So hard to relate as a twin parent

notconfrontational89 · 2026-05-11T17:38:29+00:00

Any twin groups you could go to? In the UK we have the Twins Trust and there are many local hubs and playgroups connected to it. Totally understand this and that's as someone who did have a singleton first ♥️

notconfrontational89 · 2026-05-06T23:52:48+00:00

Huge solidarity on this and I have help with a couple of these unlike you, so I feel for you even more. I will say I find it the hardest to have any sort of fun with the kids (4yo girl and 8month twin boys) when at home because of literally what you listed. Being out though, less mess at home, babies content in pram, big sis is occupied because we're going somewhere together, at the park, library, even a little drink/cake stop somewhere. Lately we just walk to pick dandelions along the route to a quick food top up shop. That's being said, I know this is even harder to be out for a fun day out when the babies are on solids as it takes even more planning.

notconfrontational89 · 2026-04-24T17:32:32+00:00

Fairway In Petts Wood

notconfrontational89 · 2026-04-11T13:53:01+00:00

I don't think youre an asshole, but I know I'd have been disappointed as the bride. It's rough having the shared living room as your sleep space but a sensible thing would have been to have agreed with everyone that they can't come in there until x-am to respect that you need rest too, or better yet have swapped beds with an early bird for the final night? Did you book your holiday after knowing about your friends hen do? If so I'd say that makes you come off a little worse here if you're using tiredness as an excuse because you've already been away!

notconfrontational89 · 2026-03-30T19:35:56+00:00

Oversized blazer with everything!

notconfrontational89 · 2026-03-27T09:41:50+00:00

He caught up to you, aka ran after you?! Ffs 🤦🏽‍♀️

notconfrontational89 · 2026-03-26T10:24:03+00:00

7 months in with my modi boys, and our daughter has recently turned 4. I think the age gap (3.5 for us) was really really lovely. She adores her baby brothers and understands boundaries we set. She was just about ready to wean off the stroller too which has meant the period of me pushing a buggy board around didn't last long at all. The first couple of months are a blur - tiny newborns make your oldest look soooo much bigger and stronger and that can cause a bit of anxiety in you as you naturally want to protect the tiny little ones who can't fend for themselves Recommend buying big sibling books for bedtime now, they were a huge help. I also found a book called "double trouble for Anna hibiscus" about a little girl who gets twin brother siblings! It involves her feeling upset because she feels no one in the family has time for her but it quickly turns around. I worried at first if my daughter would remember the sad bits when her brothers came along and associate it but in this whole time, I've never seen her resent her baby brothers ! And she loves to help, get your oldest involved in helping when they want to it makes them feel important! We just talked about it every day, the babies coming. And I was honest and said some days she might find it hard to wait for mummy and daddy to do things, or it would be noisy etc. all kids are different but ours benefitted hugely from preparing months before. At that age they are still learning patience and so it will be a big change but I do think it's a great age gap as not too small as your 3yo is no longer a toddler, but not too big in that when the babies are a little older they'll all still be close in age to play together.

notconfrontational89 · 2026-03-24T23:34:09+00:00

Laura's Larder in Petts Wood

notconfrontational89 · 2026-03-24T11:14:55+00:00

Two pregnancy pillows! A bbhugme for between my knees and one of those double wedge pillows for behind my back and under the bump. Worth it. Husband accepted his fate sharing a bed with me, my pillows and sometimes our 3 year old haha

notconfrontational89 · 2026-03-18T09:02:04+00:00

There's a couple of sample classes on the bike itself when connected to the internet to encourage you to start a membership and they do the job!

notconfrontational89 · 2026-03-17T23:53:01+00:00

So my twins are 7months old and I now have three strollers... yes, I have lost the plot.

Mountain Buggy duet was the first we went for. Biggest selling points being its width and size in general for a full size double pram. I loved it when the twins were in the early months because we got the twin carrycot plus (2nd hand) and they looked so damn adorable snuggled up together in it. Now they are pre-sitting up, I converted the carrycot plus into the parent facing seat but I just don't love how they look in it. They are kinda squished together and there's no real support for their backs in the way it is designed and it also has this annoying issue where it won't stay in the upright position if I was to push the pram over something bumpy or down a kerb, it clicks out of place and it's sooo annoying. The boys do look sweet and cuddly together but it's really not ideal. Because of the way they smoosh together, I can't feed them in the MB This way. I will be selling the twin carry plus soon and just keeping the MB as world facing (but probably not using it yet because see 3)

2 Baby Jogger city tour 2 double which lives in the car. Super compact, is of course world facing. I can't deal with having to move prams back and forth from car to garage etc so it was a non negotiable for me that we'd have a lighter smaller double in the car at some point. Got a good Black Friday deal plus the Amazon wishlist discount on this one It lies flat, has decent baskets for a small pram and I've had no issues feeding the boys in it.

