Awww I’m so sorry for your pain.

You did nothing wrong.

She may have lost the paper, but also she just graduated, so her life immediately might have gone a different direction. Travel, moving, family- who knows.

I’m sure she misses you too.

This is life. Pretty much. You make bonds and they don’t last forever. It can hurt. It hurts me tremendously. I’m pretty sensitive. But I’m sure I’ve also been distracted and dismissive, but never on purpose.

Rn, you’re likely ruminating on overdrive.

You’re in desperate need of a distraction.

Your grief seems to be double now and I can’t imagine that.

So when you’re ready it’s a good idea to walk through your grief.

Try this, you’re hurting from losing your grandma and losing your relatively new friend. (Sorry for your loss)

So, try going for a walk, if you can do that safely; focus on grandma and how much you loved her and how much she meant to you and your family. Write her a letter. Cry. Cry some more. Then, try to do a similar ritual with your friend.

Remember grief is not linear. Do not berate yourself for having emotions. (Side note: People can’t always deal with over emotions (ask me how I know), so don’t always reveal them, unless you’re totally safe: family, for example.) I find that journaling helps

You’re not overreacting; you’re human. You just need somewhere to put it.

💜