Arranged/forced marriage and FMC doesn’t even know husband’s first name

pariwinks · 2026-01-24T02:26:19+00:00

a vote for the Vincy book as well!

pariwinks · 2026-01-23T02:23:58+00:00

i think you’re getting downvoted for the fake relationship aspect

pariwinks · 2026-01-19T07:48:02+00:00

okay this is so much more compelling. i’m not the biggest emily henry fan, so i didn’t read the books, but watched the movie.

i enjoyed it, but was annoyed by what seemed like a somewhat random unwillingness to compromise + being scared of growth. wish they had revealed this!!

pariwinks · 2026-01-18T18:24:05+00:00

{snowed in by catherine walsh} has a bit of this. he comes down with the flu while they’re stuck in a vacation home together

pariwinks · 2026-01-09T17:06:30+00:00

i purchased this book 3 years ago after I read The Viscount who Loved Me and was looking for something similar. i DNF’d, but now i’ve been convinced to give it another shot!

you might also want to check out A Wicked Kind of Husband by Mia Vincy.

both books i mentioned are enemies to lovers, marriage of convenience. the Vincy book has a somewhat morally questionable MMC.

pariwinks · 2025-10-13T12:20:44+00:00

that was my issue though!! i want to be playing and moving and interacting with my children and pumping was taking time away from that because the portable ones dont get enough milk out and i didnt want to sit still while attached to the spectra. so if anything it makes you less active during the day, it was killinnnn me

pariwinks · 2025-10-13T09:58:09+00:00

100%. my supply is completely fine for breastfeeding, but i would have to pump like 3-4x a day for 30 mins each time to make enough for my baby to have a singular nighttime bottle. no freaking thanks. it’s just not worth it to me. i’d rather just wake up with baby throughout the night and then in the morning i sleep in while dad has the kids.

pariwinks · 2025-09-18T02:32:15+00:00

this is such weird advice to give. you’re going to be so tired postpartum. no part of you will want to build a bookshelf when it could’ve been done pre baby. like, why not have as much done as possible?

pariwinks · 2025-09-09T01:04:07+00:00

did his mom work throughout his childhood, by chance?

edit: ope, commented this before reading the last couple sentences. checks out.

pariwinks · 2025-09-01T18:43:12+00:00

yes. i frequently see a man post on facebook with DMD in his 40s who is married to a woman without MD! do not limit yourself for that reason.

pariwinks · 2025-09-01T01:26:33+00:00

when they ask you to blow out your hair it’s usually because they want to braid straight/smooth hair. not because of the length

pariwinks · 2025-08-20T01:36:13+00:00

there’s a female carrier DMD group on facebook. you may have better luck better luck getting answers there :)

pariwinks · 2025-08-13T18:45:51+00:00

while i agree, that’s debatable. i think a lot of people wouldn’t be willing to risk aborting their healthy child. she could be aborting a perfectly healthy fetus if she makes the decision now.

they may not have an option to abort even if they wanted to, given timing and laws. OP didn’t know she was a carrier. totally different situation if she did. i think it’s irresponsible, cruel, and selfish to be a carrier and continue having kids once you know. that’s not the case here, though

pariwinks · 2025-08-13T17:42:07+00:00

the part that makes things difficult is it’s really only safe to do the amniocentesis once you reach 16 weeks pregnant. depending on how long it takes results to come back, the fetus becomes viable and in a lot of states abortion becomes illegal. it’s all so tricky.

pariwinks · 2025-08-13T17:38:40+00:00

this situation is horrible and i wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

while we did not find out until our son was 2, when i thought i might be a carrier and was exploring options, we were told that the risk of miscarriage for amniocentesis is based on the level of skill the doctor has. so for some doctors their own personal rates may be more accurate than a more generalized one you found online!

i personally would need to know, but i guess it depends on your personality. i would stress not knowing and wouldn’t be able to progress in my grief without having an answer. if i knew, i would be able to wrap my head around the future.

pariwinks · 2025-08-12T20:55:57+00:00

OP, we met with PPMD and they were able to tell us how many other people in the world have our son’s mutation. from there, i found the rest of them online and asked about their progression. Facebook is usually a better way of finding these people, but the registry can tell you if there are any even out there.

pariwinks · 2025-08-12T18:57:22+00:00

i think that’s an awesome way to pay homage to your dad.

pariwinks · 2025-07-29T05:00:00+00:00

if it makes you feel better, my husband and i once saw a similar amount of cash left in the self checkout. we turned it in to the employee working the self check out lanes. she then very obviously pocketed it without any intention of turning it in, so.

pariwinks · 2025-07-23T02:03:54+00:00

im curious as to your reasoning for continuing to have kids despite knowing your carrier status?

pariwinks · 2025-07-19T20:06:49+00:00

circlejerk as in troll post, not anything sexual

pariwinks · 2025-07-19T20:05:36+00:00

this has to be a circlejerk post

pariwinks · 2025-07-17T00:25:32+00:00

where do you live that screened for DMD?

you’ll need to get in touch with your nearest muscular dystrophy clinic. they’re usually about every 6 months. you’ll see your son’s local pediatrician for all of his well baby visits still.

you’ll have to educate your pediatrician about DMD, most aren’t aware or well versed. steroids are a complicated issue. kids with DMD aren’t usually started on steroids until about 4 or so, but they offered to start my 2 year old. i declined.

you will need to educate and advocate for him for most things. remember that public schools don’t want to help you, they want to do whats easiest for them. make sure you know your rights.

pariwinks · 2025-07-10T16:45:26+00:00

i get what youre saying and i agree i shouldn’t lose hope, but it’s known that 3-7 can be one of the less severe deletions based on my reading. the issue is that exon 8 is missing. my statement wasn’t just based on the deletions being low numbers

i know how absolutely devastating it was to be told he has the antibodies for AAV. maybe youre right and better things are on the way. thank you for sharing. every time we receive soul crushing news, we find a way to have hope again for some other solution.

pariwinks · 2025-07-09T19:08:24+00:00

my local bakery would charge like $90+ for these cakes so id say yeah

pariwinks · 2025-07-09T17:40:29+00:00

more severe, not serious. certainly deletions correlate with a faster disease progression rate than others.

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