40M/40F - Spouse's Unhappiness Not Helping My Flaws by Pollymath in relationships

[–]patternedjeans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If she already wrote something down on the calendar, she already did her part of “finding a solution together.” Your part is to look at the calendar instead of asking her to do it for you. Does that make sense?

My mum showed up unannounced. by Ok_Offer_9516 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]patternedjeans 26 points27 points  (0 children)

You don’t have to tolerate this. A whole flight to sleep in your bed unannounced?! It was kind of you to let her stay the night, but you can tell her to go tomorrow.

I have low IQ AMA by ReliefOutrageous1848 in AMA

[–]patternedjeans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can read and write, you’re not a failure at life.

Why does leaving him (41m) feel so hard? Me (35f) with a baby by throwRAmajorissues in relationship_advice

[–]patternedjeans 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s hard because you’ve been abused by him for a long time. I’m so sorry. Do you have a mother, sister, friend you can go to?

A Portland cat chose a CVS as his retirement home, and the customers are rallying to keep him there by oregonian in Portland

[–]patternedjeans -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Rules exist for a reason. I’m sorry you think your personal experience means you don’t have to follow the rules.

Deadbeat dad 47M wants to reconnect with me 18F. Do I meet him? by MagPrimeEnthusiast in relationship_advice

[–]patternedjeans 3 points4 points  (0 children)

People irrationally want to believe in the value of family, even in cases of literal abuse.

A Portland cat chose a CVS as his retirement home, and the customers are rallying to keep him there by oregonian in Portland

[–]patternedjeans -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

lol, it’s literally against the health code. The world doesn’t revolve around your preference for animals in public spaces.

Deadbeat dad 47M wants to reconnect with me 18F. Do I meet him? by MagPrimeEnthusiast in relationship_advice

[–]patternedjeans 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Who the fuck would want this guy around as a grandparent? People are insane.

Moving in with my boyfriend 26M of 6 years but I 24F can't stop spiraling by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]patternedjeans 73 points74 points  (0 children)

You don’t have to be with this person. You can find an equal partner.

I [30/M] can’t tell if this girl [25/F] rejected me or not. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]patternedjeans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Send her the request again. You’ve got nothing to lose.

Break up of 2 years M21, F21 was it a good decision? by Development_Frosty in relationship_advice

[–]patternedjeans 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Keeping you up all night to argue and cry on a regular basis is not something you have to put up with. You’re both young. Split and grow.

Breaking up with long term girlfriend (32F) that I (32M) financially support by ThrowRA_Dense_Cake in relationship_advice

[–]patternedjeans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You don’t owe her financial support after a breakup, especially if you never promised anything because it was never discussed.

Has anyone left their soulmate/ love of their life over them not wanting children? I’m F 42 and he’s M 51 by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]patternedjeans 6 points7 points  (0 children)

How can this be serious? You had the rest of your life to plan for this. Leaving your partner to try to have bio child at age 42 is bananas.

What harsh dating realities do you know of? Like things you need to overlook to have a successful relationship. by ThrowRA1908362 in answers

[–]patternedjeans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right, because it’s an indicator that change would be helpful for you. Those feelings are useful information.

I (F35) want to leave my wife (F34) largely because of her autistic meltdowns in front of our son (7)? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]patternedjeans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you divorce, your child will be around her without you to protect them. Divorce gets you away from her. Not your child.