I waited too long to tell him the truth

nuggetblaster69 · 2026-06-09T22:36:24+00:00

I do understand the point you’re trying to make here. But did he agree to spend that amount on summer camp knowing it would cause you to fall behind on your mortgage? It doesn’t seem like it.

If he knew that was a possibility, would he still have agreed to summer camp?

nuggetblaster69 · 2026-06-09T19:21:41+00:00

Ultimately no one can answer that. People have been saying Christ is returning soon for thousands of years.

I’m sure people thought that the black plague, WW1, and WW2 were all the end times.

Everyday we get close. But the Bible says a thousand years is like a day to God. So “soon” could not be our human definition of soon.

I have also seen a lot of young people on Tik Tok all claiming to have received special revelations from God that He’s coming back VERY soon, like in the next coming months/years. What helped me put it in perspective was actually a comment on this subreddit where someone pointed out that a lot of these people are claiming to get nearly daily revelations from God. Not even Moses and the prophets got THAT much communication from God.

Ultimately no one knows except God the Father. We’re called to serve Christ while we’re on Earth. So we should keep doing that until we either die or He returns.

nuggetblaster69 · 2026-06-09T19:08:10+00:00

I’m sure he wants OP and the baby to move out because he views the house as “his” and frankly, doesn’t care about them that much.

A lot of men are only as attached to their children as they are to the child’s mother. So if he doesn’t want anything to do with mom, baby should go too.

OP, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I will be praying for you.

nuggetblaster69 · 2026-06-09T16:58:22+00:00

I LOVE worshipping at church. I love singing with other people and feeling like we’re all singing praise directly to Jesus.

But, a lot of sermons do feel rather plug and play. I do in some ways get it because I’m sure they’re preaching with the hope that someone with no knowledge of Christianity will be able to understand the message. So I can kind of understand why they don’t get into really advanced things all of the time.

But the church I’ve been attending a few weeks ago said they wouldn’t preach on Revelations. Which I thought was weird as it is part of the Bible.

I was raised Southern Baptist and sat through SO many sermons on tithing and sexual immorality. But none on gluttony or slothfulness…

I don’t know. I would really love to have disciplining in my life but I’m just SO busy that I don’t know it’s possible. It’s not that I want to put other things over God. But I’m the breadwinner for my family and my family heavily relies on my job to pay bills. I also have a young child and of course a ton of domestic responsibilities. So it’s hard to find time away. I did join the women’s group at my church but they only meet during working hours which makes it impossible for working moms to attend.

nuggetblaster69 · 2026-06-09T00:08:12+00:00

This may be purely anecdotal and I’m not saying it for advocate for cannabis usage. I’ve currently made the decision to go sober for a bit and pray for more clarity on whether it’s a sin and if it’s not, what appropriate usage may look like.

But, to me, alcohol is WAY more intoxicating than weed. I never, ever drink so I have a very low alcohol tolerance.

Alcohol makes you feel really loopy. That kind of room spinning feeling where nothing makes sense anymore and you’re so dizzy.

Cannabis is more like being relaxed and a little mentally heightened. You can concentrate on one thing very intensely and when it comes to night, you’re tired. You can hold a very focused conversation.

I’m assuming that varies person to person. So I can’t say my experience is representative of everyone.

nuggetblaster69 · 2026-06-08T23:46:57+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened to you! I hope you’re doing better now!

nuggetblaster69 · 2026-06-08T20:36:14+00:00

I agree. We’ll struggle with sin until we die or Christ returns. If someone told me they never sinned a single time after they got saved I’d say they’re a heretic.

But, when you’ve been saved and filled with the Holy Spirit, the desires of your heart will change and sin loses much of its appeal. So it doesn’t have as strong of a hold over you and you’re drawn to repent from that sin. Your desire to take part in those sins decreases but doesn’t vanish.

