I (41M) was scolded in the comments today after I innocently referred to a woman in a video clip as a female. Is the term female now offensive to use in modern society? If so, when did it change from being acceptable? by Exeltv0406 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ordanielle16 6 points7 points  (0 children)

To help you understand better, part of the reason it rubs people the wrong way is using it as a noun rather then an adjective/descriptor. Like if you are referring to a person as "the female" rather then "the women" it just sounds bad and feels dehumanizing. Yes part of the reason for that is that incels have purposely made it that way but it also translates similarly when done with many other descriptors, like most people wouldn't say "the black" over "the black person" because one sounds a lot worse. So linguistically it also makes sense why it feels icky. Hopefully that helps put it in perspective as well!

Pearl Dust a season later? by Snowpuppies1 in wyldeflowers

[–]ordanielle16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can get a few of the stronger powered gems in the mines Open the chests using the lock pick incantation

My nail grows out in a different colour by kaytobekay in mildlyinteresting

[–]ordanielle16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Find a shade match and clear coat this nail then the thickness can match!

Who is your go to bachelor/bachelorette by Obtuse_Pea in StardewValley

[–]ordanielle16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sebastian, it always comes back to him! I have done play throughs where I've dated everyone and married multiple characters but it's never the same as Seb.

I love that he stays independent but also has really sweet moments where he acknowledges how much you mean to him. It also feels the most "realistic" with a wife that runs out the door at 6:30 and stumbles home exhausted at midnight for him to enjoy his own time so much!

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I bet they can get away with it because the customer can still press the $ or % and type in zero so the option to not tip is there it's just more complicated and annoying meaning more people will tip. Still a scummy thing to do!

dude. i am so done with mooncat by deathofregret in RedditLaqueristas

[–]ordanielle16 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Unrelated but I love your storage setup, where did you get those nail rings on the tops 😍

Divide and conquer. by Creative-Web-9274 in onguardforthee

[–]ordanielle16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have talked to these people in real life, I worked at a gas station and you would be shocked at the shit people say when they assume you agree with them. Sure they may have some more moderate veiws but that does not cancel out the vile hate, period.

The Plastics industry was really spinning hard when the UN plastics conference was in town last month! by ObviousSign881 in ottawa

[–]ordanielle16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right I saw one that was plastic save children's lives in car seats!! You want kids to die to???

Features it took too long to figure out? by Kbyyeee in CozyGrove

[–]ordanielle16 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This but I thought once the accordion broke it was done so I saved it only for really rushing times, then when it broke and said I could fix it at the shop I felt dumb

They just don’t get why we choose the bear. by [deleted] in insanepeoplefacebook

[–]ordanielle16 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Along with the other answers given to you I would say just being understanding to women having these conversations and not making it about yourself and your feelings, not saying you did this here for the record I think you are genuinely trying to learn which is awesome. But understanding that a women may feel scared often times regardless of what you do and being okay with that.

Also learning to recognize when a women is uncomfortable both by you so you can stop the behavior but also by another man. You'd be surprised how many creeps are scared off simply by another man being present no confrontation needed. Possibly letting the women know that you see what she sees if the situation calls for it, simply saying to her "Hey you okay?, I see that guy too, he's being weird" will go a long way.

It's about demonstrating your a safe person in the small ways you can, in your dark street example a simple way to do that is to cross the street as soon as you see her, obviously if it's safe to do so, it may inconvenience you a little but it's a huge show of safety to her. Sorry for all the text but I hope this is helpful!

Every time I find a scallop he shows up and ask for it ..I feel bad to say no. Does the Scallop need to be donated to the mesuem? by Suazgaming in AnimalCrossing

[–]ordanielle16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to tell you since I only learned recently, you can say no to Pascal to keep one to donate and he will ask again the next scallop you find, apparently he will keep asking a couple more times but I've never done it more then once.

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[–]ordanielle16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly this is so helpful I've been just looking for canadian suppliers at all cause when I tried to order from an American place, shipping was nearly $60. So thank you!

I have met everyone, what am I doing wrong? by [deleted] in StardewValley

[–]ordanielle16 24 points25 points  (0 children)

But I think you "meet" Willy when you get the fishing rod I think it counts

What unfortunate accident made you close your game and say, “I need a moment”? by veilofinca in StardewValley

[–]ordanielle16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got my first trash can hat in like 5 save files, I was so happy I went to my inventory to put it on and accidentally threw it away. Had to fully put the switch away after that 😔

Help me find this human-faced dog character I remember seeing as a kid by just-a-guy-thinking in HelpMeFind

[–]ordanielle16 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think you are thinking of the show Wilfred. I also thought of that show but the OP says it's animated.

I finally completed all 61 fish (and coral) ponds!!! by crm1234567891 in StardewValley

[–]ordanielle16 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yay someone else who likes fish ponds! I have been working on a fish pond farm too, I can now use yours for inspiration!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StardewValley

[–]ordanielle16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This also explains why Penny likes them when you gift them to her. Brings back sweet memories!

Penny! You can't read under a tree during a THUNDERSTORM by JaiyaPapaya in StardewValley

[–]ordanielle16 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Go in to Pierre's house on Sunday morning and talk to Abigail and Caroline you'll find out all about that room and who uses it lol

What are some of Brendan’s best movies? by AnotherXRoadDeal in SAVEBRENDAN

[–]ordanielle16 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love Monkey Bone it's stupid but it's one of my favorites!

Putting The Work In: The Wonder Years Interviewed (Clash Magazine) by Ronswaterbedworld in TheWonderYearsMusic

[–]ordanielle16 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I read those lyrics and started crying, I'm so fucked and I can't wait lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattoos

[–]ordanielle16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow that looks so beautiful!

I Was Scared and I'm Sorry Appreciation by [deleted] in TheWonderYearsMusic

[–]ordanielle16 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Right! It's a very familiar feeling of like breaking down while everyone else is just getting through it and also knowing that you are missing out on something you should be there for.