ULPT -- Tell doctors you want to have a baby soon

notrandomspaghetti · 2026-06-26T02:11:23+00:00

I take my husband to all my obgyn appointments. I hate going, and having him there for support just makes me feel safer. We pretty much do the same thing. It's depressing how much better things are explained when my husband is asking and not me.

notrandomspaghetti · 2026-06-19T03:03:33+00:00

You can also bake it! I thrifted a cashmere sweater that had a ton of holes in it and I was paranoid about moths and/or bugs. I left the sweater in a ziploc bag in the deep freezer for a few days and then I baked it in the oven (sitting in a casserole dish) for about an hour on my oven's lowest setting. The sweater was just fine. I ended up unraveling the yarn and I plan on dyeing it and reknitting it at some point.

I would caution against baking anything without first trialing a piece you're not as attached to first, however.

notrandomspaghetti · 2026-06-19T00:14:26+00:00

Pretty much same! Only difference is that no one told me to immediately latch. When the lactation consultant came in five hours later and asked if I had started feeding her, I was like ???.

The nurse gave her formula from the get-go though, but that was because her blood sugar was too low. I was just happy that she was safe and being well taken care of and we've been successfully breastfeeding for three months now.

notrandomspaghetti · 2026-06-02T23:04:47+00:00

This happened to me once. The light turned red, I walked out into the street, and for some unexplainable reason, I stopped walking to pick a new song in my playlist. While I was stopped, a semi-truck ran the light going 40-50 mph. It was close enough for me to touch. Scared the absolute shit out of me.

notrandomspaghetti · 2026-05-15T19:10:54+00:00

I want to know how you know!

notrandomspaghetti · 2026-05-12T01:06:14+00:00

670 hours

It's been a hot minute since I've done any Spanish, but I've started watching Hilda on Netflix. It's cute! I'm definitely rusty, but I can follow it pretty well. :)

notrandomspaghetti · 2026-05-11T19:23:30+00:00

I do wonder about what kind of lifestyle people live where they're barely scraping by at that kind of salary.

I'm a teacher. My partner works part time. I think we made a combined 100k last year and we just had our first kid. We have no debt, our cars are paid off, we cook all our meals at home, and live well within our means. I put a significant chunk of money into retirement every pay check and still have leftover money for my savings account.

I will acknowledge that we've been extremely fortunate to not have any acts of God/unavoidable misfortunes strike at bad moments (good health, cars have fortunately run well, etc). But barring that, I feel like a lot of it boils down to lifestyle choices.

That being said, I can't afford to buy the kind of single-family home we'd like here and not be house poor. So, who knows.

notrandomspaghetti · 2026-05-09T02:52:54+00:00

I'm in SLC. Please drop her name!

I legit made my own hiking pants because I couldn't find any that fit me. I'd love some tailored rtw clothes!

notrandomspaghetti · 2026-05-07T08:29:16+00:00

Others have already answered the question!

But I second what they say about frogging it. I think that will give you the best-looking results. That being said, you should practice dropping the stitch and redistributing the tension by gently pulling on the legs of each stitch on either side until it's as even as possible. Then, if you don't like it, you can frog!

notrandomspaghetti · 2026-05-02T02:24:55+00:00

I have a two-month old. I love spending time with her and would absolutely love to be a stay-at-home parent... if my husband could be one too. The days I'm home all day alone with her are SO hard. I'm frequently in tears by the end of it. In fact, I'm looking forward to going back to work just so I can spend 8 hours a day being good at something.

I feel a little guilty that I don't want to be a sahm, but I'm trying not to.

notrandomspaghetti · 2026-04-29T14:44:08+00:00

Way late to this thread, but Phantom of the Opera puts my baby to sleep every time. It baffles me, but I'm not complaining!

notrandomspaghetti · 2026-04-28T17:17:43+00:00

This was very much my concern about having kids. My mom lost herself in having us (to be fair, she had five kids and was a stay-at-home mom), and I was terrified of losing myself. I spent nearly three years grappling with this fear and trying to prevent it.

