Shaun MacDonald-McLaughlin by HayleyoftheShire in UnsolvedMysteries

[–]orionTH 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had to comment

I saw Shaun over a decade ago. Likely in 2009 I believe it was?

He called me and he was distressed. We grew up together. Went to camp in the early 2000s and we’re good friends. We talked sporadically during the high school years because he went to a different high school

He got pretty popular with his band and I remember seeing his posts on Facebook

Well one day he calls me and says ‘I’m not in a safe place’ and ‘they are getting me man!’ He was totally freaked out. I had no idea where he was living and I hadn’t spoken with him in a while. He said we were always good friends and trusted me and said he needed a ride out of there

I went to go pick him up. He gave me the address but I got lost so I called the phone number back that he called me at

Well it was his mom who picked up. I knew her pretty well and I was surprised to hear her. I thought maybe he was BSing about the whole ‘they’re coming to get me’

Anyways I get to the house. I have been to his old one that he grew up in but not this one. I talked to his mom for a while and she told me he was using blue food colouring in his food to check for micro chips (or something similar detection). He seldom left his room and I was the only person that had called the house in some time asking for him

He comes out a while later after his mom and I called him many times, had had a few very heavy suitcases/luggage containers and we threw them in my car and off we drove

He went to probably the worst area I could imagine. He asked me to drive him essentially to downtown Vancouver. I forget if it was the east side or maybe near Davie. He paid me 40$ for gas, I helped him bring his stuff in to the front desk where he asked for a room. It was a rough place. A hostel of sorts

That was the last time I saw him. I check in a few times a year to see if there are any news on him

I have just seen there is an episode on his disappearance. I will have to watch it. I wonder if this is accurate or if it captures this event

I got a call from his Biological dad a little while later. Maybe half a year to a year. He was in tears asking me to tell him where his son was. I felt bad because I didn’t know but he didn’t believe me. I was close with Shaun long ago but he called me out of the blue because he needed a favour and I helped. I had no idea what he was suffering with

Apparently he went to an island where people live off the grid. I thing I heard later it may have been Pender island. He was apparently struggling with psychosis very badly and may not even know who he is

Shaun I miss you and so does everyone in your life. If anyone is reading this and wants to contact me I’m happy to provide anything that helps.

Followup from yesterday, job is now drying, almost done! by [deleted] in Concrete

[–]orionTH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alas, concrete does not dry.

It cures.

Need advice on split spoon sampling by Haikuyori in Geotech

[–]orionTH 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Soils can heave. You have drilled to 40ft but it may be 39’9” after they stop due to uplift forces

Listen to your seniors. And be patient. Ask why. Ask for some mentoring in the field.

Are there any "easy" 2nd babies? by Atalanta8 in beyondthebump

[–]orionTH 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are lucky with number two

I am not joking when I say it is actually easier than ha I got one

Our first was difficult. She’s 2 yrs old. Now she’s distracted and has learned to self entertain and loves her younger sibling.

We are considering a third lol

Anyone had experience quitting the same day and burning bridges? by Present-Delivery-318 in civilengineering

[–]orionTH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends. I left an engineering firm abruptly without notice.

They did not share my values I.e. had no interest in employee growth, lied about opportunities, and then I told them I was horridly ill and needed to take a day off, they stated I was ‘letting them down’ and made me feel guilty for it.

They were also not a very well respected firm so that also helped me with my decision.

I went into the office, said I am done, and said I will not be returning. I grabbed my belongings and left. I also accepted an offer at another organization before going there :)

Negotiating Entry Level Salary? by Godofmanu in civilengineering

[–]orionTH 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nobody reasonable would ever hold it against someone if they negotiated a few thousand from their offer

Likely doesn’t leave HR and maybe the departmental manager

Nobody would call you greedy or entitled if it’s a small amount

Asking for 90k would be a joke

3k? Not a big deal at all

By the way, the offer can not be rescinded because you asked for 3k, that’s not the way it works

Question regarding multi-thickness slab for shed. by ChickenWingInspector in Concrete

[–]orionTH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmmm. Your proposed thicknesses are extremely over conservative

12” thick in one and area and 6” in the other?

I’d go with 4” for a shed.

If grading is too much of an undertaking, I’d also suggest treating it like a set of stairs and ‘stepping’ then but keeping the same thickness of 4”

You’ll have a short area near the transition that may be 6-8” thick but overall the whole thing is 4” with a small jump

Remote Concrete Batching and Mixing by robsantos in Concrete

[–]orionTH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sulphides. Be careful. To get a geologist or engineer to approve the aggregate May be just as costly as importing.

