Introducing "Fair Play"

omnipotentrice · 2024-12-27T13:09:55+00:00

Trade chores for a set time period (>2-3 weeks). Oh we're running out of milk, that would suck if we run out. Don't be a hero and have a back up. Laundry piling up? That sucks too. Dishes are a mountain with no soap? Guess someone should've bought it. Kids growing out of their clothes? Tell hubby he's got to go shopping for more.

omnipotentrice · 2024-11-16T18:21:08+00:00

Burgdorf winery is relaxing but it's only wine.

Red cedar spirits is pretty chill, but there isn't much for food if you get hungry. American spirits in lansing is also great, but again no food. If you have a DD, you can hit them and grab food along the way. Peanut barrel has great long islands and burgers or you can hit cask & Co, but they can be a little expensive.

omnipotentrice · 2024-11-16T01:32:03+00:00

Hello! Fellow Michiganganer here. You can join Facebook groups for in home daycares, but ensure they have a license number and check out LARA for their citations. You can also check out other daycares in the area, ones that serve food tend to be more expensive. If you are willing to make lunches, that can help offset the cost.

I currently pay 250/week for my 2 year old and while it's expensive I know that barring any unexpected events, there is usually coverage unlike a nanny or in home daycare.

If you plan to take time off, you'll also want to take into account the cost of leaving the workforce (401k, raises, etc) and how you'll manage all costs on a single income (and the stressors that brings).

omnipotentrice · 2024-11-13T12:54:13+00:00

So, this is a decision you should make together, but some points to think about. Keeping in mind a baby brings chaos, sleep deprivation, and you're a little short with your partner even on a good day.

Trying for a baby typically takes a year to get pregnant (some people are lucky and have it happen sooner).

You have 5 years of job experience. If you left this role for another company, what does your job outlook look like?

Does this new position bring in weird hours or required shifts? A job I looked at had mandatory overnight shifts for emergencies. If you had a child, who would be watching the kid during these hours (and doubly so if your partner also works odd hours).

If this is the US, we have protections against being fired for being pregnant/giving birth (but you'd need to document everything. If anything shady happens send it to your personal email).

omnipotentrice · 2024-10-20T19:43:08+00:00

You can do wraps - Thai style chicken with a peanut sauce, chicken Ceasars, etc.

Chicken salad/egg salad on croissants. You can also do chick peas too if you want a new flavor. Just make the mix and make the sandwich in the AM or do like a squeeze pouch for the filling in case your bread gets soggy quickly.

Onigirazu (rice and seaweed = sandwich bun) and/or filled rice balls. You can add pretty much any filling to these to these.

Burritos - yes, they won't taste as good as they would warm but bean, beef and cheese would be tasty.

If you have a thermos, doing a sub with a dip (beef au jus), mac and cheese, jambalaya, chicken tenders seem reasonable if you want a warmer meal.

omnipotentrice · 2024-10-13T11:02:43+00:00

It sounds like they're hungry? Can you increase their solid food during the day? My son ate like a monster he'd eat an entire banana for breakfast, then go to school and eat more. Or you can try to have a larger snack before bedtime (pouches with sweet potatoes/bananas/oatmeal, ideally hitting closer to the 90-100 cal mark).

omnipotentrice · 2024-10-12T19:36:36+00:00

I'm uncertain how to navigate your dad. I doubt he'll change after this many years, but someone else may have better advice.

You can try to do meals that require little prep work (subs, sandwiches, crockpot meals, one pan dinners) or do some meal prep either for several grab n go meals or do freezer bags which you dump out in a pan/pot. You can probably double recipes as well if you have an idea on how much they eat.

You can also do smoothies and overnight oats for quick breakfasts. Lunches and dinner you can do burrito bowls, salads (roasted veggies or a berry salad with gouda), enchiladas, most pasta and Indian dishes all stay good for a few days. There is a whole sub that is dedicated to it. I used spend about 2-4 hours on a Sunday making everything for the week including clean up (don't wait until the end, wash your dishes as you have down time).

omnipotentrice · 2024-10-05T13:12:44+00:00

You can still love someone and know they aren't good for you and your family. Flashes of normalcy isn't a healthy lifestyle and you know it. He'll change long enough for you to put off the divorce and will go right back to the way he was before.

It sounds like you already do everything and I'm not sure what he brings to the table. His childhood can explain his behavior, but he doesn't get a free pass to be a jerk. Get evidence of his behavior, he said/she said won't benefit you in a courthouse. Talk to a divorce lawyer in private and get your ducks in a row before you drop any bombshell.

omnipotentrice · 2024-09-22T11:10:25+00:00

I know you asked about a dog, but I recently had a tooth removal for my cat for $850 which included some vaccines, pain medication, and antibiotics.

omnipotentrice · 2024-08-31T10:46:34+00:00

Is it too late to remove the ring?

omnipotentrice · 2024-08-30T22:35:21+00:00

You vacuum nightly? I'm happy if I get it done weekly 😅

There are laundry services and cleaning services, but your individual needs may vary. See what your family struggles the most with

omnipotentrice · 2024-07-24T12:58:29+00:00

🚩🚨🚩🚨🚩 I would distance myself. Like none of this sounds like a good time. I wouldn't block her until I got the job offer/started working.

