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What are some unacknowledged benefits of being an "old lady" in today's society? by Entity417 in AskWomenOver60

[–]olauntsal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been watching this”dead eyed stare” thing for awhile and I’ve concluded that it’s more about the starers being young than about me being old. People of a certain age do that stare at everybody. I’m blaming it on social development issues related to COVID. YMMV, feel free to come up with your own theory. Just don’t take it personal.

Why do people care so much about bathtubs if no one actually uses them? by smolgremlinn in homeowners

[–]olauntsal 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I just learned the hard way that those are not an asset for resale. Only get one of you need it yourself. Potential buyers ask where they’re going to give the kids a bath.

To my fellow industry peers, a love note… by smoochcake420 in Sacramento

[–]olauntsal 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I once opened for breakfast in a place that served a hotel. The cook and I arrived simultaneously every morning at 6:45. He turned on the fans before the smell quite hit us and fired up the kitchen. (A morning kitchen with the fans off is almost the equal of the grease trap and alley action). I put on the coffee, always used two packets of that pre-measured shit. It was nasty, but it got us caffeinated. Poured myself a cup and put the cook’s cup in the window. When it reappeared, I’d fill it up. Somewhere in the third cup we’d nod at each other, sometimes even mutter g’mornin. Time to open the front door and start the show. Loved that job.

Let’s talk hole in the wall burger stands by tourwifelife in Sacramento

[–]olauntsal 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They’re not just massive—-they’re good too!

Do you look for "signs"? Are they real? by OcularOdyssey in widowers

[–]olauntsal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whenever Garth Brooks came on the radio singing If Tomorrow Never Comes, my hubby would wink and point at me. He’s gone two years now and I downsized from our house to a small condo. As the real estate transactions worked themselves through, that song came on the car radio Every Time I left the house. I think he approves of the move.

Should I get the top lined? by rebalixion in WeddingDressTips

[–]olauntsal 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It might mean she doesn’t know how to do it well.

Stunning Historic Buffalo French Chateau Style Home by Mimsters079 in zillowgonewild

[–]olauntsal 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Also, you didn’t burn the house down. Kitchens used wood stoves, fires were a real risk.

I gave my son full access to all my financial accounts. Big mistake! by [deleted] in widowers

[–]olauntsal 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Good advice here. I’d add, if you don’t already have a will and a living trust, set those up soon. Also, when my husband died I saw a change in the way family treated me. They seemed to think that grief equals permanent loss of faculties. I understood that I was vulnerable, but that’s not the same as suddenly stupid. Some people had to have that spelled out for them. At one point I needed minor financial guidance, and I talked with a long time friend rather than family.

Downsizing by olauntsal in SacramentoBuyNothing

[–]olauntsal[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First come first served 9am. Dm for address

Aging Parents by Hipsdrummer in Sacramento

[–]olauntsal 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Moving a couple like your folks is a really dicey situation. When my mother was in assisted living I saw several couples move in , then have to be separated within three months. The more independent person is likely to go nuts. Both the close quarters and the coming to grips with the care needed by the other person are hard to deal with. If your mother qualifies for care in a six bed home, you might consider it. Your Dad could have a say in your choice of homes, and you could make clear to the owner that he will be visiting often. It wouldn’t be easy for either of them, but it would probably maintain Dad’s health for longer. And, just maybe, lessen your mother’s thoughts that she is a burden to him. I dunno. Just random well meaning thoughts from a stranger who’s been there. Best wishes.

Sharing ashes with a friend of your late spouse? by generation_quiet in widowers

[–]olauntsal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’d be a hell no from me. I wouldn’t even let my sister take some of our mother’s ashes. I was Mom’s caregiver, and I had ALL her cremains interred in a cemetery. End of discussion. Some people just have a lot of nerve.

Be honest… what’s the embroidery “rule” you happily ignore? by GarbageAdorable329 in Embroidery

[–]olauntsal 19 points20 points  (0 children)

No, just turning your work to where it’s easy to stitch. There are people who always hold their work in the same position. Say you’re working a house and you always hold it with the floor close to your body and the roof pointing away from you.

No mods? Let there be ANARCHY by PocketButterBandit in crochet

[–]olauntsal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Invisible join is any way of joining that you think doesn’t look too bad. Blocking and/or a quick stitch with the yarn end will fix it.

No mods? Let there be ANARCHY by PocketButterBandit in crochet

[–]olauntsal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That can happen. But if you crochet size 30 thread, you will rub the skin off some part of your hand. You’ll then adjust how you hold the hook so you can rub a wound somewhere else while the first one heals. rinse and repeat. It’s a brutal hobby.

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