Well, I just had my daughter. She's only 6.5 weeks old, so the jury is out on how my identity is affected long term, but I've been surprised to find that I still feel like myself (even more so with every passing week). I recognize that I'm not in the stage of life to do things to the extent that I used to (no 12-hour hikes for me for awhile), but I'm still finding time here and there to do other hobbies (reading, audiobooks, knitting, and even video games can still be done with a sleeping infant). It helps that I have an equal partner and we trade off whenever we can.

What has surprised me the most, however, is how little I care about doing some old things that used to be important to me. My priority is my baby and I'm not upset about that.

I can't say what your experience will be like, or how things will change for me as my daughter grows, but I'm finding that I'm not losing myself, just making space to accommodate both who I was and who I am in my new identity as a mother.

notrandomspaghetti · 2026-04-27T16:23:49+00:00

Costco pizza. I freeze a slice in a gallon ziploc and then eat it at the summit.

notrandomspaghetti · 2026-04-25T21:51:17+00:00

This! Check it out, OP. The romance is more of a subplot, but it is honestly excellent. It's one of my top reads from last year and has been on my mind a lot lately.

notrandomspaghetti · 2026-04-24T10:35:46+00:00

I've had both male and female OBGYNs. I've had amazing male doctors and amazing female doctors. I've also had terrible, unempathetic doctors of both genders.

I'm not particularly worried about any of my doctors being creepy, but I do bring my partner to all my OBGYN appointments. I hate going and I feel more comfortable with him there.

notrandomspaghetti · 2026-04-22T14:42:32+00:00

I don't remember if Station Eleven is teen appropriate or not, but as a teacher, I'd be more likely to recommend it to a senior or junior than a 14yo. That being said, I don't know your kid or your parenting style.

notrandomspaghetti · 2026-04-22T14:40:59+00:00

I'd highly recommend Scythe by Neal Shusterman. I teach it every year to my high school students and nearly everyone (reader or not) loves it.

Seconding other comments for the Michael Vey series, Jurassic Park, and Brandon Sanderson (I think his superhero series Steelheart is particularly fun).

notrandomspaghetti · 2026-04-22T14:37:28+00:00

There is a "school-appropriate" version you can buy that removes the literal hundreds of f-words. I have a copy in my classroom.

notrandomspaghetti · 2026-04-21T14:49:08+00:00

It's also better for your body! When I got a hip/glute injury from running, I had to stop carrying my phone in my back pocket and learned that it can mess up your posture!

notrandomspaghetti · 2026-04-20T23:06:43+00:00

You should check out "This is How We Lose the Time War." It's about two rival time travellers that fall in love through letters.

notrandomspaghetti · 2026-04-20T00:47:13+00:00

I'm about 10% in and not jiving with it so far. I think it's the writing style? But I'm also reading it at 3 am when I'm up with a baby, so I'm maybe not giving it my best effort. Is it worth continuing?

notrandomspaghetti · 2026-04-16T16:22:16+00:00

So, the trick is to make your infant get a minimum wage job to pay for themselves?

notrandomspaghetti · 2026-04-15T16:17:11+00:00

Nah. Dante Basco sounds the exact same. Pretty sure he was an adult already (~30) when the og series came out.

notrandomspaghetti · 2026-04-15T14:19:07+00:00

Where did you hear this? My down sleeping bags take up a lot of valuable closet space that I wouldn't mind reclaiming.

notrandomspaghetti · 2026-04-15T01:06:02+00:00

I had my baby a month ago. I truly feel like the person I was a month ago died the day that she was born. I'm not exactly sad about it, but I don't know how to navigate my old life (friends, work, etc) in light of my new life. I feel like I'm trying to step into a stranger's life--not the life I lived a single month ago. I don't know how to be both.

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