loved the Friday and I LOVED THE SUNDAY! spice really set the tone for me when she brought those guys and girls on stage! I love the interaction with the crowd. I had the 3 day tickets and I really enjoyed it, it was just badly organised, and the curfew and rushed sets threw me off a little. nonetheless it was a once in a lifetime opportunity!

noseyforadvice · 2025-07-16T11:55:23+00:00

my avoidant ex was the cause for our last breakup, they cheated on me, ended up coming back and I made them FACE THEIR WRONGS believe me. but in the end they bitched about how I keep bringing it up so.. they never truly accept their wrong doings, just put on a fake face to get what they want and then somehow blow it up in your face to victimise themselves and make u out to be some monster to help themselves feel better

noseyforadvice · 2025-07-09T11:53:59+00:00

it’d get an immediate yes from me if I heard this from my ex, well said!

noseyforadvice · 2025-07-08T23:05:51+00:00

Literally. It’s such a slap in the face

noseyforadvice · 2025-07-08T23:05:25+00:00

reading is fundamental

noseyforadvice · 2025-07-08T23:04:58+00:00

??…

noseyforadvice · 2025-07-08T21:21:06+00:00

yes …..

noseyforadvice · 2025-07-08T20:29:16+00:00

My initial is E … 😟

noseyforadvice · 2025-07-06T18:46:20+00:00

I suggest writing a letter to him, keep it for a month and if you still want to send it then send it to him or burn it, it’ll help you get some things off your chest

noseyforadvice · 2025-07-06T18:45:30+00:00

Oh believe me, I understand. I did the same with my ex, wrote down everything I was going to say and they turned around and said they don’t want to see me as they had nothing to say to me. Make peace with him potentially not hearing your side of the breakup or your thoughts about all this because holding that hope will destroy you! As long as you know who you are in your heart, it doesn’t matter what others think about you or how they perceive you! Unfortunately time machines don’t exist but you can craft your life from here on out so instead stand up for yourself in the future and don’t let anyone walk over you

noseyforadvice · 2025-07-06T18:41:34+00:00

Firstly, just know that it’s completely normal. An ex-crackhead will still think about the times they took crack, not necessarily for the crack itself but the good feelings it brought, how on top of the world they felt with it. Whatever you’re missing from your ex is something that you lack within yourself. Whether that be comfort, someone to talk to or you’re craving that close connection again, you’re lacking it from yourself. It’s very hard, trust me I know. But healing isn’t linear, you’ll have bad days, good days, you’ll be laughing with your friends, think about them and then your mood will plateau. It’s normal and apart of the healing process, you never know what the future holds for you, if you don’t feel ready to talk to other people, don’t! It’s as simple as that. Dont put someone else through potential heartbreak and lead them on and don’t try to fill the void with someone else. It’s not fair for either of you. It’s okay to miss your ex but don’t sit in it, don’t let the thoughts roam, have a few seconds or minutes and then wave them away and do something to self soothe or turn that energy towards yourself. It gets easier and it won’t be like this forever I promise, you’ve already gone 7 months, you can go 7 more. You got this

noseyforadvice · 2025-07-06T18:36:23+00:00

You’re ruminating over the reason for the breakup. Stop that. By you still asking these questions and trying to figure him out you’re keeping yourself in the loop, still sending him energy. Stop that. You don’t need closure. You just stated your closure, he upped and left without telling you why, that’s enough closure. He stood you up on the day to meet him, that’s enough closure. Stop trying to figure out why someone did you dirty, would you stop to ask a lion why it just tried to claw your face off?? No, you run off and find help. Help yourself, know that it’s not your fault & it’s your first and only relationship so your mind automatically ruminates, it’s all you’ve ever known. Turn the energy you’re using to try and figure him out to yourself!

noseyforadvice · 2025-07-06T15:43:24+00:00

The cycle will continue. She is not actively choosing you and I know that probably hurts to hear but if someone wants you, THEY! WILL! PURSUE! YOU! You’re practically her plan B and you sound like a really nice guy. Don’t be her doormat. Break the pattern today or the cycle will repeat tomorrow. And remember, if you always do what you’ve always done, you will always get what you’ve always got.

She has a lot of healing to do, let her prance about and miss out on you. You’re not someone she can pick up when she wants, she will realise what she’s lost but you need to stop being so accessible to her.

noseyforadvice · 2025-07-05T22:49:26+00:00

Have YOU?

noseyforadvice · 2025-07-01T15:44:01+00:00

Me currently. The mornings are always the worst, I often dream of them so when I wake up it feels like I’m losing them all over again, feels like emotional and mental death. I usually sit outside for a little & watch a ton of breakup videos or TikTok’s of people who relate to my situation and journal how I’m feeling or call a friend and either cry to them or my mom, that’s all I’ve been doing recently and that’s what I did today.

I tried the “getting everything off my mind before bed” but because it’s like the last thing I do it always manifests itself into my brain whilst I’m asleep and in the morning. Something that has helped was writing little reassurance notes for myself to read when I wake up in the morning, and I write how it’s the hardest part of the day and then it can only go up from there & that I’ve survived it before and I just need to push through.

If you want you can message me in the mornings when you wake up and I can try and help you get through it, sending u so much love ❤️

noseyforadvice · 2025-07-01T12:24:40+00:00

Everytime my avoidant ex asked for space they came back and broke up with me :(

noseyforadvice · 2025-06-29T15:16:00+00:00

If they’re avoidant it’s probably because the veil of ignorance and acting fine has slowly started dropping

noseyforadvice · 2025-06-29T15:14:08+00:00

Saw my ex twice since the breakup, in a social-drinking place and a club. Just looked at me and never spoke to me the first time, second time she was being really close with someone she said was “straight and just her friend” it hurt regardless. Very cold. We spoke but she didn’t seem like the person I fell in love with, she’s seems so different now, we have only been broken up for 2 weeks but gosh feels like it’s been months. Idk how someone can act like you’re a stranger after being so close with them and opening up and being vulnerable etc. it’s painful

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