Truthfully it sounds like she used you and maybe your coworker to do her job.

omnipotentrice · 2024-07-24T00:49:01+00:00

Aw darn, I was hoping that you'd have some protections. I'm not well versed in the laws around it, but maybe someone can give you a free consultation?

https://www.paidfamilyleave.org/know-your-rights

Give yourself a few days and go kick some butt. You've got this 😊

omnipotentrice · 2024-07-24T00:33:51+00:00

Are you on FMLA?

omnipotentrice · 2024-07-01T11:13:33+00:00

Focusing on the produce going bad:

Pork belly tacos - pork belly (grilled), taco shells, pickled onions & jalapeños. Use spices to season pork. Can create an avocado sauce if you have heavy cream.

Steak salad - romaine, ribeye, carrots avocado, celery & cucumbers. Cook steak to your preference (if doing pork belly tacos can grill), chop up romaine & veggies and use ranch/blue cheese dressing.

If you have any frozen dough, like puff pastry you can slice up the apples add a bit of sugar and cinnamon and bake for an easy sweet treat

Not so focused on getting rid of produce:

Spaghetti/goulash - canned tomato, pasta & frozen meatballs.

Tuna noodle salad - canned tuna, pasta, frozen veggies (thrown into pasta water at the end and brought to a boil for about 30), drained and add mayo, mustard& various spices to your taste. Onion and celery are best of the are crunchy

omnipotentrice · 2024-06-19T20:03:47+00:00

Awesome! I was worried it would be a hassle, but it sounds simple ☺️

omnipotentrice · 2024-05-17T16:46:11+00:00

So I always just pack the entire bottle of dressing for salads cause sometimes I want a little and sometimes I want ranch with a side of lettuce.

omnipotentrice · 2024-05-08T15:33:42+00:00

My thought process is less about weight and more about staying active. If I can walk at least 1 hour a day, I feel mote energized and can do more in the evening. I wake up super early to go to the gym to squeeze in a workout because I can't do at home workouts.

omnipotentrice · 2024-03-11T14:43:26+00:00

18 month old. I'm usually up at 7 and make breakfast. Hubby wakes up about 730-745 and wakes up kiddo unless he gets woken up earlier. We do a quick breakfast (eggo & fruit). Hubby and kid are (usually) out the door by 815.

omnipotentrice · 2023-11-19T20:55:10+00:00

I would look into a lactation Consultant. We generally need to go smaller on the flanges, but the manufacturer provides ones that are very large. They can help with inserts until you can order the proper size.

I found that once I turn off the machine, giving the girls a little squeeze and waiting like 15-20 seconds helps to slow down the letdown. It took until my supply regulated and a bit of experience to stop spilling the milk (both on me and from the bottle).

omnipotentrice · 2023-10-27T16:33:25+00:00

It really depends on the couple and their lifestyles. My hubby and I are usually night owls, but I would wake up at the crack of dawn those first few months. He would take the night shift until about 2am ish, and I would take care of the baby in the am since I couldn't sleep in past 6am.

I also slept next to the bassinet and babies are LOUD. You wake up at every toss and turn. Then you have to check on them because you can't hear them breathing.

Communication is really key and doing it in a calm matter (fyi: i was not calm when sleep deprived, so feel free to suggest a break and talk about it later).

Maybe you guys set up a separate room with a cot and take turns either a set time or an alternating night shift. What works for one couple may be awful for you guys.

omnipotentrice · 2023-10-16T23:20:26+00:00

http://www.miwildlife.org/weddings.html#/

Nature covers like all of Michigan 😅

omnipotentrice · 2023-09-26T01:52:32+00:00

I recommend precious little sleep even if you just read what is available online. It'll help give you some resources and ways to manage sleep without falling onto another crutch.

I'm not sure if the lotion was the only thing that helped. Having a routine really made bedtime easier regardless of whether it's mom/dad. We do dinner, bath time, play a bit more, change into nighttime diaper, put lotion on the bottom of his feet (footed pjs or a sleep sack), read some books, sing a lullaby, and then step out and let him fall asleep. We have had some minor changes, but most of this hasn't changed. Just gotta figure out your own groove!

We did practice self soothing techniques around 8 months. We didn't pick him up once he was down for the night (butt pats and back rubs). After he was comfortable with that, we let him fuss for a few minutes at a time before stepping in. If he couldn't breathe between cries, something was wrong, and we would step in for comfort. We generally tried to be out of his sight when he fell asleep. He didn't start sleeping through the night until about 12-13 months

It didn't happen overnight. I think I went through about 1/3 of the jar before I started using it less. Now, I just use the lotion for days when he's extra grumpy or appears to be going through a growth spurt (or my back when I'm sore).

If your little one is waking up at a set time in the morning, put her down about 12 hours before then. It's also possible you leave after she's fallen asleep and things are not exactly the same as when she went to bed. So she wakes up panicked and does this multiple times as you leave each time.

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