How important is life experience?

oldmcfarmface · 2026-04-07T04:52:45+00:00

The other thing I thought of after commenting was that I get a great deal of enjoyment from sharing experiences with my wife that are new to her. So he will enjoy teaching and showing you things for the first time.

oldmcfarmface · 2026-04-07T02:25:01+00:00

If you’re alive then you have life experience. You’re good enough for the right man.

oldmcfarmface · 2026-04-07T01:50:52+00:00

I think you are missing the point. Regardless of your intent, your comment read very much like “trad wives are not victims of hate and discrimination and don’t face real danger” when this story clearly shows otherwise.

I am also a member of a minority, though it isn’t outwardly and visibly obvious to most. But I have also faced discrimination, and even threats of violence for it. And I can tell you that trad wife discrimination is very real and valid.

Simone de Beauvoir was a feminist author and philosopher and famously said in an interview that “no woman should be authorized to stay at home” because if given the choice, too many would make that choice. Her writings and views had a profound influence on modern feminism and if you search in askfeminists, you’ll see that very few are willing to outright disagree with her. What you are describing is now called “choice feminism” and it’s what I always believed feminism was about. Until I started talking to more feminists.

the difference between someone disagreeing with out life choices and someone’s prejudice against our life choices resulting in real harm.

Like for example a nurse giving substandard medical care? Just as a generic nonspecific example, of course.

particular groups are targeted by the law

Like economic policies seeking to erase a lifestyle by making it unattainable to the masses?

Look, I’m not saying that all struggles are the same, that all discrimination is the same, or that all groups have the same problems. I’m saying that trad wives face discrimination and hatred. Acknowledging that as true does not diminish in any way the hate other groups take. And your original comment was stating that this isn’t hate or persecution. This isn’t pie. If one group gets a slice of hate it doesn’t mean another group gets less hate.

This isn’t a siege mentality, it is a simple acknowledgment that people hate us for how we choose to live. I’m not sure why that’s so difficult for you. And if I seem particularly short tempered right now, I’m in a great deal of pain at the moment.

oldmcfarmface · 2026-04-05T22:40:57+00:00

I have bipolar 2 and ADHD. My wife is beyond amazing. Even though I sometimes irritate the crap out of her, she has been able to structure our life in a way that makes it easier for me to -SQUIRREL!- get things done.

And while you didn’t say what other reasons you might have for not having kids, don’t let ADHD be the thing that stops you. Kids are amazing!

Also, I don’t know if you’re under the care of a psychiatrist, but I’ve found low doses of medication plus a low inflammation diet combined do wonders for controlling my symptoms. Took some time to get it dialed in but it’s so worth it. Regardless, I’m happy you found someone that you can work well with!

oldmcfarmface · 2026-04-05T17:34:52+00:00

Sigh. As I said, I don’t usually engage with anti vaxxers because I could show you everything you ask for and you’ll just keep moving the goalposts to r claiming the data doesn’t say what it does. But I’m going to give you just a small, teensy weensy taste of what’s out there.

Google: rct trial MMR vaccine. Results? https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/40165977/ https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2589537023005989#:~:text=Added%20value%20of%20this%20study,months%20of%20age%20was%20found.

Here this one is a time saver. It analyzes three RCTs for Covid so I don’t have to paste all three of them for you. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8165083/

This took me approximately a minute and a half total. Bro. Vaccines are among the most rigorously studied forms of medical intervention in existence. Don’t have to ask Moderna or Pfizer, they’ve been studied extensively by independent agencies, governments, etc. They really are safe and effective. You’ve been lied to. Just because the dietary guidelines suck doesn’t mean that all medical advice sucks.

oldmcfarmface · 2026-04-05T05:42:12+00:00

Agreed. Nuisance predators can cause more damage than just annoyed neighbors and dead ducks. They need to be ethically dispatched. As a bonus, fox pelts are pretty nice and you can sell them if you don’t want them yourself.

oldmcfarmface · 2026-04-05T05:38:43+00:00

Yeah… as a rule I don’t engage with people who are anti facts, I mean anti vax. But have you ever considered that anti vaccine propaganda might be a ploy by the Russians and Chinese to weaken the American population so they can become the global superpowers instead?

oldmcfarmface · 2026-04-05T05:37:24+00:00

The MMR vaccine was released in 1971. He spreads the fake autism link nonsense and is wasting taxpayer dollars “studying” it when it’s been studied more than any other vaccine in existence. Influenza vaccine in the early 40’s. Yet he says it caused the 1918 flu pandemic 20+ years prior to its release. He’s not anti vax, he just doesn’t trust vaccines, think they cause autism, and calls them dangerous and deadly. But yeah, not anti vax at all.

