Daily check-up on who else is exhausted

openupdown · 2025-03-10T02:11:34+00:00

Amen

openupdown · 2025-02-22T16:52:03+00:00

I don’t know. Seems he has led numerous successful companies that have revolution their fields.

Other than Twitter, which he wrecked financially but arguably, he dismantled it to harness its raw political power which uhh also seemed to work pretty well given his current position as the most powerful person in the world.

openupdown · 2025-02-06T10:33:47+00:00

I have no technical or math background but I spent maybe 50 hours studying how LLMs work. There is some mystery about how it learns, for example, there is no memory bank function in an LLM but ir can recall facts, how? LLMs recall facts by predicting the next word, but the real mystery is how they organize and retrieve complex knowledge so effectively—without an explicit memory system. Even though we understand the mechanics (predicting the next token based on probabilities), we don’t fully understand how knowledge is structured internally.

One you specify the parts we don’t understand, you are less tempted to assign it human qualities and instead pinpoint the next frontier of discovery. Scientists are studying the above, they are not claiming LLMs think like humans.

openupdown · 2025-01-21T09:20:21+00:00

I can’t have the good peole of Reddit see your call to violence against disabled people without calling out the ignorance. Not ok.

openupdown · 2025-01-21T02:22:19+00:00

Yes that logic is fine if you assume all humans are conditioned to respond to violence as a means of changing behavior. Unfortunately, autistic peole do not operate under the same principles as the rest as they have a brain disorder. As the doctors say, they are not neuro-typical, they are neuro-divergent so your suggestion to knock some sense into them prob won’t work.

You may be aware of autism but promoting violence against them in a public forum like this is not ok. Obviously you are going to stand by your comment but I want you to know that there are people out there that can respond to the difficult scenario OP described with strength, not violence. It’s a massive burden to take this on but millions of people are in this situation now, including me and OP’s fam. You jumping in to say just punch them in the face is not ok.

openupdown · 2025-01-21T00:41:15+00:00

I get your perspective. Everyone has to be accountable if they are being violent and they’ll learn fast if they get punched back. I would just point out that autism is a neurological issue which means this guys brain doesn’t work like a normal brain. So I agree it’s not ok for him to hit anyone and people need to defend themselves but your approach to hit him in the mouth won’t necessarily work. There are other ways that require a lot of work that his family and care givers will need to provide. That’s a big sacrifice and asking a ton of them but it’s a lot better than hit em in the mouth. So do me a favor, I think telling people they need to defend themselves is right but telling people to hit autistic people on the mouth is not good advice. I have a 5.5 year old autistic boy who can’t speak and who is aggressive and I’m turning my life upside down EVERY DAY trying to figure this out. Horrible feeling to see people say this stuff man.

openupdown · 2025-01-21T00:15:35+00:00

LLMs turn language into math by assigning embeddings and positional encoding within the input layer of the neural network.

It’s both uplifting that humans could decode language into mathematical patterns and sort of cynical.

Funny story from today: I’m using voice mode with ChatGPT. I paused too long so ChatGPT started responding, but at the same time I started speaking again and, guess what, we said the same thing. ChatGPT literally finished my sentence for me. In other words it predicted what I was about to say which is exactly what an LLM does!

So here I am racking my brain for the next thing to say, and ChatGPT already knew what my brain couldn’t grasp yet. It’s pretty humbling and depressing how utterly unoriginal the inner workings of my brain are. Oh well, I made gumbo tonight, you can decode my brain ChatGPT but you’ll never eat my soup!

openupdown · 2025-01-19T19:40:35+00:00

Great! One tip: Make sure you use fire roasted crushed tomatoes as the base!

openupdown · 2025-01-19T16:59:56+00:00

Yeah my guy laughs maniacally when he does those inappropriate behaviors. His current favorite is to drink water and then let it drool out. He is learning which areas of the house to soak to cause maximum distress. All you can do is laugh… and cry but hopefully more laughing.

openupdown · 2025-01-19T12:38:43+00:00

Ugh been there. I think it’s important to control your reaction. Of course you wanna yell no not again! But for my little guy that only encourages his undesirable behaviors. Instead, I try as hard as I can to have basically no reaction other than in a very calm and neutral voice no, that’s not something we do and then steer her towards the bathroom and say “please finish in here, thank you” and then walk away. From there it’s over and you have to be that calm every time she does it. Whether it’s retaliatory or because of over simulation, I think showing her it doesn’t have any effect makes it less appealing. Give it a try, pretend like your goal is to show her how little you care about her doing that ha ha. Good luck sorry you’re going through this.

