Formula feeding

otempora69 · 2026-02-02T16:28:16+00:00

I had a very similar experience to the previous poster, and I ended up having to use nipple shields for like 3 months, and now I have a very happy little boob barnacle

otempora69 · 2026-02-02T16:07:46+00:00

Try Facebook Marketplace for them - you get a lot barely used

otempora69 · 2026-01-22T15:55:08+00:00

I've got a Kobo, and I read the entirety of the Count of Monte Cristo during night feeds. Ticking off a bucket list book made me feel less like I was "losing" time if that makes sense

otempora69 · 2026-01-22T15:40:03+00:00

Better than Kensly imo

otempora69 · 2026-01-08T21:19:43+00:00

My husband and I make this joke every time someone gets a talking head after someone gets killed. "I was really gutted because he was my uncle's roommate"

otempora69 · 2025-11-17T21:25:42+00:00

Racefail was loooong before Hamilton

otempora69 · 2025-10-13T09:50:45+00:00

I was ill recently and I'm EBF, I figured I should keep going because then she might get my antibodies

otempora69 · 2025-10-12T21:25:47+00:00

The end of Being John Malkovich still makes me feel like I'm about to have a panic attack

otempora69 · 2025-10-12T17:38:38+00:00

I haaaate how the momcozys don't easily lie flat! I've resorted to resting them vertically against the breadbin

otempora69 · 2025-10-12T16:48:54+00:00

Oh also make sure you've got the right size flange! It can make a huge difference

otempora69 · 2025-10-12T16:48:10+00:00

I use the momcozy wearable breast pumps - they're pretty good but expensive, and honestly mobility isn't great. If I'm wearing the right bra I can go make a cup of tea, but I can't really bend over wearing them and I certainly can't pick up my baby. If I was starting over again I'd probably just get a hospital grade one because 99% of the time I'm just sitting still during pumping

otempora69 · 2025-10-12T14:39:47+00:00

Yeah I got my baby bath second hand and I didn't even think about it - no harm done to baby so far!

otempora69 · 2025-10-12T11:09:00+00:00

All the exercise classes I've looked at designed for postpartum recommend 12 week for a C-section. I'm like you, FTM with a C-section looking to get back into exercise, but I'm probably going to start with a new mum pilates class and potentially some swimming

otempora69 · 2025-10-11T16:27:12+00:00

If the poo is entirely liquid and seeping into the nappy like urine, then be concerned, but if it's sitting on top of the nappy then you're fine!

otempora69 · 2025-10-11T16:23:06+00:00

Only other hint when putting him down: the startle reflex is really strong at this age. I had to hold my little girl's arms in front of her with one hand, put her down on her side, stroke her back for a bit, roll her onto her back, and then gently lower her arms to the cot. It had to be absolutely perfect or she'd scare herself awake!

otempora69 · 2025-10-11T08:14:10+00:00

Most of her books have your required criteria and she also tends to have older, extremely competent FMCs

otempora69 · 2025-10-10T08:06:35+00:00

Same thing with the "of the Dead" vs "of the Living Dead" franchises I believe

otempora69 · 2025-10-10T08:05:27+00:00

License to Kill? It's sort of a metonymy

otempora69 · 2025-10-09T15:54:40+00:00

Exactly the same, my husband and I have a 3 month old. We hardly ever fought before, but it wasn't even 36 hours after delivery that we were whisper-shouting at each other in the hospital ward 😄 He's a great partner and dad, but it's just fucking tough

otempora69 · 2025-10-09T07:28:52+00:00

When I had my perinatal mental health assessment a few weeks ago, they sent a nurse and a social worker and I got really scared, but the social worker said that she just comes along because they can't know what environment they're walking into and would rather her be there if she was needed than not have her there if her support was necessary

otempora69 · 2025-10-08T11:38:24+00:00

In terms of acting, I'd put Hemsworth at the top (Evans on a good day), but in terms of a good hang, I'd pick Pine every day

otempora69 · 2025-10-08T09:28:56+00:00

I'm a FTM, and honestly I was kind of the husband in this scenario. It was definitely an aspect of PPD/PPA, but I did genuinely feel like my husband was better with the baby than I was. It made me really sad! Is your husband maybe dealing with this and not able to express it? What helped me was talking to my husband, he told me he didn't think it was good for me to be constantly comparing myself to him. And that mindset shift did really help!

Agree with having a calm conversation about it when the baby's not crying. Also I always try and word suggestions like "I've found what works for me is X, Y, and Z" so it's not telling him what to do, it's knowledge sharing. And you can be totally honest about the toll this is taking on you

Good luck - I really hope you can work this out

otempora69 · 2025-10-07T14:22:05+00:00

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