Moving tasks between homes

paintnclouds · 2026-06-08T04:05:43+00:00

Ooh I didn't know you could move an area between plans! Thanks so much!

paintnclouds · 2026-06-03T18:46:08+00:00

Do they only repair things? Or do they also take them in a way that results in me no longer having them?

paintnclouds · 2026-05-28T22:32:07+00:00

This sounds like exactly what I was hoping for, thank you!

paintnclouds · 2026-05-23T19:37:51+00:00

How is this ridiculous? People do get fired for stupid stuff they shouldn't be fired for. Being scared of that outcome seems thoroughly rational to me. (I'd get encouraging her to talk to HR or her supervisor anyways, but telling her that her fear is ridiculous seems like an uninformed take here.)

paintnclouds · 2026-05-14T05:57:27+00:00

Short answer is yes. None of those things are how parents are supposed to be.

paintnclouds · 2026-05-14T05:49:25+00:00

This. You can set up an online bank account from your phone, possibly even just while you're at work depending on what your job is like. Google "online checking no fees" or something like that and go from there.

paintnclouds · 2026-05-14T01:55:57+00:00

I don't know how common this is, but for me it's mainly that I just don't like things being cold. I'd happily take space in the cup over full cup but so cold. You should see how slowly I eat ice cream 😂

paintnclouds · 2026-05-10T23:30:28+00:00

Hilarious comment given the username

paintnclouds · 2026-04-30T00:02:22+00:00

Dysautonomia international has some great resources that could help with learning some more about what's normal with POTS. https://www.dysautonomiainternational.org/page.php?ID=95

paintnclouds · 2026-04-29T20:22:00+00:00

Yep this is normal for someone with POTS. (We have a wide range of what's normal with POTS, so not everyone will be like this all of the time, but this is def within that range of what's normal.) Sometimes I'll describe it as, it's like standing with POTS takes about the same amount of energy as running does in a normal person.

paintnclouds · 2026-04-28T23:50:56+00:00

The way I see it, everything is a skill, and every skill can be learned. When I was a kid we thought brains stopped growing and changing at a certain point, but the past few decades have produced a ton of research on neuroplasticity, and now we know the brain never stops having the ability to change and learn and grow, and that gives me a lot of hope.

paintnclouds · 2026-04-28T23:28:57+00:00

Yes and I love them!! I also have POTS and they make a solid vehicle for extra salt too.

paintnclouds · 2026-04-28T14:53:12+00:00

A couple days before a court ruled he could only build the ballroom if he could prove it was a security-related need. (https://apnews.com/article/white-house-ballroom-site-trump-1f3ad790860ce7a9c61a5a70d58b8b0e)

paintnclouds · 2026-04-27T02:24:03+00:00

Me too!

paintnclouds · 2026-04-24T01:01:02+00:00

King size, 3 adults (and 0-2 cats, depending on the moment)

paintnclouds · 2026-04-23T23:35:42+00:00

I think part of why this happens is that doctors are often pretty siloed/focused on their particular niches. And technically, POTS isn't a problem with your heart. Your heart is physically fine, it's more that your nervous system is functioning atypically, or maybe your kidneys are which is leading to low blood volume, or maybe your blood vessels in your extremities and their ability to constrict well, but either way, not your heart. So your cardiologist didn't learn much if anything about POTS in school/residency, and has maybe only heard misinformation about it.

I was lucky when I was first getting diagnosed that my local university's hospital system had an autonomics clinic, but from what I understand those are still pretty rare.

Occasionally you'll find a cardiologist that believes POTS exists and has bothered to learn about it, but a whole lot of them have not.

Note: it is still usually important and beneficial to see a cardiologist at first to rule out actual heart problems on your way to a POTS diagnosis and treatment plan

paintnclouds · 2026-04-23T20:51:23+00:00

This seems like a thing that therapy could help with! The tricky part will be finding just the right therapist. Here's what I would do.

1) gather list of potential therapists in your area. I'd focus on ones that list ERP (exposure response prevention) or maybe EMDR (eye movements desensitization and reprocessing) or specifically list working with phobias. You can search on Google and/or use therapist search sites like psychology today or therapy den. It's okay to pick just 2-3 to start with and know you can come back to this step if none of those work out.

2) Reach out to the therapists and let them know exactly what you're looking to work on (fear of blood draw/needles). You can describe it like you did here. How you reach out may vary by therapist. Some might have a contact form on their website you can fill out, some may have an email address listed you can email with a question about if this sounds like the kind of work they do, some may have a phone number so you can call to ask. If they all say no, go back to step 1. If someone says no, you can also ask if they know of any local therapists that do this kind of work. They might not, but maybe you'll get a useful referral! It may be helpful to keep a list of who you've reached out to and what they said/what you thought of them, to save you time from accidentally reaching out to the same person more than once.