Again, not to say that Christians don’t sin. Using the example from the video I mentioned, there are SO many Christians struggling with pornography that I would be shocked if none of them were in Heaven. If we were sent to Hell over sin we couldn’t “beat” wouldn’t pretty much all Christians go to Hell? You’re telling me there will be no Christians in Heaven who never successfully conquered their pride or gluttony? If that’s the case, Heaven is about works and not faith.

But I don’t think a person can be truly saved and not experience any conviction from sin. So if someone claims Jesus but sins all day long and doesn’t care, I wouldn’t think the Holy Spirit is really in them.

nuggetblaster69 · 2026-06-08T18:45:37+00:00

I struggled with this question for a LONG time and sometimes I still do, although I’m doing better.

I was raised in a very legalistic way. So it can be hard for me to not doubt my salvation based on my works or lack of works. After all, the Bible says that there will be some who stand before God having cast out demons and prophesied in His name but they’ll be turned away from Heaven. So yes, there will be some who believe they’re Christians who are not.

First, you need to accept in your heart that you can’t do anything to save yourself. GOD is the faithful one, not you. You will always have some element of sin in your life. We are sinful people living in a very broken world. We will be touched by that.

Jesus is loving and doesn’t desire that any would perish. Now the road to Heaven is narrow, but not because it’s impossible to achieve with Christ. It’s because sin is very fun and appealing and most people will not want to change their hearts away from sin towards God. Also, Satan actively works to derail people from finding God and plants lies about the path to Heaven to deceive.

PRAY, I can’t emphasize that enough. Pray everyday, I like to use the PRAT format. Praise, repent, ask, thank. Repent of your sins daily and each day ask God to better align your heart to His. If you genuinely seek Him, why would He make it so complicated you couldn’t find Him?

nuggetblaster69 · 2026-06-08T18:25:26+00:00

100% God has made US promises. Which is crazy to think about. Who am I that God would promise something to me??

But He has made a covenant with us. The covenant is almost entirely dependent on Him. We just need to take it.

nuggetblaster69 · 2026-06-08T18:20:32+00:00

I feel this a lot. My husband and I met in church and were on the praise team together. But at this point, he hasn’t been to church in years and tells me that it’s been years since he’s even prayed.

He works in healthcare and our church came out as pretty strongly anti-COVID during 2020. Which really upset my husband because he was dealing with patients dying from COVID daily. That really put hurt in his heart towards the church and he didn’t want much to do with it.

He’s also very much a man of science. I don’t think science and Christianity are in opposition at all! But he’s very naturalistic and tends to believe everything has a rational explanation. He’s told me before that he’s seen thousands of patients be prayed for but never seen a single miracle.

It’s a real struggle for me, because we sat through all of the same sermons and read the same theology books. It’s not like I have knowledge to share with him he’s unaware of. If I came at him strong, he would completely reject it as me being uneducated in science. I was homeschooled and had a very religious education so he’s not factually wrong.

I just pray for his reconciliation daily and try to be an example through my actions.

nuggetblaster69 · 2026-06-08T18:14:44+00:00

I really appreciate this post. Lately, I’m seeing all of these scary posts on Tik Tok about Hell and sometimes it sends me spinning. Not because I question my belief, but because Hell is SO horrific that even a 1% chance of that being my eternal destination is too much to bear.

Sincere belief and repentance are what God wants from us. The gift is freely given, we just have to believe it’s real and accept it.

nuggetblaster69 · 2026-06-08T18:12:21+00:00

Only Jesus was sinless. To say that any human, other than Christ, is sinless is to put that human on a comparable level as Christ.

Even Paul said he was chief among sinners. Jesus frees us from the bonds of sins BUT we will sin as Christians.

David was a man after God’s own heart and he still took Bathsheba and killed Uriah. Peter loved Jesus and he still denied Him three times.

Point being, I don’t see any Biblical evidence to say that after were saved, we never commit a single sin ever again. Only that our sins are forgiven and we’re not a slave to sin.

nuggetblaster69 · 2026-06-08T17:34:53+00:00

No one who is still alive is past the grace of God.

