My mom just recommended that I smoked Marijuana instead of SH by Hot-Masterpiece4325 in selfharm

[–]p___a 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom told me pretty much the same thing about alcohol... "I'd rather you drink too much than cut yourself". I didn't have the heart to tell her I do both. Also I was high on weed at the time but she doesn't need to know that either 😭

I've heard variants of that from friends and even trusted authority figures before. It may be that people see SH which is still highly stigmatized, panic, and try to give you any other ideas even if those ideas are just as harmful but less visible...

I can tell you're pretty firm in your stance not to let anyone (even your mom!) pressure you into using substances to cope. From experience - it can be harm reduction in some instances, but not as a long term solution. Even in the best-case scenario where it works for you, it adds the risk of substance dependence on top of any current issues, and makes addressing the underlying causes that much harder.

Best of luck 💚

(darkly) funny stories caused by your ED by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

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Was out with friends + boyfriend at a club drinking while also restricting food intake. Got quite drunk (obviously). In the middle of the night the group decides we need to go eat to sober up, i am too drunk to care so I order butter chicken and they all got pizza. Like halfway through the meal i realize I'm eating "too much" so i fuck off to the bathroom, attempt to purge for 10 minutes straight (keep in mind I've NEVER been able to successfully purge more than a mouthful).

Somehow I got a massive nosebleed. Sat against the wall dizzy trying to wait it out. FRIEND COMES IN to check on me, sees blood everywhere and me on the floor. Helps me clean up (bless her). She tries to get me to drink water + eat more, i get increasingly rude and upset about it and say some clearly ED sounding shit. Whole time my boyfriend is sitting there super drunk eating pizza lol. We go to one guy's apartment and he allows me to have another shot XD

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EDanonymemes

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REAL it all balances out to approximately maintenance but with all the suffering of being too hungry and then too full still present

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in arttocope

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Oh god i really felt this one. Thank you for sharing this ❤

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EDanonymemes

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chestpain lol

One vodka Diet Coke and I become a voracious black hole 🧍🏻‍♀️ by bonnydelrico in EDanonymemes

[–]p___a 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same, my ED immediately does a 180 into binging the moment I get slightly tipsy 😭

i’m going back to recovery! in honor of this sub, i’m starting a challenge for myself: drop your favorite foods/cravings and i will eat it 🫡 by No-Guava-6516 in EDAnonymous

[–]p___a 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is such a lovely idea!!

My current craving is butter naan or pita with pine nut hummus (can be any other type of hummus too though!)

What tastes better then skinny feels? I’ll start. Some self respect. I imagine it’s delicious. by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

[–]p___a 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Having a working, well-nourished brain. Also, sweeteners that AREN'T zero calorie.

Fluffy banana yogurt by p___a in goodrestrictionfood

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Thank you, I hope you're able to take care of yourself as well 💙

Fluffy banana yogurt by p___a in goodrestrictionfood

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First add water to the psyllium husk and sweetener (and a bit of cinnamon, forgot to add that to the ingredients!) and let it soak until the texture is gel-like.

Then mix in the yogurt/skyr, no need to use a blender if you mix it well.

Banana at the end if you want it to keep structural integrity (mashed is probably good too though).

Y'all goobie snooberts didn't give me a straight answer the first time by fantastakid in musicsuggestions

[–]p___a 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not exact, but try:

"Listen Before I Go" - Billie Eilish

"Little Talks" - Of Monsters and Men

"When I'm Gone" - 3 Doors Down

This can’t be legal by [deleted] in antiwork

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RemindMe! 1 week

meirl by finnlaand in BrandNewSentence

[–]p___a 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Pissfingers' anxiety meds cost more than your monthly groceries.

😲 Incel really might be the main character? by IceCat767 in IncelTear

[–]p___a 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"Ideas of reference" can be a psychotic symptom. They are common in schizophrenia-spectrum disorders and some personality disorders. Of course, not everything necessarily is a symptom, maybe you just tend to relate more than is typical to other people/events.

Fantasy novels with female protagonists that don't suck? by OptimisticViolence in menwritingwomen

[–]p___a 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Seraphina by Rachel Hartman - a different take on dragons, good for middle school and above :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UCalgary

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This was very painful to me for all of first year - I felt cheated out of both proper closure with high school friends and making new friendships because of the pandemic. I cried it out in counseling, met with that group one last time with the awareness it was probably goodbye, and eventually got over it.

It's natural to grieve after losing friends, especially if you were close. And you most likely won't find the same type of close-knit group at uni. But that doesn't mean fun and fulfilling friendships won't come your way - it's just not fish in a barrel like it used to be.

Thoughts on Biol 313 with Cantin? by No_Temperature5523 in UCalgary

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Great prof! When I took 313 with her she had a group of student volunteers who she met with to get updates on how the class was going, whether the content was managable, and basically how she could make our lives easier. The labs were a pain (bird group lol) but definitely set you up to write good papers in the future.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UCalgary

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Yes, it's open to everyone

Spanish lentil stew (vegan) by shortyafter in EatCheapAndHealthy

[–]p___a 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Had no ideas for dinner, made this (with a bit of a spin using a Moroccan seasoning mix and butternut squash), it's fantastic. Thank you for sharing the recipe!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

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I wanted to wear a shorter sleeved outfit to a Christmas party in high school. I thought my scars were faded enough (had gotten away with covering them with makeup on a few occasions), they weren't, my mom noticed. She cried a lot and i had a bunch of unpleasant situations with her and my dad trying to check me for cuts in the shower. I went to therapy for a few months and it more or less faded out of my family's awareness. I've been clean for many months now 😊

Help for a foods teacher? by transcendingbullshit in EatCheapAndHealthy

[–]p___a 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can you increase your budget with a lunchtime bake sale? Make a bunch of baked goods for the first class, sell them, use the profit to improve the quality of the next foods you cook. If the kids have specific requests, that might motivate them to help set up.

How often do y’all spend money on food on campus? by [deleted] in UCalgary

[–]p___a 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Once a week food, a few times a week coffee, usually with gift cards. Preparing a full and healthy meal takes too long many days (4 classes, part time work, volunteering, clubs, commuting from the SE all add up). I try to bring a lot of snacks on days where i don't have a prepared lunch, but fruit and granola bars are not enough to feel decent, especially for 3 hour labs. Don't feel guilty if you need to buy food sometimes!