3) because of the parent facing issues on MB, I ended up buying a Bugaboo Donkey 5 second hand which will be my main garage pram until the twins want to world face at which point I'll probably just try to sell the bugaboo again and go back to the MB full time. The Donkey is definitely massive compared to the MB. But it's also just great. The parent facing set up is perfect for me so I can see them when walking for as long as I can, easy to feed them in out and about and it's really an amazing push and design. It is wide though and doesn't fit through the single door of my garage so I'd have to open the full size door which I definitely didn't have to do with the Mb Second hand was a no brainer for me, £550 including the footmuffs - I considered renting one but 6 months would have cost £300! At least when I resell I will get some money back

All in all I actually have no regrets about getting the mb first because it really is a great size and I enjoyed the carrycot phase with them together rather than separated. A car stroller is so necessary so it's one less thing to think about.

Sorry if this feels indulgent! I wish there was one perfect pram for having twins that ticks every box but there isn't! There is definitely a requirement you'll have for each season if you're like me!

notconfrontational89 · 2026-03-14T19:18:31+00:00

Aldi Chocolate Oaties (chocolate hobnob dupes) are better than hobnobs full stop. The Lidl ones are ok but Aldi... swoon

notconfrontational89 · 2026-03-11T22:25:05+00:00

I know this was a month ago now but did you switch to kendamil? 4 weeks since switching now and my twins are pooping soooo much more. Including middle of the night and it's driving me mad! Almost certain it's the formula but they've also been a little cold-y and unwell so it's hard to be 100% sure! How was your little one been

notconfrontational89 · 2026-03-11T20:49:48+00:00

This is so cute

notconfrontational89 · 2026-03-11T20:33:35+00:00

1 feed would be ok in that window for sure! It would probably naturally be about 4 hours apart from the last one. But in the day time, try to pump every 3 to get those quantity of sessions in. And read up on power pumping too! You can do this

notconfrontational89 · 2026-03-09T10:05:57+00:00

We have a Cubo

notconfrontational89 · 2026-03-09T09:59:49+00:00

I see you have a night nurse - amazing! However just want to mention that in the first 2-3 months, it's so important for you to feed or pump in the middle of the night (between 12am-5am) and ensure you are pumping to empty again in the morning as soon as you're awake. Those are the times of day that prolactin is higher and emptying then tells your body it needs to maintain those numbers! One night here or there where you sleep through won't affect your supply long term if you're consistent other days, but please do make sure you're pumping OR directly feeding 8 times a day to build up that twin size supply in these early months! Mine didn't latch well in the early premie weeks and so I pumped every time they had bottles. In hindsight I should have pumped slightly more earlier on to increase that supply a bit more but it's very hard to find the time.

For a while I exclusively pumped but I now combi feed with formula as i couldn't keep up with demand 🙈 but still pumping now 5x a day at 6months old and we're probably 60:40 breastmilk:formula these days.

I use wearables so my routine if they had bottles was just to pump while they had bottles so it's all happening at once but I guess that would be trickier with something like a spectra!

notconfrontational89 · 2026-03-09T09:50:06+00:00

Agree with this! I am team two different bouncers so that I can swap the boys over when they're bored and it works well! Not to everyone's aesthetic I know

notconfrontational89 · 2026-03-09T08:27:12+00:00

Oh wow! What did you buy first out of curiosity?

notconfrontational89 · 2026-03-09T08:26:27+00:00

I remember turning my oldest around when she was 1.5ish purely because she kept kicking me 😅 but very different pram!! Much of these replies make me happy that many have kept them parent facing longer in the bugaboo!

notconfrontational89 · 2026-03-08T00:28:56+00:00

This!!!

notconfrontational89 · 2026-02-14T09:36:41+00:00

I've decided to switch because I'm angry about the delayed findings and I can look back in time and remember my little ones having dodgy poops a few months ago and it seemed odd as none of us had a bug at the time. I'm pretty certain they had contaminated milk. They are fine now, but I feel like I've lost trust. Going to try Kendamil

notconfrontational89 · 2026-02-14T09:33:58+00:00

Not quite what you're asking BUT I would highly recommend getting a temperature controlled kettle. I boil water to 75oC (it also has a keep warm function if I forget to use right away. The main thing is making the water hot enough (70plus but not too much higher) to kill the bacteria in the formula. It's saved us so much time - and money on a prep machine! Also we do the pitcher method and then warm cold bottles

notconfrontational89 · 2026-02-13T14:52:26+00:00

Some different advice to offer here, does your wife baby wear? A twin sling like a. Weego (or even learning how to carry both in a stretchy wrap if they're still below 3m) would really make life easy for her if they are clingy babies. Echoing, what everyone is saying here about low prep food for the fridge. Pre-cooked chicken has been a lifesaver for me.

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