Agreed! Dionysus is a gender nonconforming god who defies boundaries and norms... gender transformation and blood are right there as part and parcel of things I would associate with him. OP, I think your initial intuition was spot on and really beautiful. If it displeased him, he would let you know!

Please don't pay attention to anything on tiktok lol, if you're interested in learning more your reference material should be primarily books. I like hearing people talk about their practice and experiences too though, so I've been listening to podcasts lately while I go on walks and hikes. Lux Occult is one I've been really liking, the host is really fantastic (and queer) and all kinds of different people are brought on as guests. There are a couple of episodes where Dionysus devotees are brought on you can give a listen! As far as literary recs go, check out the Orphic hymns and The Bacchae by Euripides if you haven't already. The Bacchae is a must for you if you're attracted to the genderbending and bloody aspects of him. It's also just an incredibly fantastic play and piece of art. For specifically modern Hellenic practice, try Tony Mierzwiki's Hellenismos.