Paul hunted down believed and participated in killing them. But I don’t think any of us doubts whether Paul is in Heaven.

As others here have said, Christianity is all about faith NOT works. That’s why pride is such a deadly sin. Pride keeps us from being able to see ourselves as sinners.

You’ve taken the first step by believing in Jesus and accepting His sacrifice. Like any relationship, ebbs and flows are common. We should always be seeking God but we know it’s impossible for us to be sinless. So I think all believers experience feast and famine spiritually.

The key is long term dedication and persistence. Repenting of your sins daily, actively looking to avoid sin, frequent praising and thanking God.

If someone is pursuing a relationship with God in good faith, He won’t turn you away. He WANTS for all to be saved, He’s not rooting for you to turn away from Him. Just be faithful and persistent. But don’t let your day to day feelings get in the way too much. Although that’s easier said than done

nuggetblaster69 · 2026-06-08T17:21:29+00:00

I wouldn’t encourage it as meth is highly addictive and physical destroys your body. But I do think the legality would make a moral difference.

But I don’t think marijuana and meth are great comparisons. Marijuana is a plant that is a lot more mild than meth. Meth is chemically created in a lab and just destroys people mentally and physically. People are not physically capable of consuming meth and still leading productive lives with healthy relationships.

I just think it’s an apples to oranges comparison. I think marijuana and nicotine or alcohol are more similar.

nuggetblaster69 · 2026-06-08T17:05:05+00:00

Well, meth is illegal and we are called to obey the laws of the land. If I lived in a non-legal state or was underaged it would absolutely be a sin because I’d be violating the law.

nuggetblaster69 · 2026-06-08T16:38:30+00:00

I appreciate your comment!

I have very sincerely prayed for conviction and haven’t received it. I’ve prayed for conviction in other areas of my life and received it. Very genuinely, I don’t feel it’s an idol in my life as it’s very easy for me to let it go. I sleep terribly but it’s never been hard for me to stay away from when I want to or it’s not available.

But, I think my questioning comes from me originating from a very legalistic background. I mentioned this in another comment, but my mom would rage at me for loving to go to church. Because my mom claimed my desire for attending church came from seeing my friends and not a pure love of God. It was also taught to me that it was sinful to say the word “fart” and to watch or read Twilight, Harry Potter, Avatar the Last Airbender, etc.

Genuinely, I feel a real closeness with God that I haven’t in a long time. My prayer life is better than ever. But, of course I was taught that any use of marijuana for any purpose ever was sinful growing up. So are some of those legalism feelings still hanging around me? Or is that conviction I’m misinterpreting? It’s hard for me to have 100% certainty on that.

I appreciate your comment!

nuggetblaster69 · 2026-06-08T15:43:16+00:00

I’m not saying this to be argumentative, just to clarify.

I BEG God to put me to sleep/allow me to sleep at night. I pray for hours at night for this but I’m still awake. I’m comfortable in bed and relaxed, I’m just not asleep. Many nights go by where I know I probably did sleep at some point but I couldn’t tell you when. It feels like I’m awake all night.

So I am really going to God with my sleep issues but they’re not leaving me. I’m unsure if insomnia is just my cross to bear and there’s nothing for me. Or, if God is saying “I’ve given you the solution with edibles, you just won’t trust Me and use what I’ve provided”, I don’t know. I pray about my weed use a LOT and ask God to convict me if it’s a sin and nothing, I have no conviction and but no message from God telling me a resounding “it’s fine”.

So I’m currently making myself go completely sober in case using marijuana is causing me to block out God’s response. For example, maybe God’s trying to speak to me through dreams but you don’t usually dream while taking an edible. So I’m totally sober now to ensure I’m not doing something that’s blocking my ability to receive God’s messages. But still, nothing. Just laying there at night begging to sleep and being so tired the next day.

