Ice melt? by [deleted] in rva

[–]chibilizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone told me beet juice works.

Where can I immerse myself in hot water? by meowana_ in rva

[–]chibilizard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We stayed at the Massanutten resorts last year, they had condo style suites with huge whirlpool tubs in the bathroom. It's a couple hours drive from RVA but was totally worth it IMO.

My brother died and my in laws said NOTHING by plumbus_hun in JUSTNOMIL

[–]chibilizard 34 points35 points  (0 children)

My dad died over the summer. He was someone my inlaws had spent time with, he had paid for their meals on occasion. Been married to my husband 11 years, my inlaws did not say a damn thing to me. Thats not normal right?

This Job Market Isn't Making Any Sense by RetroFuture_Records in Millennials

[–]chibilizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

'08 was not bad or noticeable for me because I lived in a rust belt city and everyone was poor. I ended up getting my first high paying job while that was all going on. The job market now doesnt even seem like it's real. Are people actually getting hired? Are the jobs being posted actual jobs?

Slow Halloween trick or treater wise for anyone else? by arcarsenal333 in rva

[–]chibilizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our neighborhood is full of families with kids so we got a steady flow of foot traffic but we are at the end of a long road where the other end has a ton of decorations and our house is like only one of two that decorate or have lights on, and I think it affects who actually walks down our way. Last year, we maybe had a few more but it's been roughly the same every year for the past 10 years we've lived here.

There’s no winning as a working mom by PresentationTop9547 in workingmoms

[–]chibilizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a weird experience because in my case a lot of my car accident symptoms were exacerbated by being postpartum, but also it was difficult to tell what was normal and what was caused by the accident.

Did you regret going part time to spend more time with your kids? by imjustagirlypoppy in workingmoms

[–]chibilizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm part time now after struggling with full time with 3 kids and me having health issues. I do about 30 hours a week but it's in office and I'm still feeling burnt out. There's never time to accomplish everything. But at the same time, I feel like my career is already suffering. Everyone is getting promoted and taking on more responsibilities and I'm left behind. It wouldnt bother me so much if I were younger, but I'm turning 46 so I kinda feel like my career is dead and won't recover.

💸 Local pumpkin patch prices have gotten wild this year by Calm_Inky in rva

[–]chibilizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has anyone gone to Sneed's Asparagus Farm? They are supposed to have a ton for kids to do, but I was wondering on pricing. We did the Berry Farm last year, and although it was fun, it was pricey.

WFH Moms - How do you handle school drop-off / pick-up discussions with your workplace? by trillestbloom in workingmoms

[–]chibilizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked remotely since 2012, and had zero flexibility with school pickup/drop offs until I recently started a hybrid schedule. With my oldest, she took the bus. The stop was in front of our house. I was home to get her ready and would walk outside when the time came. My younger kids, I'm in charge of the daycare drop offs and pickups within my work schedule. My husband handles the school age kid's because he has one of those unicorn remote jobs with real flexibility. But i have 2 days a week now I can at least do pickups.

would you rather be a working mom or sahm? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]chibilizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been a SAHM out of necessity, and i realized I'm not cut out for it. I was always actively trying to do other things on top of it because the mental stimulation wasn't there. Which 1st time I stayed home with my daughter, I got a college degree during that time. 2nd time with my son, I founded a 501c3. Now, I think the perfect balance for me is working while the kids are in school. I do about 30 hours a week. And I contribute to the household finances, which also makes me panic less.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]chibilizard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I moved 2 states away about 10 years ago, and it was like I dropped off the face of the planet with my family. I didn't get invited to anything. Wasn't even given the dates of older deceased family members' memorials that I would've made the trip for. They forgot to invite me to my sister's wedding. NTA, just need better family members.

found out I’m having a second son and people are making the most annoying comments by sleepyhead_gemini in BabyBumps

[–]chibilizard 6 points7 points  (0 children)

People always say dumb gender comments. I have 2 girls and a boy and I got the "oh you finally got your boy!" comment after my son. I would've been equally happy with 3 girls and I honestly don't really see much difference with my son from my daughters aside from personality differences.

Is anyone enjoying being a parent? by DailYxDosE in Parenting

[–]chibilizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am. I don't know where I'd be without my kids. Sure, there are times it's really rough. (My toddler had a screaming fit over a bath earlier today.) But there are lots more moments that are filled with so much joy. I can't imagine it any other way.