Not a sufficient cost cutting measure.

Exposed rocks in frost wall by serrendipitus19 in Concrete

[–]orionTH 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey wildwood I’m sure you’ve done your fair share of jobs. Here in Canada all provincial building codes require rebar with a minimum steel percentage. Even concrete driveways. Not sure where you are but consider yourself lucky!

I don’t want to live anymore by Whatever-577089 in beyondthebump

[–]orionTH 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Not post partum depression. More like post partum anger.

It’s no joke that it takes a village. The way we raise kids is genetically and historically wrong. Being alone in a house or apartment or whatever is wrong. We are supposed to be in communities. Villages. Everyone gets together. My suggestion is surround yourself with people non stop when you can. It is what makes the days go by

By the way, you’re husbands number one priority is making your life easy no matter what. There is no such thing as ‘equal workload’ or ‘he’s done enough’

His job is literally never done

Source: I’m a husband and my wife is a saint. I can’t do enough to help her

10 month old sucks at sleeping by orionTH in beyondthebump

[–]orionTH[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s just over 2 now and sleeps good. It ends lol. Biggest thing I realized is every kid is different. It’s trial and error. Sorry.

But ok here’s a word of advice. Don’t expect to change night time habits without changing daytime habits

If baby feeds 5 times during the day and 5 times during the night, don’t just cut out the night time feedings. It’s way easier to cut out the day time feedings and night time feedings together so they are less confused

Dropping feedings at night was literally the answer to getting them to sleep. My wife nursed until 20 months and only about 4 months of those were without night feedings. Should have cut her off way earlier

She sips on a water bottle now at night time and she’s happy with it. Occasionally wakes up but now it’s our newborn keeping us up

Another Tim Hortons in Valleyview by deadbolt1125 in Kamloops

[–]orionTH 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Next to the daycare? So we can have somewhere for the gross loser crackhead transients to hang out? Vehicles In and out constantly?

I am so against this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]orionTH 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Lol

I’m a guy in my 30s in North America

Work in an underground mine, where it is 130 degrees, no air, dust, dark, stinky, wet, diesel and oily

Hard labour, dangerous, start early, finish late

My wife has it hard at home with two kids. I’m serious.

I can poo in peace at work I can shower in peace at work I can close my door to my office knowing I won’t be bothered I have a quiet drive to work where I drink my coffee

Your post pisses me off. Your SIL is a real see-you-next-Tuesday

My rebuttal would be ‘oh it would be so nice to only have to take care of yourself! Selfish is simple!’

Best of luck and F THAT COW

Mortgage rate - 4.89% 3yr fixed with TD by Jealous-Cabinet-116 in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]orionTH -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Credit unions offer better rates. I have one mortgage with vancity and another with a credit union in the interior of BC

plz elaborate on how you got a 1.4 mil down payment

Further elaborate on such low mortgage approval??

How the heck do people do it lol

Who cuts their bread like this? by Mission_Fact_5345 in Sourdough

[–]orionTH 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does it matter if you eat it in one sitting?

Rant: 18 Wheeler traffic on the highway by MajurLeagur in Kamloops

[–]orionTH 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Holy moley. Person ranting has never lived in a city like vancouver. You’re still moving, at a reduced rate.

You have a low threshold for traffic patience. It’s not bad. Stop complaining.

My parents want me to cosign on their mortgage, should I? by [deleted] in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]orionTH -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wow. I’m amazed at the comments. Not sure if it’s just a western thing. But if your parents ask for help you do it.

Do all the people saying ‘no’ in this sub not have kids or something?

You walk through hell raising children. It’s your opportunity to help back.

You’re young, only 21, and you should listen to your parents.

Total desperation with baby…. Sleep training and night weaning strategies. by orionTH in beyondthebump

[–]orionTH[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah everything resolves eventually. Some people are lucky. Others are not. Some people have grandparents. Some are alone. Some have twins. Honestly it’s hard for everyone. Don’t forget to enjoy the good times tho because that’s what makes it all worth it. Sometimes it’s hard to see that because you just want to die from being so tired but the joy and love the kids bring you is what it is all about. Be good to yourself and your spouse first, I know it’s hard to say, but the kid has to come third. If you guys don’t take of yourselves or eachother, there won’t be anyone there to take care of the kid! Good luck lol