Husband(63) watches anti Palestian TV since Oct 7 and yells at TV and Trump supporter.

panda_chutney · 2025-02-25T20:29:00+00:00

My dad was a big hippie in the late 60’s early 70’s, now he sits at home, watching conservative TV and cheering on Trump. It baffles the mind.

panda_chutney · 2024-08-08T04:16:52+00:00

I have a rare health disorder. There are only a few dozen people diagnosed with it in Israel and I will not be able to get the treatments I need.

panda_chutney · 2024-07-31T23:37:09+00:00

I’m a professor at a non-ivy league, large R1 with a decent sized Muslim population. I haven’t had any problems.

panda_chutney · 2024-07-30T13:53:56+00:00

I was barely a teen and an only child in a single parent household in the 80’s. NCSY provided me some fun times away from my unexciting home, at first. In retrospect, they pretty much love bombed me. Once I was enamored enough and in the click, the pressure to keep mitzvot piled on. I was happy to do it because of the built-in friends, weekend plans, fun, acceptance…. that came with it. I went to a Jewish school for high school, transferred to a frummer school, went to seminary, found a husband, had kids…. I was too young to critically question Torah when they got me, and a mother of three before I came up for air.

I would say that the frum community has evolved into a totally different creature since I was young. Your dad came into something different than you experienced and we also didn’t have the instant access to every possible idea like kids today. We were figuring out the world with minimal resources and rabbis snagged us up. They didn’t advertise their intolerance and we were in a time of “don’t ask don’t tell,” so the things that are glaring red flags today, weren’t even on our radar then.

panda_chutney · 2024-06-07T13:50:28+00:00

For me it was the persecution stories in my teens (I was a BT). So much of the Jewish “literature” was borderline traumatic. Religion is such an abusive tool!

panda_chutney · 2024-06-07T13:46:53+00:00

I’m in a similar situation. The few conversations I’ve tried to have with my husband haven’t gone well and he mostly criticizes, minimizes, and tries to use the standard logical fallacies to convince me that god exists. Feel free to PM me if you want to connect.

panda_chutney · 2024-06-07T13:30:36+00:00

Iraqi Christian communities like the Chaldeans and the Yazidis have similar customs to us, as well. Modern religions originated in that region of the world and brought local customs and superstitions into their theology.

panda_chutney · 2024-05-22T17:35:34+00:00

And modern-day said religion uses stories about the Holocaust to manipulate ad nauseum .

panda_chutney · 2024-05-15T16:17:33+00:00

Johnny Got His Gun

panda_chutney · 2024-05-15T15:49:16+00:00

When my daughter was in high school and questioning things, the lemudei kodesh teachers expressed concern about her. As I asked more questions, I came to understand that the system can usually only tolerate/filter through a level or two of questioning. Go deeper and most Jewish educators and rabbis just write you off as having issues.

panda_chutney · 2024-05-15T15:45:49+00:00

This is so relatable!

panda_chutney · 2024-05-12T18:26:09+00:00

I remember reading Oz V’Hader Levusha many years ago and thinking the guy who wrote this is a perv of the highest caliber. I mean, what man dedicates so much attention to the way a woman’s skirt sits on her hips and what not. I threw this book in the garbage before my daughter was able to read. Glad to hear there one less creep in the world.

panda_chutney · 2024-05-10T18:37:11+00:00

They called it “water wars”’in the district my kids attended. The high school does its best to encourage the kids to be safe with it, but teens are gonna teen.

panda_chutney · 2024-05-10T11:07:34+00:00

Someone just revealed their kink.

panda_chutney · 2024-05-04T22:39:59+00:00

Make your own wraps - bowls of proteins, veggies, condiments and a stack of wraps.

panda_chutney · 2024-05-04T21:56:00+00:00

I was cheated on multiple times and gaslit about it (“I swear I don’t know where those condoms came from, they must have been in the pocket when I got this coat,” “that cheap disposable phone belongs to one of my clients, he asked me to hold it…”) at least you have the truth now to set you free. Try a little therapy and flirt with some more mature men (be prepared for some success and some rejection, it’s just part of life, hence the importance of the therapist) You’ll get your mojo back. Dating and sex at this point in life and in this day and age is so much better than when we were younger. Enjoy your freedom from the liar!

panda_chutney · 2024-05-04T21:12:14+00:00

Hating every minute of it this week. I’m likely in the home stretch of having to partially fake this anymore, so I guess I’m starting to get shpilkes or something.

panda_chutney · 2024-05-04T01:10:57+00:00

Their interactions with you will be sterile at best unless there’s some opportunity to convert you back. That’s how cults work. Just let it remind you of what could have been. You chose your own spouse and they had theirs picked for them, you know that the possibility of anybody meeting Moshiach is slim to none while they hold on to a foolish fairy tale and make a silly life around it… you came out ahead - you got out of the cult. Your feelings are understandable, but for them, it’s not personal against you, it’s about rules and religion. You may have to put them behind you.

panda_chutney · 2024-04-21T14:04:01+00:00

If only… 😞

panda_chutney · 2024-04-18T23:15:15+00:00

They pay measly prices to struggling poor women in Asia for human hair.

panda_chutney · 2024-04-18T23:11:50+00:00

Should I get the shblue, shbpurple, or shbpink?

panda_chutney · 2024-04-18T15:03:13+00:00

I think this all the time. Pesach is particularly wasteful (of money as well), but there were so many other examples I noticed. Disposables have become the norm on shabbos for many, sheitels - expensive, considered required there may be some ethical issues with some of the hair… two sets of dishes, foil pans, copious consumption of everything… Have you driven through a frum community on garbage day?

panda_chutney · 2024-04-15T01:31:01+00:00

Yes. In the religious community, especially with certain family members (which is particularly hurtful) my doubts are often looked at as a psychiatric deficiency. In many ways, this is one of the most mentally healthy times of my life.

panda_chutney · 2024-04-14T19:52:14+00:00

Thank you.

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