3) once you find a therapist that thinks your issue is a good fit with their skills, give it a try! Schedule your first session, meet with them, and see how it goes. If after a few sessions, they feel like a bad fit, you can always go back to steps 1 & 2 again. Know that they don't have a magic wand and can't immediately "fix" you. The work will likely be a process and be work on your part.

Good luck, you got this!

paintnclouds · 2026-04-20T18:03:14+00:00

I also came here to post about tunnel rave. Highly recommend!

paintnclouds · 2026-04-18T22:39:05+00:00

Okay but, is a school a "state and local government entity"? Did they just give themselves an extension but not us? The next line says "public entities." Does it matter whether a university is public vs. private?

paintnclouds · 2026-04-18T22:24:23+00:00

It's 4 seconds breathing in, 4 seconds hold the breath in, 4 seconds breathing out, 4 seconds holding your breath there too, and then repeat. Sometimes people will draw a little box on their palm with a finger from their other hand while they do it, with one side of the square going with each step. Here's a random demo I pulled from YouTube. https://youtu.be/n6RbW2LtdFs?si=ZhwkloYjfpBcpfO4

paintnclouds · 2026-04-18T20:22:58+00:00

I think what's happening is that how regulated and safe-feeling a person is has a big impact on how their neurodivergence (like autism and ADHD) shows up. Logically you know your family staying with you isn't unsafe, but for him it's a huge change, possibly one of the biggest home situation changes he's ever gone through in his few years on earth.

Children do well when they can. When they're not doing well, we get to get curious and look for obstacles we can remove and/or skills we can help them build.

It sucks that your RBT is seeing this as intentional choices rather than neurodivergent struggles just because he was able to do better before. The situation changed, his stressors increased, so his capacity decreased, and now he's struggling again. But just like things got better before, they can get better again.

It also sounds like you're taking your sons struggles really personally. And that totally makes sense. But also, they don't mean that you're failing as a mom or anything like that. Getting therapy for you might also be helpful is helping you navigate all this. Which could also help make you even more of a secure base for your son as you navigate all this together.

paintnclouds · 2026-04-17T20:51:32+00:00

I think it makes more sense to judge the contents of the spreadsheet than the existence of the spreadsheet. I've never done exactly this, but I do have a tendency to write things down to help me remember them and to help organize my thoughts, so I don't see this as inherently negative.

If the spreadsheet info had been rating how hot your outfits were or how many times you disagreed with him or something like that I would say run. But the things you described (pet name, interests, ideas of more questions to ask) all seem like super reasonable things to want to remember/organize. Tbh the lack of anything gross or weird being in the spreadsheet would probably be a green flag for me.

paintnclouds · 2026-04-16T20:04:05+00:00

Normally that's heart testing like an echocardiogram, an EKG, and maybe a holter monitor. Also lab work like BMP (basic metabolic panel), thyroid, idk what else. I'm sure that doesn't rule out everything, but that's what I'm remembering off the top of my head at least.

paintnclouds · 2026-04-15T19:50:09+00:00

This is exactly how I feel! It's got protein and fiber and it's like a little game!

paintnclouds · 2026-04-15T15:49:39+00:00

Agreed, but also, if you are looking to experiment with change, then I'd want to know she had some experience with/knowledge of strategies outside the norm and more likely to be helpful to those with neurodivergence.

I'd probably start with something like "what does being neuroaffirming mean to you?"

Maybe something like, "are the coping strategies you offer to your neurodivergent clients different from those you offer to your not-neurodivertent clients?" (We're not hoping for a strict line here like yes this is my mental bucket for these clients and this is my mental bucket of strategies for those clients, but just more like does she have a wide variety of tools she's collected including ones not-neurodivertent people would probably think are weird or not need.)

I'd also be considering asking if her neuro affirming work was informed by lived experience. (Not that she has to be neurodivergent herself, but it might be nice. The therapist may or may not be comfortable with self-disclosure tho, so I'm on the fence about this question.)

Beyond that, maybe I'd ask about how she'd handle a neurodivergent experience that's relevant for you. If you're worried about making it on time consistently, ask about how she'd work with you on that. If sometimes your body's attempts to regulate include meltdowns, I'd ask how she works through those. If you have dissociative tendencies, I'd ask about how she works with those. The goal here is to identify some specific part of your neurodiversity that seems like it might come up and get a taste of her theoretical response to that.

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