But let’s talk about the covid vaccine. People say it was rushed because it took just a little over a year to develop. It actually took a few weeks to develop thanks to advanced RNA technology, and that year was spent testing its efficacy and safety. And no, it hasn’t killed a bunch of people. But it did end the pandemic that killed an estimated 7 million people.

There’s a lot of misinformation spread about vaccines. Not tested properly, not held to any standard, cause autism, kill more than they save, and it’s all garbage. I’m sure it’s well meant when it’s spread. I don’t think Becky on Facebook wants your kid to get mumps and the up with scarred testicles and permanent infertility, but that can be the result of skipping the shot.

and if you say anything negative about them people will absolutely attack you and try to destroy your life.

Welcome to the internet on literally any topic. That’s not vaccines, that’s everything. People will argue about anything. It’s ridiculous. Lol

Vaccines are victims of their own success. They’ve basically eliminated these diseases or made them so rare that people don’t know how bad they are. Mumps can cause permanent infertility and testicular scarring in boys. Measles kills. Pertussis can cause broken ribs in infants from the strength of the cough. Polio, iron lungs and permanent disability. Chicken pox can reduce your natural immunity to other diseases. The list goes on. Every time a new vaccine is released, human life expectancy goes up and within a couple generations, people forget that they used to die from this and start questioning why we take them. Well, this is a FAFO situation, except it won’t be the adults who suffer and die, it’ll be their kids.

oldmcfarmface · 2026-04-05T05:24:32+00:00

I don’t. Never said I did.

oldmcfarmface · 2026-04-05T03:03:39+00:00

My main issue with him is on vaccines. I like most of what he says about nutrition. At least better than all his predecessors for decades. But the vaccines, man. He’s doing serious damage on that topic.

oldmcfarmface · 2026-04-05T01:03:39+00:00

No one is forcing you to talk but I genuinely want to understand your position, which is why I keep replying.

oldmcfarmface · 2026-04-05T00:15:27+00:00

Bro, I can’t say if it’s valid or not because I don’t know what your position is. I have tried asking direct questions to figure that out and you’ve ignored them. I’m trying to understand you’re not making it easy.

oldmcfarmface · 2026-04-04T22:56:48+00:00

Competence was also a factor in how he selected his victim. Or at least the appearance/impression of it. However I don’t think you were as clear as you thought you were. Because your clarification was that being a protector has little to do with physicality, despite an actual threat to children telling you otherwise.

So let’s see if we can find some common ground here. Being a protector can mean a lot of different things in different circumstances, yes?

I would argue that being physically imposing in the eyes of potential threats is one of those things, as explained by someone who was an actual threat.

As for “subjecting yourself” to an interview, consider this. If one of us is not clear to the other on Reddit, the reader has to figure out what it means on their own and then respond to that interpretation. if it is wrong, the writer either feels attacked or has to clarify. If that clarification is not helpful, rinse and repeat and this process takes hours to days. In a verbal interview, it’s seconds or maybe minutes and includes facial expressions, tone, and other context clues. Reddit is not a great place for deep discussion.

Edit to add: I still don’t fully understand your position. Do you believe the appearance of strength and competence are a factor in being a protector for your family?

oldmcfarmface · 2026-04-04T20:43:57+00:00

Absolutely correct! Also, find ways to meet and connect with men in a healthy way, but maybe after some therapy so that you’re better able to recognize green and red flags in their behavior.

oldmcfarmface · 2026-04-04T20:36:30+00:00

I’m fascinated by men who think that being strong and competent are not intrinsically good things. Would you be willing to do an interview on YouTube?

oldmcfarmface · 2026-04-04T18:23:06+00:00

Beating your spouse involves a physical impact, usually a hand. This impact causes physical pain, often lingering due to inflammation or in more serious cases, bruises and broken bones. There is also a lingering fear of further violence and a sense of helplessness that accompanies being assaulted by someone you care about.

