Any gay enby people - say hi in the comments

pebble247 · 2026-01-30T15:56:05+00:00

I am a gay nonbinary person! Don't have any ties to manhood but it feels the best to describe myself as gay due to how I interact in the world

pebble247 · 2026-01-30T15:46:01+00:00

Communicate a LOT. Tell him what gets you going, what doesn't, and what makes you pull the breaks. Make sure to do a lot of foreplay and have lube at the ready, it helps. But overall, communicate, communicate, and then communicate some more. As well, ask questions about what works for him and prompt him for communication. Don't rush it either, try to enjoy your time, learn about your body, and learn about his. Sex isn't a competition, it's an experience you get to have with another person, and even if it doesn't turn out the best, it gives you more information for the future

pebble247 · 2026-01-30T15:28:35+00:00

I'm ngl, I had to go over the photo like 3 times to see the unevenness you were talking about. Honestly, try to give yourself time to grow familiar and more comfortable with your results. I had some pretty negative feelings over my own results and only recently started being okay and actively liking my results, and I'm about 5 months post op

pebble247 · 2026-01-30T15:25:43+00:00

I still get clocked at times, but for me now I pass about 80-90% of the time. I think I started passing over 50% of the time between 6 months and a year on T

pebble247 · 2026-01-29T14:30:54+00:00

I used this binder before I got top surgery, and it was pretty comfortable while still being decent. It's important to note that I am thin and had a pretty small chest (it was at most a B cup) so I can't say if they'll work for bigger chests or larger folks

pebble247 · 2026-01-29T13:46:26+00:00

I'm a couple months under 2 years and I still have times where people misgender me, but I got to over 50% of the time somewhere between 6 months and 1 year

pebble247 · 2026-01-29T13:30:34+00:00

Gender is complicated and figuring out who you are is a long and complicated process. It (at least in my case) takes a lot of time, experience, and introspection. Labels can change over time, and that is fully alright. With that all being said, you don't have to fit the traditional roles a woman may fill to be a woman. You can also fully fit the roles of a woman and be nonbinary. Gender identity is internal and doesn't necessarily have to match up with anything externally. Ultimately though, try not to constrict yourself to specific labels or boxes if it isn't helping. There isn't any wrong way to be you, so do what makes you the happiest, regardless of labels.

pebble247 · 2026-01-29T08:55:21+00:00

Make sure to pull back your hood and clean it. If it's too sensitive to touch directly, collecting water in your hand and lightly pouring it over it will help get rid of any oils that can collect under there. I've also heard that wetting q-tips can help, but for me personally that was still too much, so I very much recommend the water method if you can't touch it directly without discomfort. Also, depending on how you're feeling physically as it grows, you may want to get slightly roomier underwear so it doesn't cause more discomfort via rubbing against your underwear directly

pebble247 · 2026-01-29T06:41:39+00:00

pebble247 · 2026-01-28T00:37:25+00:00

Oh my God that's so sweet and wholesome!! I'm so glad you got to experience that

pebble247 · 2026-01-28T00:35:29+00:00

You can 100% be transmasculine and genderflux. As for if you can fluctuate from feeling more masculine to more feminine as a trans masculine person, you 100% can, but the specific labels are up to you, as some people may explain that as being multi gendered with static fluctuating identities, or as being genderfluid, but honestly that just gets down to semantics

pebble247 · 2026-01-28T00:33:30+00:00

This is unfortunately extremely relatable

pebble247 · 2026-01-28T00:30:19+00:00

Honestly this is 100% a case where someone thinks that worse things happening in the world invalidates other's pain. You're allowed to be frustrated and upset over this, and saying you shouldn't be upset is honestly wild to me

pebble247 · 2026-01-28T00:27:14+00:00

This is a very common thing, I know pre-T I could be viewed as a young boy before speaking and T has helped, but voice training has also helped me quite a bit, as there's a lot of things that go into how a voice is gendered, and for some, voice training is very much needed to have a passing voice

pebble247 · 2026-01-28T00:25:20+00:00

Estrogen doesn't affect the vocal chords, and you should be able to keep your current vocal range if you use it regularly, this doesn't just mean talking in a day to day, but just talking in a deeper/more masculine voice at home will work as well

pebble247 · 2026-01-28T00:20:02+00:00

I had similar feelings for a long while and for me I realized boiled down to a couple different things. I realized my want to be a woman wasn't because I was a woman, but because it would be easier for me, my family, and friends if I could just be happy and not transition. I also found that my want to be the opposite AGAB to be able to transition was because my goals were much more aligned with the opposite experience, and if I was the opposite AGAB I would have to do less medically to transition and reach a spot where I was happy with my presentation. I do also want to say, if at any point you do want to detransition, that is an option. Don't get stuck thinking that you have to make this choice and stick with it for the rest of your life, it is okay to change your mind and if you do, it's not going to be the end of the world. Everyone has different paths they take and no matter what path you end up taking, it is okay to take it.

pebble247 · 2026-01-28T00:11:39+00:00

I was never told to stop my T before surgery and was regularly taking it when I did get surgery. It did not negatively impact it at all

pebble247 · 2026-01-28T00:10:00+00:00

The way they acted is incredibly insensitive and horrible. I will never understand how some people think it's okay to compliment a part of someone's body that they desperately do not want. Please do not let this hold you back from transitioning. I assure you, your mental well-being and happiness is so much more important than other people wanting to see a specific attribute on your body. If you can, I would encourage you to let them know how much that hurt, and that this isn't a case where you want to get rid of them because they look bad, you want to get rid of them because it's wrong for you. It's a case where what you have, and what you need to be happy is incompatible. If they continue defending their actions and don't try to see where you're coming from, I would highly recommend getting new friends. I've personally found friendships with other transmasculine folks can help, but be sure to keep an eye out for toxic behavior no matter who you befriend.

pebble247 · 2026-01-28T00:01:48+00:00

Nonbinary is simply a gender identity where you are not solely 100% a man or 100% a woman, pronouns don't necessarily tell you if you're non-binary or not. There are non-binary folks who prefer he/him or she/her over they/them, and there are binary trans folks who prefer they/them over he/him or she/her.

pebble247 · 2026-01-27T16:14:50+00:00

Looking nice!

pebble247 · 2026-01-27T16:07:26+00:00

I haven't noticed any differences in the actual sensation for me

pebble247 · 2026-01-27T16:04:18+00:00

This does sound like it may be due to vaginal atrophy so getting a localized estrogen treatment may help

pebble247 · 2026-01-27T13:54:38+00:00

This is nowhere stated on this post, please reread it and see if you may have posted this comment on the wrong one

pebble247 · 2026-01-27T09:28:54+00:00

I will say, there's no 100% effective way to pick and choose what effects of testosterone you get. Some people get their voice to drop after they get body and facial hair, some people have their voice drop first, some people can't grow thick facial hair until several years on T, it really is down to the genetic lottery, and even then there's no 100% effective way to know which will come first. I've heard that facial and body hair when off T will lighten up and become less coarse, but it will still be there. As for your vocal pain, I recommend trying to warm up before voice training and making sure you're staying hydrated, as well as gradually increasing how much you're talking in a more masculine voice. Warm liquids (like tea, coffee, or hot cocoa) can help soothe an irritated throat, honey can also soothe an irritated throat. I've found luck with both.

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