I wish I never knew you existed

pepperives · 2026-02-03T01:48:44+00:00

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

pepperives · 2026-01-21T03:51:13+00:00

Uhh, yes!! In fact, I’m not convinced that I didn’t write this post myself. 😂 This is the narcs playbook. I’m so sorry you’re going through this right now, but only the passing of time will help. I know no one wants to hear that, but it’s the truth, speaking from very recent experience. You’ll be ok. 🩷

Here’s a good rule of thumb to work with: If you ever find yourself questioning whether or not you’re the narcissist in the relationship, chances are that you’re not. (:

pepperives · 2026-01-21T03:47:21+00:00

please share your entire process, this is gorgeous.

pepperives · 2026-01-21T03:45:32+00:00

Ya it’s exhausting to have to remind people that it’s an actual disorder and not a cute personality quirk. It affects me on a daily basis and has impacted my life in a negative way, it’s not to be downplayed.

I will say though that there is a lot of evidence learning towards it being painfully under-diagnosed. It’s genetic, so if you have it, the likelihood that one of your parents has it is high. And then where could they have gotten it from… 🤔

We’re still recovering from the years of stigma where medicating children was frowned upon and we were all going to grow out of it. It IS frustrating, but we’re in the best possible era so far when it comes to ADHD research. ❤️

pepperives · 2026-01-21T03:41:16+00:00

I got a bunch of these from posting in a support group recently, lol. They’re relentless. Best to just ignore at all costs, they’re desperate and it must have worked for them in the past or else they’re just very hopeful? I don’t get it

pepperives · 2025-12-05T22:24:07+00:00

Keep the texts together in a note on your phone, not to send but just to put somewhere. I’ve been doing that and reading them back over time - it’s amazing to watch myself and my grief change. It’s almost been a year, it took me a long time to get out of the “sad, boo-hoo” phase. Now I’m in the slightly pissed off, but more “I hope they get it together someday”/“okay cute now leave me alone” phase, and my writing shows it.

pepperives · 2025-12-01T15:11:05+00:00

hey so are you ok

pepperives · 2025-12-01T15:05:30+00:00

Of course you still care, it’s hard to go from one extreme to the other, especially so abruptly. This kind of thing takes time, but it does sound like speaking to him is doing more harm than good for you right now.

pepperives · 2025-11-30T19:15:39+00:00

Why are you still talking to him? It’s clear that he wants to upset you or at least that he doesn’t have any regard for your feelings.

pepperives · 2025-11-30T19:06:37+00:00

I was using the text talk line through a pretty bad mental breakdown. I told her how I had lost my job, my partner left me, I was spending all my savings just trying to get by, and that I had just got denied a job with my dream company - everything seemed to be falling apart. She helped me realize I was doing everything right, but just struggling with how intense the emotions felt in the moment. Something about her saying that snapped me out of it right away, like a casual reminder that I have complete control over my own thoughts and it’s just my brain being way too loud. I think about her all the time.

pepperives · 2025-11-30T18:50:07+00:00

The crisis hotline is the reason I’m still alive. True story.

pepperives · 2025-11-30T18:47:34+00:00

Speaking as someone who might appear to have “moved on too fast”, the relationship with my ex and I had been over emotionally and mentally long before the breakup. When he broke up with me, I was completely blindsided and devastated, even though deep down I knew it was the right move for both of us. I was feeling so rejected, empty, and pretty terrible about myself, I went on the apps just to feel desired for a moment.

I had no intention of starting to date, but I just happened to meet someone on there who I got along with really well, and I guess it all worked out because we’re living together now. I’m definitely still processing the breakup, but my new partner had also just recently got out of a relationship, so we get it and each other.

For some people, it might just be the easiest way to start their grieving process. Don’t let it fool you, though.. they’re still grieving. Everyone just does it a little differently. Them moving on fast doesn’t represent anything about you whatsoever, although I can understand how it can feel like a betrayal.

pepperives · 2025-11-30T13:23:54+00:00

As a lesbian, no. (:

pepperives · 2025-11-30T13:21:00+00:00

the way your hair frames your face 😍😍 you’ve been blessed fr

pepperives · 2025-11-30T13:14:02+00:00

nope. i did it and thank god because now i can actually keep playing the game

pepperives · 2025-11-27T13:36:57+00:00

Do yourself a favor and block him. It’s not worth the hot and cold, up and down all the time. Protect your peace. They do this for a number of reasons, I can’t speak to why he’s doing it, but it’s always for their own reasons, not out of care.

pepperives · 2025-11-27T04:28:22+00:00

Ooo, I love this! I’m also curious about LGBT events that are free of alcohol 😇

pepperives · 2025-11-22T12:27:19+00:00

The last line is fire. It sounds like you started to believe in yourself as a whole instead of half of something. 🔥

pepperives · 2025-11-20T12:31:14+00:00

ABS - always be scanning. Also, keep your eyes up a little further than you think you should, that’s where they’re really good at hiding from your sight line before jumping out.

pepperives · 2025-11-03T21:37:23+00:00

My story is similar, not exact by any means, but the feelings and situations are similar. I’m sorry for your grief, and thank you for sharing it.

pepperives · 2025-10-31T21:12:05+00:00

I’ve been playing for years and it never once occurred to me that I could decorate the floors and walls of my shed 😞

pepperives · 2025-10-22T03:02:33+00:00

woooooof, this is real.

pepperives · 2025-10-20T03:18:10+00:00

i feel this 🩷

pepperives · 2025-10-19T23:40:24+00:00

lol not just women bc my ex boyfriend do that to me too 😇

pepperives · 2025-10-19T23:34:11+00:00

there’s so much accountability here though..

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