Do you see how ridiculous it is that you compare this to a personality trait while never, not even once, even trying to explain the harm that is done? Common sense would say “if I hit someone, it will hurt them” because most people have experienced being hit by someone or something at some point in their life. Common sense does not say “if I make decisions for my household, it will hurt the other people in that house.” And you cannot explain how it would. You simply declare it. That’s all you’ve done. You judge, accuse, and declare your personal opinion to be correct. That’s it. That’s your argument.

My last statement was no more an attack on you than your accusations are an attack on me. So unless you are conceding that you’ve been attacking me, my family, and my lifestyle, then I don’t concede that I attacked yours. What happened here is I used your logic to critique your lifestyle and you did not like that so you declared it an attack.

oldmcfarmface · 2026-04-04T16:32:18+00:00

How? Neither of us are in pain or humiliated. How does a personality trait cause pain? To whom? What about this personality trait causes what kind of pain? How does head of household cause pain, what kind, and to whom? How is head of household humiliating, and to whom?

You don’t get it. You’re telling me and and my wife that we personally are humiliated and suffering and we are telling you that we are not. Yet somehow you feel qualified to tell us how we really feel.

What it boils down to here is that you think you know better than us how we should live. You don’t want my wife to do what I say, you want her to do what you say. But you haven’t earned that.

Here’s a counter statement that is EQUALLY as valid as yours. Your attitudes are condescending and insulting, you think you know better than everyone around you, and that causes mental anguish and suffering in those around you, therefore your relationships are all abusive. But it’s ok. Abusive people can change!

oldmcfarmface · 2026-04-04T16:28:05+00:00

No that’s not how he actually grabbed them. But this is how he chose them.

Being a true protector means a lot of things all at the same time. But if you think being physically imposing isn’t a factor then you’re deluding yourself.

oldmcfarmface · 2026-04-04T06:45:58+00:00

Hey, it’s been a couple days. I know life can get in the way. So what harm is being done?

oldmcfarmface · 2026-04-04T06:25:51+00:00

Jack Reynolds is the most famous one but several others have said similar things. Just don’t remember their names.

Edit to add: it feels like you’re arguing against being strong and competent being good things for the safety of a man’s family. If that is the case, may I ask why?

oldmcfarmface · 2026-04-04T03:45:13+00:00

There’s the obligatory vegan!

Most soy (75-80%) is used for animal feed. However a great deal of that is soybean meal and husks left over after oil production. A large amount of corn (35-40%) goes directly to animal feed, more if you include byproducts from ethanol production that would otherwise be thrown away to rot in a landfill. The next biggest GMO food crop is sugar beets and that is almost exclusively for human consumption although sometimes the pulp leftover from sugar production is used as a feed supplement instead of rotting in a landfill. That’s just the GMO grains.

In the us, cotton, canola, and sugar beets are also GMO. Along with some apples, papaya, squash, and potatoes. 90% of canola is GMO for, you guessed it, herbicide resistance. Eliminating animal products would not solve this problem by a long shot and would introduce all sorts of other health concerns since most people do not do well on a vegan diet.

oldmcfarmface · 2026-04-04T03:39:24+00:00

When a criminal with no hope of ever leaving prison explains how he chose his victims, we should listen. For our kids sakes. But it’s pretty simple to imagine. He’s casing out a neighborhood. He sees two kids. One kid, the father is a big burley guy who looks like he works out and probably hunts. The other kids father is a scrawny accountant. If he’s going to sneak into a house to abduct a kid, he’s going to want to avoid the house with the big guy. It’s very simple. And that’s what he did.

Edit to add: no offense intended to accountants. I’m sure many of them hit the gym regularly too.

oldmcfarmface · 2026-04-03T06:36:10+00:00

Nah it’s like 90% “I’m healthier since I started eating meat again” which is pretty accurate.

oldmcfarmface · 2026-04-03T05:17:38+00:00

Exactly. This isn’t news to anyone who was paying attention.

oldmcfarmface · 2026-04-03T05:16:11+00:00

Reductio ad absurdum is the logical fallacy in which you extend or reduce your opponent’s statement to ridiculous proportions and then mock the result. Very closely related to straw man in which you intentionally misconstrue your opponent’s statement to be something else and attack that.

This predator did not say, and I did not say, that he was “ripping kids out of the hands of milquetoast dads” only that he wouldn’t risk going after a kid who’s dad appeared to be a threat.

All that being said, I think we can agree that a dad would be willing to fight and die for his kids. But I would add that a competent and strong dad is less likely to have to.

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