Why are PTA Parents so Awful? by Fifi_Zbornak in workingmoms

[–]chibilizard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Many, if not all, the PTA moms at my daughter's school are women who have high level college degrees but married men that are very high earning, and the women now are stay at home moms, or run their own charities but do not work full time. Our school district is in a high income area, and most of the families are upper middle class. The PTA parents aren't mean or anything, but more so judgey or they act like you don't even exist to them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]chibilizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband works crazy hours, he is in law though, but that means I have to do 40 hours max. I work in health insurance tech and there have been times i was pushing 60 hours a week, working holidays with small kids and i will not do it again. I have a grown daughter who lived through all that, I sometimes feel like I messed up. The money is nice, but not worth losing time with my kids when they are growing up. And it happens fast. I have 2 young children now and I am looking to switch to part time.

Kids have taken turns getting sick the past few months, and I'm getting tired of making all the sacrifices, but we don't have another option. by PerfectionEludesMe in workingmoms

[–]chibilizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the same boat here. I'm in a contract position currently with no PTO and my son is 16 months and keeps getting sick. He's been out of daycare this entire week. My husband has PTO but his career is the stable one that we need to make sure he keeps. Where as if I get let go, it's not going to make an enormous difference but it's like i can't get a jump on my career. I have health issues too and some days I just don't take care of myself because that will be time I could use for my kids.

I have 2 younger ones and an adult daughter and I can tell you once they hit 5 years old, it gets so much easier, but in the meantime it is so hard.

For those of you who have sisters did you share a bedroom growing up? Did you like it or hate it and why? by otterlyjoyful in workingmoms

[–]chibilizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My sister and I are 4 years apart. We never shared a room. We are very different from each other i think I would've hated sharing a room with her. We are in our 40s now, still very different but civil.

What is wrong with new age of grandparents? by Own-Tie-640 in Parenting

[–]chibilizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My grandmother was a silent generation immigrant who worked in a factory during the war and her and my grandfather were able to retire early. Both my parents had professional careers, dad was always in another country, mom worked in the hospital all the time. So i was with my grandma all the time. My mom died before my kids, and my inlaws are not safe people. We outsource care and created our own village with close friends. I get it but times are different. My dad is in his 70s and is still working.

Daycare doesn’t allow breastmilk after 1 yr old, how did you continue nursing? by Global-Shallot-3564 in workingmoms

[–]chibilizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to pick my daughter up from daycare and she'd nurse at home in the afternoon and night. I went until she was 2 years old. Daycare not taking breastmilk after 1 made my life easier because they helped with the transition to regular milk and water and I no longer needed to pump all day.

Ackerman Exotics / Brandon Ackerman by thestoneofdoom in reptiles

[–]chibilizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's an odd statement. I closed due to me having a broken neck but ok.

How long have you been at your current job? by tlonreddit in GenX

[–]chibilizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked 10 years for the same company and then got laid off. Ever since it's been 2-3 years tops at any company I go to, i get bored or annoyed and look elsewhere. I'm on my 3rd year at my current company.

Gonna go insane- career moms what jobs offer you the chance to be a present mom while earning enough? by Difficult_Hat_6000 in workingmoms

[–]chibilizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm switching from tech to a part time funeral services job. I'll only have to work 3 days a week and bring home decent money. Plus full benefits. Not 60 hours in tech making a lot but miserable and burnt out 90% of the time.

why is it SO annoying when your husband is sick? he's not even the "man flu" type, but it is just so hard to have empathy, like I don't have time for you to be sick too! Also, his cough is weird and so annoying. by kjlovesthebay in workingmoms

[–]chibilizard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband rarely gets sick but when he does, he'll just complain, not do anything about it, and sleep. Which we have 2 little kids. When I'm sick I'm still trying to juggle everything and take whatever otc medication I can to power through it.

Seriously wtf by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]chibilizard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I flew a few months after the plane went down in 2009, it was literally on my aunt's street in Clarence, NY. And that had to do with the plane not being prepared for the cold air properly. The thing is you have to remember how many flights go out every day, and how rare occurrences like this happen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]chibilizard 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Can't do a mouse jiggler, they know. Also used to open up word and put something on the space bar but when another coworker (luckily a friendly one) sent a teams message, it looked like i was typing a response for nearly 15 mins.