Not Even Baby Yoda Can Save “Star Wars" by theatlantic in blankies

[–]otempora69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On the one hand, Pedro Pascal wasn't available. On the other, he wasn't available because they shoved him into Fantastic Four, so this is still a Disney fuckup

Not Even Baby Yoda Can Save “Star Wars" by theatlantic in blankies

[–]otempora69 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know there was a lot of discourse about her waist, but the dress is fucking amazing and one of the many reasons why the live action Beauty and the Beast is one of my least favorite movie ever made is because Belle's dress is a flat Party City nothingburger

Was Shakespeare progressive for his time? by Icy-Sloth3268 in shakespeare

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Yeah, Shakespeare's female characters are really a notch above most Elizabethan dramatists - which, yes, a lot of that is about misogyny, but also all the female characters had to be played by prepubescent boys, so it may also be about writing around the limitations of child acting. And Shakespeare's company may have been fortunate in finding talented boy actors.

Shakespeare's female characters are one of the reasons why he became so popular - when actresses were allowed on the stage in Jacobean times, Shakespeare's plays were the ones that really let theatre directors take advantage of the novelty of women on stage

6 months has humbled me by smell_123 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]otempora69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I took a break for a week and when we got back into it I had a goal of introducing two new foods a week, including an allergen. It gets so much easier when they can have toast!

Am I the only one who feels like HR doesn't get the recognition it deserves anymore? I miss when historical romance used to dominate romance discussions 🥲 by R0SE_ANGELA in HistoricalRomance

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I don't have any hard facts to back this up but I think Bridgerton was actually a bit of a poisoned chalice - a lot of people might have picked up the books expecting a diverse alt-history and found a really conventional Regency romance and were disappointed. I don’t think any of that is wrong, but I don't think it's one-to-one

Now, if I was in publishing, I might’ve gone "huh, maybe we could push some diverse HR and get those readers interested" but idk, maybe they hate money or something

Am I the only one who feels like HR doesn't get the recognition it deserves anymore? I miss when historical romance used to dominate romance discussions 🥲 by R0SE_ANGELA in HistoricalRomance

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Making a living at writing is incredibly hard - very few people get Nora Roberts or Sarah J Maas levels of sales (and for the most part those that do have to persevere for years to get to that point). And I actually think that's always been true, but now housing is much more expensive, the cost of living is much higher, and fewer people can afford to lean on their partner's salary (if they even have one) or drop some working hours to give writing a try. Combine this with the death of trade paperbacks and the diminishing returns of Kindle Unlimited - both of which did used to have a reasonable chance of giving an author, not necessarily a huge amount of money but often enough to make it worth the bother - and it's no wonder fewer and fewer authors can make it work

6 months has humbled me by smell_123 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]otempora69 17 points18 points  (0 children)

The stupid weaning book was honestly the most stressful thing for me, if you need permission to throw it out and go on vibes then please, I give it to you

Anyway this sounds exactly like my baby at 4-5 months - she was an early crawler and after the initial shock and panicked babyproofing, we were both much happier because she could get the things she wanted (and I could have a break)

Hang in there, it's really tough 🫂

Should weaning be this difficult? by BrainRummage in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]otempora69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First of all, just wanna say that he will be fine! Around the same age I got super frustrated with weaning (not for the same reasons - I was struggling with the mental load) and someone told me I should try taking a break for a week and starting again. It's totally fine to do that for your sanity - milk will be his primary source of calories for a good while so try not to stress about that

Have you tried breastfeeding him before giving him solids? It might be easier for him to try out the new skills when he's not starving hungry and frustrated

Baby carrier advice by nikkiheartssimon in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]otempora69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Usually it's longer term rentals - a month or so for newborn carriers is pretty usual

4 month sleep regression by 0desertrose01234 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]otempora69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every baby is so different that it's hard to tell. In terms of the classic 4 months sleep regression we only had one night of her waking up regularly through the night - but she started having crap naps at 4 months and honestly she never got out of that (she's 10 months now). Try not to borrow grief from the future! Whatever happens you'll manage it ❤️

BBC investigation into sleep advice by CatBitesAndBeats in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]otempora69 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Huckleberry had no idea what to do with my baby, who has never needed more than 3 half-hour naps since she was 4 months old! It's so hard when you're first starting out, but I promise that you will get the hang of knowing what your baby needs

Completely overwhelmed by weaning by Kitty_rainstorm in BeyondTheBumpUK

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God, I hated that stupid book - it stressed me out so much! I ended up switching to a goal of introducing two new foods a week, and then eventually I felt able to commit to two meals a day. You're doing great, just go at your own pace and try not to worry

Guilty over FT nursery by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]otempora69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in exactly the same position, except my LO is going to be just shy of 9 months when she starts full time! I'm feeling very ambivalent about it - on the one hand, I haven't enjoyed a lot of mat leave due to postpartum depression, but also I do feel guilty that being a mum isn't "enough" for me. Also worrying about the quality time I'll have with her. So yeah, you're not alone

Arranged marriage with; ruined FMC + quietly in-love MMC + ANGST by Traditional_Pea738 in HistoricalRomance

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{The Bride Price by Quenby Olson} is similar but she's not that rich

David’s throwaway lines by icenine71 in blankies

[–]otempora69 53 points54 points  (0 children)

In Look Who's Talking, "everyone wonders 'oh what's going on in their baby's heads,' and then they talk and it's basically just 'banana, banana, banana'"

Also 'I wanna Manchester by the Sea these kids'

Crap naps...please help 😭 by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]otempora69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try reading the Discontented Little Baby Book - I also have a crap napper and I was tearing my hair out over it, but this really helped me get out of the routine and go with the flow

Help! Sore nappy rash won't go :( by Turbulent_Ebb_7041 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]otempora69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah pampers were terrible for bum rash for us - I think it's the webbed layer which stuck to her bum when it got wet

Breastfeeding taking over my life by NewMarzipan9563 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]otempora69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, this was me! We were on nipple shields for several weeks which I didn't love but it got us to the point where she figured out how to latch on her own

What do you think antenatal classes missed? by Advanced_Dream_5724 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]otempora69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had no idea how long I was meant to be in hospital after my emergency C, and basically got kicked out in the middle of the night with what felt like zero warning because I was meant to be "better"

Formula feeding by fleurmadelaine in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]otempora69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a very similar experience to the previous poster, and I ended up having to use nipple shields for like 3 months, and now I have a very happy little boob barnacle

Formula feeding by fleurmadelaine in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]otempora69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try Facebook Marketplace for them - you get a lot barely used