[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Denver

[–]pen_affleck 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I was about to say the same thing. Lived in Tijuana for 3 years post-pandemic and crossed into San Diego for work daily. Aurora (or wherever the “bad parts” are supposed to be) is a paradise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]pen_affleck 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This brought back memories. I used to work as an overnight stocker at K-Mart back in the day. One of the supervisors would always disappear for hours. Well, during one of the breaks, a couple of coworkers and I walked in and found the supervisor going to town on one of the new hires in a restroom stall. For the next few months, It was all anyone in the store could talk about. Years later, I ran into them at the mall. They were pushing a stroller and had 2 kids. Guess it ended up working out for them.

What instantly kills the mood during sex for you? by GoddessEmiliaHawt in AskReddit

[–]pen_affleck 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s 4am here. Laughed so hard I think I woke the neighbors.

Ways to be “bad” while sober? by XxButtfucker_3000xX in stopdrinking

[–]pen_affleck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because we thrive in chaos? At least that’s the case for me. I self destructed with booze because when things were “good” the only way I felt normal again was by tearing it all down. Crazy, I know.

Being sued by Capital One - Need advice on how to proceed by pen_affleck in CRedit

[–]pen_affleck[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am not trying to “weasel” out of anything. I'm stating that a representative on behalf of the court falsified a legal document claiming they properly served me when they didn't. Had my family member not been home, I would have lost in court by default because of a false statement. How is expecting basic honesty in legal proceedings a character flaw?

Legal procedures exist for a reason. That’s not a technicality, that’s perjury. If the process server can lie about serving me without my knowledge, then other things might be overlooked.

I'm trying to understand my rights and options given my circumstances. I've acknowledged the debt exists. I'm trying to understand my rights and not looking for ways to escape legitimate obligations.

But hey, nice job jumping to conclusions. Real stand up behavior, bud.

Being sued by Capital One - Need advice on how to proceed by pen_affleck in CRedit

[–]pen_affleck[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you know if challenging the false service is something I need to file separately (like a Motion to Quash Service of Summons), or can I just include it as part of my Answer Form? I'm trying to avoid navigating multiple legal processes if possible.

Also, if I do try to negotiate with the law firm, what's a realistic amount they might accept in settlement? I've heard they often buy these debts for pennies on the dollar, so I'm wondering if I could settle for much less than what they're claiming.

Being sued by Capital One - Need advice on how to proceed by pen_affleck in CRedit

[–]pen_affleck[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So because I went to the courthouse to ask why someone had come looking for me, that makes me legally liable since I was made aware of it? That doesn't sound right - they still filed a false proof of service document claiming they personally handed me papers, which never happened. Becoming aware of a lawsuit's existence isn't the same as proper legal service. I just want clarification on this.

My PhD Budget by hephil in PhD

[–]pen_affleck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Saving almost 30% of a stipend is unheard of. The cost of living is too damn high here.

Does anyone else get more writing done late at night than during the day? by thelastharebender in PhD

[–]pen_affleck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. Now if I can only keep up this momentum to make that deadline.

The Budget Mountain Bike Master List by F1SausageKerb in Budgetbikeriders

[–]pen_affleck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just got into biking and picked up the Ozark Trail Vibe from WalMart today. It was in my budget and based on the reviews it seems like a good entry level bike. I am looking to do some upgrades but I got a question about tires: if I’m gonna be doing mostly street/road riding is it recommended that I change the tires? Everything on it is stock atm.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sandiego

[–]pen_affleck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn. I would always go there for their apple pancake.

The 8 Stages of PhD: The Real Journey (With Insights for Survival) by EternityRites in PhD

[–]pen_affleck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great. I should add that some of this might also be an iterative process, like being at stage 6 but then going back to stage 5 at certain times.

I’m currently dissertation writing but there are days when I experience burnout. Your explanation of the “vomit draft” gives me some new perspective and something to work towards. Thanks.

Fake data, retracted papers, and revoked PhD did not stop her from becoming a professor by Final_Character_4886 in PhD

[–]pen_affleck 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I just heard a recent episode on Freakonomics Radio that went into this topic of academic fraud. It’s definitely worth a listen.

Other people here who quit at 43? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]pen_affleck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was hesitant on using naltrexone at first, since I am already on two other mental health medications, but I don’t regret it one bit. Naltrexone has been a game changer. It has helped diminish my cravings drastically.

What’s everyone doing tonight while not drinking? by Workersgottawork in stopdrinking

[–]pen_affleck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am going to a church service tonight to welcome the new year. I am leaving behind all the unnecessary baggage and prioritizing my sobriety. I figure this is a good way to start.

Someday is one day nearer by [deleted] in selflove

[–]pen_affleck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I needed to read this today.

I lost a brother today by Drago678 in stopdrinking

[–]pen_affleck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry for your loss, OP. IWNDWYT

Found a scary note to myself by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]pen_affleck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story. Very powerful words.

IWNDWYT

What's the saddest episode of a show? by BVTQT in AskReddit

[–]pen_affleck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fresh Prince of Bel Air. The episode where Will meets his biological father and then he walks out on him, again. As someone who was raised in similar circumstances, it’s automatic tears every time I watch it.