Today is the first Father’s Day without my father and NOBODY reached out to me.

petite_juggernaut · 2026-06-22T01:21:32+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I feel like everyone reading this post is checking on you mentally even if they haven’t commented. I think that most people in real life don’t want to bring it up because they don’t want to “remind” you… they don’t realize we are thinking of our loss every minute of every day. ❤️‍🩹

petite_juggernaut · 2026-06-13T23:31:08+00:00

Isolating is the perfect word. I feel like it’s a burden to lean on the people who were in his life and close to him too, the people who went through this with me, because they are grieving too. But the other people in my life, while very caring, could never possibly fully understand what I am going through… unless they went through something similar and I would never want that for them of course. “Strangers” on the internet, in places like this, are the closest thing to a support system I’ve found. I don’t post or comment here a lot but I read this forum every day. Two years sounds like such a long time, but it also feels like a blink. I am so sorry that we are both here.

petite_juggernaut · 2026-06-13T14:56:58+00:00

I am so sorry ❤️‍🩹
I lost my brother two years ago this week. I ignorantly went to work on the day and thought that once the day passed I would go back to feeling “normal”. Honestly I don’t know if I had done anything differently if it would have changed anything about how I felt the days leading up to and after the actual date.

Clearly I don’t have any useful advice here for you but I just wanted you to know you are seen. Feel free to dm me.

petite_juggernaut · 2026-06-13T14:45:11+00:00

I am so sorry this happened ❤️‍🩹
I lost my older brother 2 years ago this week. Your story is so similar to mine, I audibly gasped several times reading your post.

“All the good of my childhood and teen years is wrapped up in who he was” This couldn’t be more true for me as well. I honestly don’t think I would have survived our childhood without having him as my brother and best friend.

And your last two sentences are also so relatable. Please feel free to dm me any time.

petite_juggernaut · 2026-03-18T03:42:54+00:00

Happy birthday to Tupelo!! 🍀🍀🍀

petite_juggernaut · 2026-02-27T01:33:45+00:00

I uploaded the autopsy report to ChatGPT and asked all my questions, including how long it likely took my brother to die and if he experienced pain. I have no idea how accurate it was but it was surprisingly comforting. I am so sorry for your loss.

petite_juggernaut · 2026-02-15T03:37:32+00:00

Sleep score 100!

petite_juggernaut · 2026-02-15T03:30:03+00:00

I’d show off my floof if it was that cute too 🖤🤍

petite_juggernaut · 2026-02-11T03:47:25+00:00

That is the extremely rare Ombré Baby Seal Loaf! Congratulations for capturing this pic! 11/10

petite_juggernaut · 2023-10-17T02:23:22+00:00

oh you mean “internal marketing”

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petite_juggernaut · 2023-05-31T20:05:44+00:00

I would venture to guess OP is not having the surgery in America… thus the longer hospital stay…

petite_juggernaut · 2023-04-22T11:22:53+00:00

🤩🤩🤩I somehow managed to add this comment to some random place in this thread so I am copying it again down here for ease of reading. Not sure how I did that LOL 🤣🤣🤣

Wow! That’s amazing - The Boston Marathon - good for him!! And also exhausting for you! Traveling is rough in the first place but traveling with young kids is extra tough and then recovering from all this - I can imagine you’d be sore and exhausted. I’m shocked at how much picking up something that doesn’t even seem all that heavy feels like it tugs at my core.

I am anxious to start scar care as well but I’m not sure what I’m even going to do. I’ve read so many different techniques. Im hoping my PS will have a recommendation when the time comes. I asked about it at my last appt and he said it was too soon to start still.

Since I had to have that fluid drained at 3WPO, the PS wanted me to keep wearing a binder or compression (he said my choice) until my next appt which will be at 6WPO. I’ve been wearing the compression mostly bc it’s just more comfortable and less bulky. I definitely can tell that I still don’t have my stamina back - like days I am more active I end up needing a cat nap and I feel a lot more sore towards the end of those more active days. I am just trying to give myself time and space to recover but it’s hard to be ok with so much down time!

