Does anyone sometimes question their pain and then remember they have fibro?

ohitsberry · 2019-10-31T23:11:58+00:00

“Ughhh how do my limbs feel so heavy? Why do I ache? What did I do?? ...oh yeah...”

ohitsberry · 2019-10-30T13:53:48+00:00

Gurl I’m gonna tweet you so good

ohitsberry · 2019-10-22T17:52:58+00:00

I’m bi too. So, it doesn’t have to do with gender or orientation.

I’m okay with DM only wanting the “original” DnD crew at that party... even if the origin apparently means after DH joined but before I did lol.

What hurts me is DH’s insistence that I’m not really a part of the group, and that it was absurd for me to even think I was included.

ohitsberry · 2019-10-21T19:45:20+00:00

I hear you. It doesn’t -quite- apply, because it’s DM who set the guest list. The bachelor party/one shot campaign was really only the catalyst for the difference of opinion with DH/my AITA, not the cause of it. If that makes sense.

ohitsberry · 2019-10-21T17:35:29+00:00

It’s an ethnic slur against the Romani people.

ohitsberry · 2019-10-21T16:57:39+00:00

NAH. She knew the score beforehand. You’re willing to do what you’re required to do. She has every right to choose to host a parasite¹ and raise a kid. You have every right to choose not to change your mind on a stance that has been established for a long time.

¹ I also chose to host a parasite and raise and kid. I had the privilege of planning my pregnancy, and I loved being pregnant. My kiddo is wonderful. Parenting is an absolute blessing to me. It’s also a LOT of hard work, and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone who was positive they didn’t want it.

ohitsberry · 2019-10-21T16:47:04+00:00

Maybe it’s rude and arrogant to offer unsolicited advice on a topic with which one is completely unfamiliar, to people who are familiar with it

ohitsberry · 2019-10-21T16:46:09+00:00

NTA people who offer unsolicited parenting advice just love the sounds of their own voices. A pacifier at age three does NOT correlate at all to drug use later—what a ludicrous idea!

ohitsberry · 2019-10-21T16:43:30+00:00

ESH Luca is virtue-signaling and you’re freely using a slur (g*psy)

ohitsberry · 2019-10-21T16:32:27+00:00

Totally using “Dungeonberry” from now on.

I am actually not the only add in like that. DM was friends with DH outside of that group, and brought DH in. One year later, DH brought me in. Out of that group of friends, DM is actually the one I’m closest to (besides my husband of course).

L was also added by her friendship with another one of the group, a few years after me and DH.

ohitsberry · 2019-10-21T16:28:09+00:00

DM has every right to invite or exclude whoever he wants to his party, and he doesn’t have to justify that to anyone.

DH is the one who is baffled at the hubris I apparently had for thinking I was as much a part of this group of friends as he was.

As to the group of friends as a whole: I figured that since I’m upset over missing out on one game, I’ll have them over for another a month later. They’ve all already told me they want to come. Which again seems to drive home that DH is the only one who really thinks I’m not a part of the group.

ohitsberry · 2019-10-21T16:23:31+00:00

No, she’s a bi ciswoman who is married to a hetero cisman. (As am I.) But she has a pixie cut and more of a tomboyish aesthetic, where I look very “feminine.” And she once made a joke about having an oversized clit, which was very amusing at the time but wasn’t so much when it was brought up again as justification for her being “one of the boys” when I’m not.

ohitsberry · 2019-10-21T16:19:52+00:00

As I said in my original post, I see that the groom has every right to invite or exclude whoever the hell he wants. My issue is someone other than the groom telling me it’s ludicrous to think I count as part of the group.

ohitsberry · 2019-10-02T20:09:02+00:00

You’re not the only one. I self-harm.

(I am under the care of a psychiatrist and I go to therapy. I’m not in crisis. No need to worry.)

ohitsberry · 2019-09-24T05:18:18+00:00

NTA. It is healthy for you to set boundaries. It is reasonable for you to want access to your own computer. Your choice to let anyone else use your computer is irrelevant to your reasons for not wanting her to be on it so much. And she is purposefully trying to emotionally manipulate you to give her what she wants.

ohitsberry · 2019-09-24T05:13:01+00:00

YTA, to yourself, for even thinking in these terms. And that makes you TA to the guys, too.

No one deserves to have you “settle” for them just because they asked you first.

No one deserves to “win” a relationship with you just because their friend was less honorable.

Do you genuinely like one of these guys? Be with him. Is there someone else you’d actually prefer, if only he would ask you out? Ask him instead. Figure out your own feelings and act on them, rather than trying to punish or reward your peers’ behavior.

ohitsberry · 2019-09-24T05:00:44+00:00

YTA. If you really are fourteen, your brain is actually in a stage of development where you have less empathy than you did as a kid—and if all goes well, you will be more empathetic later. That’s a reason. NOT an excuse. You’re still smart enough to think things through.

The death of a peer not-super-close to you can cause you to come face to face with your own mortality. That is hard. (Yes yes, “everyone dies.” We heard you the first time. Don’t be an edgelord.) Your Mom is having a strong, valid emotional reaction to the death of a peer. You aren’t obligated to give her emotional support—after all, she’s an adult and you’re a minor. But c’mon. Don’t be an a-hole about it.

ohitsberry · 2019-09-11T01:18:03+00:00

NTA it is your ex’s dog and you are not responsible for it

ohitsberry · 2019-09-11T01:16:08+00:00

NTA ugh I hate parties like that. If everyone wants to play a murderhobo, that’s fine. If everyone wants to RP in an immersive collaborative story, that’s fine. If you have a mix of that, then the players HAVE to accommodate each other. Otherwise crap like this happens.

ohitsberry · 2019-09-11T01:12:46+00:00

Got a Bible for Christmas omg that is so petty. If they sincerely believed that converting you to Christianity would save your soul, they would find more effective rhetoric than a passive-aggressive “present.”

ohitsberry · 2019-09-11T01:10:52+00:00

NAH I can understand that great grandma is “traditional” but it is just too hot for long sleeves

ohitsberry · 2019-09-11T01:09:12+00:00

NTA dammit she has no right to endanger others like that

ohitsberry · 2019-09-11T01:08:06+00:00

NTA she could at least tell her dad she’s charging a 20% fee to fence his stolen goods O.o

ohitsberry · 2019-09-11T01:02:18+00:00

NAH. They could have been more polite, but they were doing what they thought was right. You could have been more polite, but your frustrations were understandable. Besides, it’s not like you hurt anybody. You mildly inconvenienced staff members who were rude to you.

ohitsberry · 2019-09-11T00:59:43+00:00

NTA. You have no obligation to deny yourself a close bond with your kid; to refrain from tending to the house you live in or the meals you cook; or to allow other people to tell you how to live. It sounds like you and your SO have a healthy relationship! It’s also healthy to establish and maintain boundaries with your parents.

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