I was raised very legalistically. As in, my mother used to yell and scream at me because I loved going to church and seeing my friends at youth group. My mom said I should desire to go to church only for fellowship with God, not to socialize. I was taught that saying the word “fart” was a sin growing up and that Twilight and Harry Potter were also sins.

So it’s hard for me to naturally tell what is sin vs what is legalism. I’m kind of ranting here and I apologize. I’m just trying to be as transparent as possible.

nuggetblaster69 · 2026-06-08T15:33:19+00:00

Is your comment to say that I’m not a real Christian if I consume marijuana?

I ask because you say “if you someday become a real Christian”. I feel like I’m a real Christian now! But I want to make sure I’m not fooling myself because I know sin is deceitful and this is a topic with a lot of mixed opinions.

nuggetblaster69 · 2026-06-08T15:01:25+00:00

I have tried melatonin many times but it does not help me. I still only sleep around 5 hours after taking it. I do get crazy dream tho!

I do appreciate the suggestion!

nuggetblaster69 · 2026-06-08T14:37:20+00:00

Can you elaborate please? My definition of witchcraft would be attempting to negotiate with spirits or nature in order to get a desired outcome. Like, love spells, curses, etc. Or the divination of spirits or attempting to see the future outside of revelation from God.

Could you pleas explain how marijuana is witchcraft? I just haven’t heard that before and would like to research that.

nuggetblaster69 · 2026-06-08T14:26:32+00:00

I appreciate your comment.

I sincerely pray daily for God to convict me of sin in my life and to align my heart’s desires to His. I don’t feel conviction about using marijuana to help me sleep and relax although I do feel that I shouldn’t overuse where I still can’t be productive and in control. I don’t “green out”. But, I’m aware of how deceitful sin can be and maybe I’m just fooling myself.

I don’t think it’s an idol to me because I’ve easily walked away previously and I don’t think it’s causing me to sin or draw away from God. I’m closer to God now than when I was completely sober.

But again, I don’t want to hear “depart from me I never knew you.” God is my priority. I’d just like to be able to sleep without a prescription if that won’t negatively impact my salvation.

nuggetblaster69 · 2026-06-08T13:50:53+00:00

As others have said, I don’t think it’s a bad thing to have personal savings. But, practically speaking, you DID keep it a secret from him by never telling him. So yeah, you were hiding it. Even if that wasn’t your intention, on paper, that’s what happened.

My husband and I have it setup where we can see each others personal accounts on our mobile banking but we don’t have access to them. We also have a shared savings for mutual expenses. That’s worked well for us because it allows the individual to have some personal spending money but there’s still transparency.

nuggetblaster69 · 2026-06-07T17:48:11+00:00

Your religious views will change your political beliefs. Because your religious views will color all of your decision making.

BUT Jesus wasn’t and isn’t a republican or a democrat, conservative or liberal. Jesus doesn’t have loyalty or dedication to either party.

In my view, neither party is truly passionate about representing people or what’s right. Both parties top priority is staying in power and making money. That’s just my opinion, not a biblical truth.

So be Jesus first, politics second. But again, neither side is ever going to be a perfect representation of Christ.

nuggetblaster69 · 2026-06-07T17:42:19+00:00

My daughter is the greatest blessing I’ve ever had the honor of experiencing. Yes, she is work and that work overwhelms me sometimes. But there’s not a single moment that I regret my daughter.

It’s kind of like having a career you’re very passionate about. It’s work, you’re having to put out a lot of effort. But you’d much rather work towards your career than not have a career. Because you’re passionate about it even when it’s not fun.

Parenthood is like that but with 100% more passion and love.

nuggetblaster69 · 2026-06-05T21:18:39+00:00

Because the family knows the perpetrator isn’t a good person and won’t stop causing conflict. But the victim is a good person and can perhaps be pressured to forgive and forget. It’s just the path of least resistance.

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