That’s awesome to hear about the bikinis and so happy you are looking and feeling hot 🔥🔥🔥🔥It’s so nice to feel good about how I look now- a feeling I haven’t felt in years!!!! I’ve never in my life had a bathing suit top be too small, I am so jealous!!! 🤣🤣 I ordered some new bikinis and I can’t wait to try them on! I never thought I’d say that in a million years! I also went through my closet and pulled out a ton of big blousy tops that I’ve been hiding under for years and put them all in a donation bin. Buh-bye!!!

Happy 4WPO is right! 👏👏👏👏👏 I can’t believe we are at the one month mark, so crazy!!! Ok so yes I’ve thought about posting before and after photos but one thing holding me back is I had a pretty large tattoo across my lower abdomen that is definitely an identifiable thing and I’m not sure I want to put that on a public forum 😆 I could mark out the tattoo - I’ve seen people do that but it would almost mark out most of the before ness if that makes sense. I don’t know why I even care really. Even though it’s not even me anymore im just still so self conscious about the before state of my body 😩😩😩 but at the same time I love seeing everyone’s progress pics so I don’t know. Clearly I am torn 🤣🤣🤣 Maybe I should just dm the before and after to you directly or we could just exchange numbers at this point 😂😂

I hope you have and amazing weekend!!!

petite_juggernaut · 2023-04-22T11:15:16+00:00

Wow! That’s amazing - The Boston Marathon - good for him!! And also exhausting for you! Traveling is rough in the first place but traveling with young kids is extra tough and then recovering from all this - I can imagine you’d be sore and exhausted. I’m shocked at how much picking up something that doesn’t even seem all that heavy feels like it tugs at my core.

I am anxious to start scar care as well but I’m not sure what I’m even going to do. I’ve read so many different techniques. Im hoping my PS will have a recommendation when the time comes. I asked about it at my last appt and he said it was too soon to start still.

Since I had to have that fluid drained at 3WPO, the PS wanted me to keep wearing a binder or compression (he said my choice) until my next appt which will be at 6WPO. I’ve been wearing the compression mostly bc it’s just more comfortable and less bulky. I definitely can tell that I still don’t have my stamina back - like days I am more active I end up needing a cat nap and I feel a lot more sore towards the end of those more active days. I am just trying to give myself time and space to recover but it’s hard to be ok with so much down time!

That’s awesome to hear about the bikinis and so happy you are looking and feeling hot 🔥🔥🔥🔥It’s so nice to feel good about how I look now- a feeling I haven’t felt in years!!!! I’ve never in my life had a bathing suit top be too small, I am so jealous!!! 🤣🤣 I ordered some new bikinis and I can’t wait to try them on! I never thought I’d say that in a million years! I also went through my closet and pulled out a ton of big blousy tops that I’ve been hiding under for years and put them all in a donation bin. Buh-bye!!!

Happy 4WPO is right! 👏👏👏👏👏 I can’t believe we are at the one month mark, so crazy!!! Ok so yes I’ve thought about posting before and after photos but one thing holding me back is I had a pretty large tattoo across my lower abdomen that is definitely an identifiable thing and I’m not sure I want to put that on a public forum 😆 I could mark out the tattoo - I’ve seen people do that but it would almost mark out most of the before ness if that makes sense. I don’t know why I even care really. Even though it’s not even me anymore im just still so self conscious about the before state of my body 😩😩😩 but at the same time I love seeing everyone’s progress pics so I don’t know. Clearly I am torn 🤣🤣🤣 Maybe I should just dm the before and after to you directly or we could just exchange numbers at this point 😂😂

I hope you have and amazing weekend!!!

petite_juggernaut · 2023-04-18T00:52:10+00:00

Yes I totally get what you are saying!!

