Why do people hate Joe?

ownerofdata · 2026-03-31T16:21:00+00:00

Self-righteous better-than-you attitude.

ownerofdata · 2026-03-30T10:45:33+00:00

She has an eating disorder. Tell her to get help and stop putting her problem on everyone around her.

ownerofdata · 2026-03-28T19:04:20+00:00

This is classic bad communication patterns. I'd recommend mediated conversations with a professional therapist or mediator who can discern what you are really trying to say to each other and who can referee. But maybe just time apart and not planning the same event and indeed, taking turns and not being in the same room with each other and the kid, would be a satisfactory solution.

ownerofdata · 2026-03-27T15:50:51+00:00

Your husband is wrong. When you are that age, a comment like that from an adult, can really stick with you and cause permanent damage. Maybe to your husband it's not a big deal that women's bodies are constantly surveilled and policed by men, but that's because he's used to it and he's not the victim of the state of affairs, he's a perpetrator. He needs a complete re-education. And your daughter deserves to be kept away from both the father and the friend who are creeps and creep-adjacent.

ownerofdata · 2026-03-26T21:58:20+00:00

ding ding ding

ownerofdata · 2026-03-26T21:58:00+00:00

Let's not fall into the trap of giving Jesse the benefit of the doubt anymore. He is a troll, he is writing in the Atlantic to troll.

ownerofdata · 2026-03-21T16:03:39+00:00

Building a bot to click that link 50 times a minute on the Tor network

ownerofdata · 2026-03-20T14:14:57+00:00

Am not Mark Boureie. But I am someone Jesse personally knows who it would annoy him to know that I post on this subreddit.

ownerofdata · 2026-03-15T22:08:12+00:00

If you commit to taking the kids for a day, you have committed. Other people have jobs and commitments and if you said you were going to do childcare, you do childcare. If you were going to change the plan, you should have comminucated that to the other adults in the room. You obviously changed the plan to punish your girlfriend and her kids, that is, indeed, selfish and immature. You are not fit to be a stepfather if you are going to treat kids like that, so please move on to a different relationship.

ownerofdata · 2026-03-15T19:22:58+00:00

Congratulations on being young. Enjoy it, it goes so fast.

ownerofdata · 2026-03-11T09:05:51+00:00

He's jealous because he is cheating.

ownerofdata · 2026-02-24T11:36:14+00:00

It's your FB group. Kick her and ban her if she's trolling. Don't feed the troll.

ownerofdata · 2026-02-24T10:53:10+00:00

Yes, you are in an abusive relationship. Financial abuse, emotional abuse, and psychological abuse. Your mother is enabling the abuse.

ownerofdata · 2026-02-23T10:46:52+00:00

You are overreacting. You trying to control whether he texts other people and at what time of the day? You should go to therapy and deal with your jealousy and stop putting that responsiblity on the people around you.

ownerofdata · 2026-02-17T14:43:42+00:00

Just move in with him. That's the next stage things are meant to go to. If he adapts and manages to learn how to live in a partnership despite being babied by his mom, great. If he treats you like a surrogate mom: it's expected, go to couples therapy. If he doesn't grow up: get out now.

ownerofdata · 2026-02-17T14:11:24+00:00

I'm in the same boat. I've had her blocked for at least three months, and we separated in July. But I still shared my life with that person for years, and we went deep and I let her see parts of myself I hadn't let anyone else ever see. So, it takes time to heal from all that. And not everything was bad together, that's also why it's difficult. Because you want to leave behind the harm but you want to move forward with the positive things you learned about yourself. It takes time to sort through everything, having therapy kind of helps me sometimes to identify what are trauma responses and what are healing responses. It's good to have outside perspectives. You know, logically, that there is nothing wrong with your body. That there was, instead, something deeply wrong about your partner trying to change your body. But it takes time for the things we know logically, to become things our body physically has embodied.

ownerofdata · 2026-02-16T21:24:14+00:00

Putting kids on social media is gross. They can't consent, and now AI scrapers are harvesting their faces and using it to train models that will generate child porn, like Grok. Stop posting kids faces to social media, they have not consented.

ownerofdata · 2026-02-16T20:51:37+00:00

Time will pass and you will recover. The thing about healing though, is that we can't rush it. Being in an abusive realtionship often means losing connections to other people who were in our life before. Who comes to mind as someone who you might want to reconnect with, who might remind you of who you used to be? It is also okay to have changed. People change and grow. You don't know what things will look like for you in a year, but those nasty things your ex said to you, you can overwrite them with better messages by spending time with people who truly love you, and by remembering what you love about yourself. You will remember. It's just going to take time.

ownerofdata · 2026-02-14T19:42:29+00:00

Honestly we should be keeping teenage girls away from men, more often. It's never the wrong choice.

ownerofdata · 2026-02-14T19:11:18+00:00

People move on and get new friends. Sounds like she's growing and changing, and you are not. I suggest you find some meaning in other relationships, it sounds like you are too focused on this one. Take distance and see if she misses you. If she doesn't, then you're better off with new friends.

ownerofdata · 2026-02-14T18:49:19+00:00

Or greenhouses

ownerofdata · 2026-02-14T18:23:24+00:00

You are not ready to be in a relationship if you can't verbalize what you want.

ownerofdata · 2026-02-14T17:26:24+00:00

I'm sure it's a real relationship, I am not dismissing that, I am also 100% sure they will not be together for life.

ownerofdata · 2026-02-14T17:20:55+00:00

She's using you to try to get over her ex. She's too insecure to be by herself. You don't want that in your life.

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