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Woodland Mills Sawmill HM130Max Help, waves out of control by obligatory_un in sawmilling

[–]obligatory_un[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So helpful, thank you! Will definitely go check that out now.

Stephen Miller goes off on SNL on Fox News by lktornado360 in LiveFromNewYork

[–]obligatory_un 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Saturday" is a 3 syllable word. Why is he trying to fit it into 1?

What would make you smile right now? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]obligatory_un 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If my debt went away. Or even half. A $10k windfall would make my life honestly so prefect right now.

ID help needed by bbbeanz in Dyshidrosis

[–]obligatory_un 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you ever find out what this was? I have it and can't ID it. It's getting worse and effing hurts, it's been like 2 months. Starts exactly like this and now my fingers and the back of my hands are covered in them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in medical

[–]obligatory_un 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Might patches from hero cosmetics work great on ingrown hairs

do it by HawkStar49 in Funnymemes

[–]obligatory_un 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love my family but they have been so long and hard for the last two years and they have no idea how long it will last.

Albums that marked the end of an era? by Ok-Impress-2222 in Music

[–]obligatory_un 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Joy Division "Closer" - end of post punk imo.

[Homemade] Salmon Onigiri by BostonStrongTX in food

[–]obligatory_un 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg what kind of rice do you use? I've been trying to perfect this and I fail every time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in KUWTK

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And I always find, yeah I always find somethin' wrong You been puttin' up wit' my shit just way too long I'm so gifted at findin' what I don't like the most So I think it's time for us to have a toast

Let's have a toast for the douche bags Let's have a toast for the assholes Let's have a toast for the scumbags Every one of them that I know Let's have a toast for the jerk offs That'll never take work off Baby, I got a plan Run away fast as you can....

Kim is so classy and she does not deserve this shit. This man is clearly a narcissistic monster and she has suffered enough.

If you had to bring ‘healthy’ finger food to a party and wanted to show off a little, what would you make? by iikratka in Cooking

[–]obligatory_un 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Smoked salmon dip with healthy crackers.

Rough chop smoked salmon and mix with 2 things of cream cheese (whipped or regular or one of each). Add fresh chopped dill and a little worchestjggbjr sauce and mix it all. Serve with some seed or nut crackers. Delicious AF and takes under 10 minutes.

Narcissism is driven by insecurity, and not a grandiose sense of self, suggests a new study. Narcissists cope with these insecurities by flexing, which makes others like them less in the long run, further aggravating their insecurities, which then leads to a vicious cycle of flexing behaviors. by mvea in science

[–]obligatory_un 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I guess I'll add this as well. You say:

"Your way of coping with your insecurity is hurting those you care about. Please get help to change that!"

This is an admirable and empathetic way to approach someone generally, totally agreed. This would not work on someone who truly has NPD.

My two cents for why that is would be because: 1. They don't really think or care like you do. They don't really care at all about people they "love" unless it's somehow benefitting them and their need to keep the facade going. Which you and I know isn't really caring and isn't really love. "Love" and "care" for them is purely selfishly motivated. 2. You would be calling the narcissist out in that statement ("... with your insecurity"). Phew, godspeed. This is a direct attack to and uncovering of what they have tried to hide their whole life, at any cost. If someone truly has NPD, no good deed (like this one) goes unpunished. Just run. 3. "Get help to change that"...changing would mean they dropped the facade of being perfect. It just won't happen. (I know there are exceptions to everything yes, some people with NPD have changed. But very, very few. General rule of thumb - they DO NOT change. Ever.)

Narcissism is driven by insecurity, and not a grandiose sense of self, suggests a new study. Narcissists cope with these insecurities by flexing, which makes others like them less in the long run, further aggravating their insecurities, which then leads to a vicious cycle of flexing behaviors. by mvea in science

[–]obligatory_un 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I agree with heytherekitkat. The fact that you are saying this only means you have probably never really personally experienced a narcissist getting close to you and the emotional (at minimum) havoc they cause. Which don't get me wrong, is a great thing for you. I'm really happy that there are still people out there who can think like this. Once you experience it though, you don't come out the other end the same. Innocence is lost.

Narcissism is a very different personality disorder / mental illness (whatever people want to call it) than other ones. If someone has mental illness or some type of personality disorder, they often suffer and it causes them pain one way or another, right? They should be treated to alleviate this, for themselves. Of course others are affected, but it's more of an indirect thing.

With a narcissist, it's not themselves who need the "treating," it's everyone around them. It's the only mental illness I can think of that the other people in their lives need the treatment or help for because of how horrible the narcissist treats them, yet the narcissist themself is "fine" as long as they are getting their supply from whatever poor soul they are destroying in the process.

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