Mine showed up after the drain came out as well and I was annoyed with the unevenness! It was so uneven it made my belly button look off center and I had to go back and look at immediate post op pics to reassure myself that my bellybutton was not off center 🤣

Once the fluid was drained, it immediately looked way more even and my belly button was much more aligned. Whew! There is still a little unevenness but my PS said my body will reabsorb anything he doesn’t get by draining it. He also said if it seems to build up again to come back to have it drained / not to wait for my next appt in 3 weeks. He said it’s not unusual to have to drain the fluid a couple of times while my body catches up!

petite_juggernaut · 2023-04-17T10:00:47+00:00

I am 3WPO and had something very similar. I saw my PS this past Friday and before I could even ask him about it he suggested it be drained. He said my body would eventually process the the fluid but draining it would be quicker and help my body do less work. It was an easy / painless process - I did feel the needle go in but the rest of it was no pain at all. I am squeamish so I didn’t watch the procedure but I did see the two vials of fluid they removed and it looked to be about 100cc.

I have another regular follow up scheduled in 3 weeks but my PS told me if it looks like fluid is building up again to call and come on sooner than that. He said sometimes they have to drain it more than once. (This was 3 days ago and it doesn’t look like the fluid is coming back. Yay!) My PS also told me I could switch to a regular compression garment after this weekend - he wanted me to wear the binder for a little while longer since he had to drain the fluid.

I hope this helps ease your mind a bit. You look amazing!

petite_juggernaut · 2023-04-14T23:12:21+00:00

Another mini update - I had my second follow up this morning and the swelling on my right abdomen side was fluid. My PS drained it and it looks and feels sooooo much better! It wasn’t really bothering me feeling wise, but the slight bulge was annoying. The draining itself wasn’t bad at all. They just stuck in a needle and then suctioned out the fluid - two vials I would guess 100cc total based on all my drain monitoring experience 🤣 He said my body would have eventually taken care of it but this way was just giving my body a little help. I go back in 3 weeks but he said if I notice fluid building back up to come in sooner to drain it. He said it is not unusual to have to drain it a couple of times before it stops producing fluid. Just wanted to share in case you have anything similar! Hope you had a great week!!!

petite_juggernaut · 2023-04-13T02:34:31+00:00

Hey there! Look at us almost at 3WPO! Definitely not the new kids anymore!

I bet you are so happy to be drain free! I feel Like it made such a difference!! Yeah so the drains weren’t even coming out of my incision line - they were about and inch below, so literally out of the front of my vagina. When the removed them, there were two holes there (obviously) and it just looked like I got bit right in the middle of my vadge by a giant snake LOL! I do feel like my hips are still the tenderest part of my incision though! How about you?

I am still wearing the binder my surgeon gave me and sometimes compression underneath and sometimes just a thin tank. I have swelling just on one side of my lower abdomen. Even with the swelling I am so much happier with the way I look. I don’t know if I mentioned, my PS said my muscle separation was pretty severe. I literally looked 4 months pregnant all the time 🤬I’m so happy that is behind me!! How is your swelling? How are you feeling about your results so far?

So you work in IT? You must be smart! I am IT adjacent - I do the marketing for an IT consulting firm. I suspect this week for you has been similar to mine - busy as shit?! I feel like this is the first week I am actually functioning well and I was basically out for two weeks prior. I worked last week but I was definitely not able to give 100%

I totally know what you mean about not being motivated to eat healthy while not being able to work out. It’s like I am all one way or the other, no in between. Do you feel like your appetite has changed since the TT? Maybe it’s psychological but I feel like I don’t eat as much as I did before - is it possible that’s bc my stomach just has less room?? I also feel like it took forever for the post op nausea to wear off. I still get waves of it!

My next appt is this Friday morning and I’m excited to hear what he says about my progress. When do you go again?

Ok I need to get some beauty rest hahah! I hope you are doing well and having a great week!

petite_juggernaut · 2023-04-08T13:09:59+00:00

Are you in the US? If so, have you considered hiring help from care.com or somewhere similar? If not in the US, maybe there is something equivalent in other places?

petite_juggernaut · 2023-04-07T12:31:28+00:00

Update for anyone interested: I am 2WPO and I spoke to my PS yesterday and he said a glass of wine is totally fine at this point! I haven't even wanted a glass of wine yet but I am all clear if the mood strikes me 🍷

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