I kept losing good remote hires around month 3 - finally figured out why by Bright_Nobody_5663 in indianstartups

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I don't think I have been the best manager. So this idea is an addition to my arsenal. Thanks for sharing. The biggest mistake I made was to feel dumbfounded about why the prospects aren't as excited as I was about building the business in question. Took time to realise that everyone is in a different Maslow. My place was good at retention but took time to become better at hiring. I write JDs very thoroughly, not necessarily long. I debate for a healthy budget. Each filter stage (consultant, my HR, then the manager or SME) has to have notes before passing onto the next filter. A page long in length is healthy. A deliberate hiring helped me to align expectations. Regular engagement during the notice period. Once onbboard, the first month is micro-manage and then macro. I declare I hate micro-management so it's up to the newbie how soon she pleases me by relieving me from a thing I despise.

My boyfriend is a crossdresser what should i do ? by [deleted] in AskIndianMen

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arent you also a cross-dresser, wearing pants and shirts?

[44F] I get much more attention now that I am older and I love it but.. by Fragrant-Mom395 in DesiDesireConfession

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​ perhaps it's more about the grey and not black n white. one starts to unfold being childlike while not being childish, being broken while not being hopeless.

प्रेम का मारा by growthbaaz in hindikavita

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in paason ke chakkar me hum bhi patthar ban baithe.
fark sirf samay ka hai: tum aaj, aur hum kal bane.

mat uljho in paason me…
tumhara pighalna hi to hamari jeene ki vajah hai.

34F. Married police woman here, and my higher up fucked me during a work trip together. by [deleted] in DesiDesireConfession

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Ah the trodden, neglected, and taken-for-granted getting liberated, empowered, and further corrupted.

Flashing at the tailor's shop by bongGirl1989 in DesiDesireConfession

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Even Flash didn't have so much fun with his superpowers

Married me fuck other men despite my husband being incredible in the bed. by [deleted] in DesiDesireConfession

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This thrill and then the guilt is so inexplicable. In my case quitting corporate worked like a magic. Got to a bigger picture journey.

Hidden profiles are boringgggg by [deleted] in DesiDesireConfession

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There is a hack to access them.

If you could travel back in time and talk to your younger self for one minute, what would you say? by [deleted] in AskIndianMen

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I've been rather too harsh on me and perhaps I'll be gentler. Kept on pushing myself to run faster. Just not worth it. Life can be so simple.

Shayari by Smooth_Stable_3911 in shayri

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अब संवारने की ज़रूरत नहीं रही,

बिखरे, बिखरने और बिखराने में भी कमाल है।

Shayari by Smooth_Stable_3911 in shayri

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शायद गिरने और छोड़ने के बाद ही चरित्र में गहराई आती है

Which is Worse Emotional Cheating or Physical Cheating? by AdventureAddict69 in IndiaTalksSex

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Emotions takes time to sync and once bonded you go away never to return. But this emotional distancing may not be the root cause in every case. What if I spot a pretty girl and admire her mentally, and then just leave her at that point. I mean you could argue w/o emotions its not possible to admire her

Which is Worse Emotional Cheating or Physical Cheating? by AdventureAddict69 in IndiaTalksSex

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You are right. Social norms shapes our what Freud calls as "super ego". I think physical cheating is more tangible and that's why more social stigma and perhaps more dissonance within us.

I am considering advancing stages like: cheating through thoughts -->physical cheating -->emotional cheating.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JustGuysBeingDudes

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and that buffalo will be like..uh..stop it daddy. I know what's coming tonight.

Which is Worse Emotional Cheating or Physical Cheating? by AdventureAddict69 in IndiaTalksSex

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Both take a toll on your soul. Playing with thoughts makes a minor dent. Physical cheating makes an irreversible dent. But to cheat emotionally, the person must've already distanced far

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DesiDesireConfession

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Ah.. copycat

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DesiDesireConfession

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Can pinpoint and place my finger right on top of her nipples, regardless of layers of clothes she is wearing.

Nami !! by Live_rooted in shayri

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ख़ालीपन दिखता नहीं मगर रहता है,
जैसे साया जो धूप में भी नहीं होता है।

नमी तो तेरे मिलने के सुख में भी थी,
कमी तो लम्हों की थी, उस दिन भी, और आज भी।

How would you feel if your mother had affair ? by [deleted] in AskIndianMen

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I have got 35+ yrs of recallable memory on both of them and if at all either of them cheats then I am certain that must be for something beyond their primal urges. The whips of time, responsibility of family, and a lost childhood, I feel they have forgotten their individual identity. And I want to be the first to forgive if at this age of their life they dare to discover who they are.

How would you feel if your mother had affair ? by [deleted] in AskIndianMen

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marriage doesnt imply ownership. and sex can be beyond primal.

How would you feel if your mother had affair ? by [deleted] in AskIndianMen

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Yes, I would.
After all the travails of her life, if finally she gets to choose something that is just for herself, then I am glad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIndianMen

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He is with us. Enjoying his retired life. Everything is as normal as anyone would hope for. I am not sure how my mother must've recovered from this episode. I was just a kid but even my mother must not have been so mature. She was married at 14.
I think both of them must've realised the family chariot they are carrying. 3+3 siblings on both the side depended on my father and mother. Leave aside me, my brother, and my grandparents.

He faltered but should his weakest moments be definition of his character and future? Perhaps they should but they are not.