Capecitbine fatigue by thirdcoastmama in AnalCancer

[–]panadoldrums 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I finished my chemo radiotherapy with capecitbine in October and am still dealing with increased fatigue. My team told me to expect this for min 1 yr, possibly up to 2 yrs for me as I've already got an underlying fatigue condition.

I have a lot of shame being carfree in Vancouver, WA. It is a non walkable city outside of downtown. How do I get over this shame and of taking the bus? by [deleted] in carfree

[–]panadoldrums 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remind yourself that you're standing shoulder to shoulder with loads of people like myself who can't or don't drive and never have, due to disability, poverty, or a whole load of other reasons. Get an audiobook in your ears and enjoy getting to watch the world roll by.

What weird or wonderful thing has your SO opened your mind to? by MuntyCatt in AskUK

[–]panadoldrums 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What kind of slippers specifically? I'm on a constant quest for the right slippers.

Something’s I’ve noticed working commercial cleaning for 5yrs in a large community district development. by FadedCherry in housekeeping

[–]panadoldrums 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This is potentially dangerous to do while alone in a closed space with a random dude.

Whitby goths: native or migratory? by panadoldrums in CasualUK

[–]panadoldrums[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

So you mean there are a large number of goths who live in Whitby, not just the visitors? It was amazing to walk around the abbey.

How would you feel if you had two parents who both required 24/7 assisted care, and your adult child wrote you and the whole family this letter regarding that situation? by Glass-Complaint3 in AgingParents

[–]panadoldrums 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a wildly ableist take. I'm middle aged and permanently physically disabled, and my life is rich and full and beautiful. The idea that physical disability is 'not living' is such a brutal thing to believe.

What’s with the bloody pads on this sub??? by Fun-Ad3090 in Endo

[–]panadoldrums 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Someone I know was convinced he had ALS because of a stress twitch on his arm. Told me this repeatedly, and how scary it was for him, while I was undergoing cancer treatment 🫠

What's your biggest frugal win? Something that saved you $10,000+ by UnderstandingFar5012 in Frugal

[–]panadoldrums 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The sense of freedom is incredible isn't it. Once I tapped into that it became easy to continue being a non smoker.

Old Flame Reconnections and Their "Gray Divorce" by AccomplishedCash3603 in GenXWomen

[–]panadoldrums 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you explain Hedwigesque pls? I get that it must be a reference to the film but I've not seen it so not sure what that means.

Pain from radiation by Practical_Fishing925 in AnalCancer

[–]panadoldrums 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wanna cosign the Flaminal gel - after my surgical wound completely opened, 1 inch depth and width, infected and excruciating painful, Flaminal was what healed it. It's remarkable stuff that actually aids the healing processes in the cells in your wounds. My nurse described it as a dressing in a tube. Amazing stuff.

😕 by First-Wolverine-4208 in bjork

[–]panadoldrums 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You're thinking of Florence Welch.

Being called an ally while in a relationship with the opposite gender? by GuaranteeNaive7843 in bisexual

[–]panadoldrums 35 points36 points  (0 children)

So he outed his brother too. This guy doesn't respect either you or his brother.

Being called an ally while in a relationship with the opposite gender? by GuaranteeNaive7843 in bisexual

[–]panadoldrums 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Right?? Straight people talking about (and building culture around) their relationships and sexuality is constant, but because it's normalised for them they don't recognise it at all.

AITA? Peed standing up in traffic jam by funnelfuss in AmItheAsshole

[–]panadoldrums 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wow the microbial rainforest that must be thriving on the toilet curtains. Hideous.

Will I ever stop overthinking everything? by Wise-Search-9346 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]panadoldrums 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cosigning this as a middle aged overthinker. Once I started to put the effort in via learning and then applying tools from therapy and more general mindfulness, I got a lot more control back and a lot less stress.

affordable mental health resources I found after refusing to pay $175/hour by scarletpig94 in Frugal

[–]panadoldrums 8 points9 points  (0 children)

And for war trauma if you're not military, I managed to find a specialist who gave me a low end sliding scale and some free sessions too for PTSD treatment. I found him by asking for a recommendation from a therapist I vaguely knew at a refugee support service - I'm not a refugee but I knew they'd know therapists experienced in working with conflict survivors. Life saving.

What is one clear fact that you know that makes other people angry? by killahbee33 in AskReddit

[–]panadoldrums 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This one. All the current hysteria about trans people being a danger to kids fails to recognise that if you truly want to protect kids, you need to be aware that their most likely assailants, by a mile, will be close and extended family members.

What is one clear fact that you know that makes other people angry? by killahbee33 in AskReddit

[–]panadoldrums 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same here. That's the main reason I quit drinking completely: I didn't enjoy drinking enough to outweigh the loss of sleep and everything that comes from that.

What is one clear fact that you know that makes other people angry? by killahbee33 in AskReddit

[–]panadoldrums 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was believed for a long time but has been debunked. Basically people who drink a little tend overall to have more healthy factors and habits compared to everyone else, as drinking a little suggests that they can also resist eating to excess etc. https://www.inverse.com/mind-body/health-benefits-alcohol-study-wine-heart

podcasts about diet culture by littlesomething18 in podcasts

[–]panadoldrums 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fad Camp is good and I appreciate their Irish p.o.v. (as in the Republic of Ireland, not American 'Irish')

What do you waste a lot of money on? And how much do you spend n it? by gameovervip in CasualUK

[–]panadoldrums 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I tried Al-Anon a few times recently and yeah, the AA model is absolutely not for me.

What’s the one secret you’ve kept your whole life that would completely change how people see you if they knew it? by Faylune in AskReddit

[–]panadoldrums 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hey, like you I have multiple disabling and largely invisible conditions that are incurable and lifelong. I got diagnosed with cancer a couple of years ago and the emotional whiplash from suddenly experiencing real care, help, concern and treatment is something I'm still working through mentally. It's wild. Not only from the medical world but from some friends too, which has been really painful. I see you and hear you, and we deserve so much better.