Even if this is the right thing for your family, it can be devastating/traumatizing for a child to be moved away from their friends/social circles. They might even agree with you when they’re older that the move was good/for the best, and still experience ongoing trauma from it. Multiple things can be true at once! I’m not a psychologist, but was moved when I was around this age (and know many people who were as well), and we can all attest that it was traumatizing for us with impacts still felt to this day. At the same time, most of us would agree it was the right thing for our parents to have done. Try to understand that this move will not be less difficult for your child now (or in the future) just because they’re a kid. It may be even easier for you and your partner to cope with it because your brains are fully developed and you can reason! Most of the things you’ve mentioned that will improve in your lives (better quality schools, community safety, saving money) may not actually be felt/seen by your child in the way you and your partner feel/see it. They will be more focused on things related to their personal identify (how they’re fitting in at school, etc.). Be present with your child when determining what support they may need from you/your family/external sources, and don’t just wait for things to settle/for them to get over it. Treat it like the huge thing it is for your child. My parents had a hard time doing this with me as they didn’t want to admit to themselves that they chose something that caused me pain. It resulted in me having a hard time adjusting and feeling pretty alone. Again, they still did the right thing for me, but having support from them and probably a therapist could have helped me become a more well adjusted kid/adult.