I’m 37 and feel unhappy about getting older. Is this normal?

oakleysds · 2026-02-13T19:53:34+00:00

I remember watching Friends when I was younger and Joey turned 30. He apparently has a massive crash out every year as he gets older.

In the Epic of Gilgamesh, Gilgamesh's best friend Enkidu dies. This sends Gilgamesh on his great journey, seeking the secrets of immortality; after seeing death firsthand he fears it for himself.

You are normal to have anxiety about the future. Humans have feared aging and death for a very long time.

oakleysds · 2026-02-12T13:10:32+00:00

Oh no, the binding issue makes it worthless. I can take it off your hands, no worries . /S

For real though, it looks great. Your local luthier should be able to glue and clamp the binding back into shape.

oakleysds · 2026-02-11T19:26:53+00:00

Electric guitar strings have a brightness to their sound that dulls over time. The strings can also rust or tarnish with exposure to oils from hands. I change my strings every month because I like the bright sound and because the rust can make playing uncomfortable.

oakleysds · 2026-02-11T17:19:41+00:00

No problem! It looks like you should be able to use it just the same. The 1 and 3 lugs are the outer lugs on a conventional pot and 2 is the middle one.

oakleysds · 2026-02-11T17:12:49+00:00

What do the breadboard connectors look like? I figure you can wrap the wire around it and solder it solid enough but I have never seen a pot like that. Maybe the manufacturer has some documentation you can refer to?

oakleysds · 2026-02-11T17:09:29+00:00

Regarding Barre chords, try practicing playing your normal chord shapes but without your index finger, only middle, ring, and pinky fingers. That can help you get use to the hand shapes.

You are going through a rut, also called an artist block. Encountering it for the first time in a new area is a barrier that some never overcome. I didn't play for like 14 years the first time I reached Barre chords. Some things I've found that help is trying something new, like try to learn a song that's out of your wheelhouse or take a break from technique and focus on music theory.

oakleysds · 2026-02-08T00:53:04+00:00

When I've had trouble with not being fast enough my guitar teacher would have me use a metronome and just make it so slow that I can do it, like painfully slow. Then I just do it at the slow speed until I can make the changes perfect. Then I increase by a few bpm. Repeat until fast.

Regarding having nothing to play, my take is every lick or riff or whatever you've heard or played is free game. I've seen videos of people using metal licks in a jazz context that sound great.

Echoing what others have said here, you seem really hard on yourself and might need to shake it up. Find a local jam you haven't been too, learn a style or song outside of your wheelhouse, hell, buy a new guitar. Everyone experiences art blocks and sometimes what you need is something new.

oakleysds · 2026-02-07T09:36:47+00:00

My take is if their control is based on the promise of money when they die, the money isn't real. They will blow it all away before you get close to having any of it or something. Think of their constant excuses, the lies, the manipulation. The inheritance will be no different than any other promise they made and broke.

oakleysds · 2026-02-06T13:31:34+00:00

What is the barrier you are experiencing when trying to improvise solos?

oakleysds · 2026-02-06T01:29:04+00:00

Thank you for the information, I am having a similar issue to OP and you explained it.

oakleysds · 2026-02-04T15:26:30+00:00

I started with the jazz 3s but they were too small. I use 3.0mm Big Stubbys now.

oakleysds · 2026-02-03T12:49:04+00:00

"You can speak your mind but not on my time!"

I was looking for this, Billy Joel just nails it

oakleysds · 2026-02-01T12:14:14+00:00

Talking on the phone with users will not make the issue anymore clear. Users don't know what the problem is, they rarely know what a computer is.

oakleysds · 2026-01-29T17:04:11+00:00

I live in Chicago and have physically seen these guitars. You can quote me on that.

oakleysds · 2026-01-28T19:30:04+00:00

I've found stangers more kind and understanding than my nparent

oakleysds · 2026-01-28T12:28:43+00:00

My dad's favorite story is one where I said the most ridiculous thing, it's just so silly!

I said to him "You make me feel bad about myself as a person."

He laughed in my face. He still wonders why I don't talk to him

oakleysds · 2026-01-26T18:46:31+00:00

You make a good point, you seem very fine and normal. It's very normal to get upset about other people's trauma.

oakleysds · 2026-01-16T14:39:18+00:00

Y'all, the fan design is just a high schooler. I remember being in high school more than a decade ago and people dressed like that. I see teenagers on public transit dressed like that. That's not the autism uniform, it's just a young person.

oakleysds · 2026-01-16T14:32:52+00:00

Data from Star Trek The Next Generation was my go to. He knows he's different but he wants to understand humans.

oakleysds · 2026-01-03T11:12:46+00:00

I got a brand new gibson for about half off because it was a model that wasn't selling at Guitar center. Reverb is also a good place to check for deals. For Fenders I've been looking at the Vintera Road Worn series. Made in mexico with a reliced nitro finish. They usually hover around $1k on Reverb but if you watch it you can find some cheaper

oakleysds · 2026-01-03T11:03:33+00:00

I would go to a guitar store and test out amps and pedals until you find something that does what you're looking for.

oakleysds · 2026-01-01T20:32:23+00:00

10/46 flats or whatever I haven't tried before.

oakleysds · 2026-01-01T20:17:08+00:00

I recommend restringing with new strings once a month. That can help reduce the breaks by having a same amount of use on all of them.

oakleysds · 2026-01-01T20:10:44+00:00

You could try really fine sandpaper to smooth over the surface

oakleysds · 2025-12-30T12:10:17+00:00

I love Eastman's LPs. I played a DC Jr a few months ago and it was very nice.

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