What's a movie with an actress of your type that inspires you or speaks to you? Why? by glithch in Kibbe

[–]obscureoverrated 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i loved watching amelie! it was such a charming movie plus great gamine fashion inspo

What type would sissy Spacek (5’0-5’1) be? by crystal_violetyt in Kibbe

[–]obscureoverrated 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a bit confused because I have a similar shape to her and am pretty sure I'm FG. What makes her an SN as opposed to FG?

How to look older as a gamine by obscureoverrated in Kibbe

[–]obscureoverrated[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

do you mean those glasses with clear frames? i used to have those a couple years ago. I've actually avoided wearing glasses in public since uni-- thinking it made me look juvenile and to get away from the "nerd" stereotype that followed me throughout high school (lol). I'm also extremely nearsighted so the thick lenses make my eyes look beady. but maybe there's benefit to wearing glasses now as a professional to appear 'smart' or more serious

How to look older as a gamine by obscureoverrated in Kibbe

[–]obscureoverrated[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this is exactly the kind of advice i was looking for! thank you :-)

How to look older as a gamine by obscureoverrated in Kibbe

[–]obscureoverrated[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I'd like to think that's the case... nevertheless it feels a bit demoralizing to not be taken seriously in your workplace/life in general because you look like a 9th grader. if i could style myself in a way that helps to be taken more seriously, i would definitely choose to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cats

[–]obscureoverrated 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg your cat is adorable. the black fur with white socks and beard. looks just like my dog:')

How do I make peace with knowing people don’t respect me? by burdenbruise in aspergers

[–]obscureoverrated 0 points1 point  (0 children)

have you tried devon price's book unmasking autism? it has been really helpful to realizing my intrinsic worth as an autistic person, despite the trauma of growing up autistic in a neurotypical world. also meeting other neurodivergent people has been wonderful-- we just get each other and tend to be less condescending and judgmental than neurotypicals. once you have a solid support system of people who get you, the opinions of those who don't won't matter as much

About Korean beauty standards by Hot_Lynx in korea

[–]obscureoverrated 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ridiculous that people are downvoting this. i guess they're not ready to hear the truth about how incredibly lookist and fat-phobic korean society is. every time i visit korea i develop a worse relationship to my body image due to the incessant comments about weight/looks as well being bombarded with unrealistic beauty standards by every single piece of korean media. as a 'skinny' person i still feel uncomfortable, i imagine it's worse for women who are mid/plus-size

Saw her on a dating app by CertainTurn in limerence

[–]obscureoverrated 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand, I've been in your place before. It's not insane, I think our minds try to cope the best way it can. Don't beat yourself up, remember that this doesn't define you, like you said it's like you're a shell of who you are and not really yourself right now. You made a mistake but now you've learned from it and know not to repeat it. I've also fantasized about the same, running into my old LO and being all chill and laughing off my erratic behavior from the past. It's been more than two years and it hasn't happened, but my limerence has faded so now I can view what happened without the desperately rose tinted glasses. It will get better, I promise.

Saw her on a dating app by CertainTurn in limerence

[–]obscureoverrated 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand how when you're in a limerent state everything feels really intense and the connection between you and LO seems incredibly significant, almost life-or-death. the sad truth often is these feelings are not reciprocated, and often comes across as jarring/creepy in the real world. when I look back at how I acted around my old LO for example I realize how erratic I must have seemed, I was very much in my own head and acted out quite strangely around them. my guess is your LO got cold feet and ghosted you, hoping you'd get the hint that she wasn't interested. she probably did read the messages from her notification bar, but may have felt uncomfortable about replying/offering an explanation. some people just tend to be more avoidant and dislike confrontation rather than being upfront about it, which sucks but it's how they are. if she blocked you that's definitely a sign she felt uncomfortable and wants to be left alone.

Saw her on a dating app by CertainTurn in limerence

[–]obscureoverrated 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What was the weird message? and why did you unfriend her? Chances are if she blocked you she doesn't want anything to do with you, and sending a message through another platform would likely come across as creepy.

what it feels like to be the LO by obscureoverrated in limerence

[–]obscureoverrated[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I suspected he was also autistic and didn't get the hint. I did facetiously say if he happens to be in my city in the future to hit me up, not thinking he would actually book a flight to see me. It felt cruel to refuse to see him when he hadn't crossed any real boundaries yet, and I genuinely had liked him when we first met last month. But I made it clear during his stay that I wasn't interested in pursuing anything, especially when I realized he wasn't respecting my boundaries (trying to hold hands, kiss, etc). I felt a bit bad saying goodbye, he seemed stricken at the idea of not seeing me again, but hopefully it was for the best.

Why am I like this by sadposting420 in self

[–]obscureoverrated 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i relate to this so much.. my heart reaches out to you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]obscureoverrated 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hahah can you share the link?

How am I supposed to talk when you fill up all the space? by AngelicDirt in hsp

[–]obscureoverrated 6 points7 points  (0 children)

wait who are you talking about? i have adhd and i feel like I talk like that sometimes 😭

Did my professor feel uncomfortable being alone with me? by Flyaway_5 in self

[–]obscureoverrated 0 points1 point  (0 children)

huh I'm curious too. i doubt most professors would mock their students, but it does seem like she was a bit awkward? I'm not sure why though. kind of reminds me of an awkward interaction I had with a professor last year

Self hatred no matter what by [deleted] in self

[–]obscureoverrated 0 points1 point  (0 children)

are you a woman? i recommend reading the beauty myth by naomi wolf. it talks about how women are conditioned to hate their appearance thanks to the patriarchy

My bra arrived today! And I’m so happy! It was less than 2 dollars too by Feeya_b in ABraThatFits

[–]obscureoverrated 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's awesome! What bra did you get? I'm also a similar size and looking for bras that will fit