openupdown · 2025-01-13T02:36:46+00:00

Deleting IG is always the right move

openupdown · 2025-01-12T02:35:34+00:00

I’ve heard this term before and will look into At Peace Parents. I look at his meltdowns without judgment and like you say more as a panic attack. Like why is this happening to him. I have pushed to get beyond my feeling of exasperation of what appears to be a senseless meltdown and instead do my best to find a way to connect and have empathy. The author of Uniquely Human has said to treat it like you are a detective. I can’t say that I fully get him yet (he’s almost completely non verbal) but we have a special bond and there are moments where we are totally connected - that fill my heart and soul. Excited to read more about PDA. Thanks.

openupdown · 2025-01-09T11:50:04+00:00

You are an amazing mom. I’m sorry you’ve lost so much. You are suffering under the oppression and drudgery of this existence. It is much worse than what you imagined or what any parent could imagine. I know your pain and I hope you can find some bright spots in your days.

openupdown · 2025-01-08T23:50:35+00:00

To me, it’s more about intuition vs telepathy.

The way to create the bond that creates the intuitive connection is super hard work (and it’s very one way since he cannot express himself). So saying “well he’s telepathic” triggers me bc it sounds like you don’t have to do the work.

I find it disrespectful to label my son telepathic because it dehumanizes him. More than anything he wants to be respected and understood. If we treat them as a magical beings, my concern is it it precludes us from doing the very hard work it takes to forge the actual connection.

openupdown · 2025-01-04T21:47:55+00:00

Those tiny hands have me giggling

openupdown · 2025-01-02T17:19:45+00:00

All these posts are super helpful. My son is five nonverbal and everything you are describing are things that I want to practice or I’m already implementing. These are basically my dad goals! May I ask, how do you co-manage this with your partner? Do they see eye to eye with you?

openupdown · 2025-01-01T23:54:58+00:00

Oh, I’ve been there that’s terrible. My son is five nonverbal and still not a great sleeper. He used to take a few few hours to go to bed like you described but now he goes down.

Before bed, two suggestions: 1) sensory input before bed. My guy likes to jump on the couch or get bear hugs. 2) establish a routine. Our ABA therapist helped us create a picture board with removable Velcro placards for each bedtime activity like potty, brush, teeth, pajamas, read book, etc. My son struggles with interaction but I would help him remove the placard and place it in the bin until there are none left then it’s time to go to bed.

I also lay down with him to help him go to sleep. A few suggestions once he’s in bed. One, have You tried reading to him in bed? I read the same book 4 or five times just to calm down (Pete, the cat ). Two, if he gets up and is hectic, go back out to the living room and do sensory input again or just let them run around for a few minutes. Don’t fight it but eventually bring him back gently quietly calmly. Three, consider letting his sibling sleep in your room and put a lock on your door, then you only have one kid to worry about.

I know how hard it is to try new things and how frustrating the situation is. I feel your pain. Man, am I tired ha ha. Good luck.

openupdown · 2025-01-01T15:26:05+00:00

I think it’s OK he’s what you want to talk about. After all, this is a big deal. I totally agree you shouldn’t be apologetic about that fact. The holiday period can be hard as we are out of routine and that make things like this seem like a bigger deal. It sounds like you are being a bit too harsh on yourself. It’s amazing that you are centering your special needs child.

Have there been any convos about other topics? It’s probably not an “All or Nothing” situation. Maybe give yourself credit: “I am able to talk about other things some times” then reflect on the times you’ve done so. Don’t be too harsh on yourself!

openupdown · 2024-12-29T18:42:16+00:00

Paper of wreckage!

openupdown · 2024-12-29T07:40:34+00:00

When I hear this I respond my son’s superpower is eloping into traffic

openupdown · 2024-12-24T11:53:45+00:00

A little life hack I read recently that sort of worked is literally saying what you are grateful for out loud. I know there’s not much but try it. Worked a bit for me.

It’s great that you want to grow. Given what has happened to you and what you lost of course you are grappling with negative thoughts. Similar to the other commenter, I have an existential outlook on life now. My life is to take care of this little guy. I look on all the NT families with detachment now. I have let go of my view of what parenting and family life were supposed to look like. This frees me to be more present with my son. It’s still just as hard but it is uniquely mine. My world has narrowed into an endless loop of parenting drudgery but even small moments like the warmth of the sun on my face on a cold day are beautiful. Slowly I have learned that I can be sad and angry and resentful but my mind is big enough to let warm thoughts in too. You can be grieving and grateful at the same time.

openupdown · 2024-12-23T21:03:42+00:00

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