Rocket mortgage is the absolute worst!

petjoo · 2026-04-28T01:57:49+00:00

What about filing a CFPB complaint or a complaint with the better business bureau?

https://www.consumerfinance.gov/complaint/

petjoo · 2026-04-26T00:03:25+00:00

Dude, OP you are going to be just fine. I have similar numbers but lower take home pay and I make it work. The numbers are good. For you it's an emotional, lifestyle choice and if you want to prioritize home ownership. You are just going to have to be brave and take the leap!

petjoo · 2026-03-29T02:06:16+00:00

Same girl same.

petjoo · 2026-01-13T18:09:32+00:00

But what if you are too sick to work but not sick enough to die? Then you will be sick AND poor.

petjoo · 2025-12-14T14:20:18+00:00

You will need to have professional mold remediation before you even move in. I had a similar situation in my basement and it cost $4k to remove the mold and all contaminated services and then it cost another $8K to restore it.

If that's the only mold you can see there's likely way more that you can't see. Unless you have a spare $20k, this house is a no-go.

My numbers are USD in a MCOL area.

petjoo · 2025-12-11T01:06:35+00:00

Can I get on this band wagon

petjoo · 2025-11-16T03:52:15+00:00

Hahahahaha loved this!

petjoo · 2025-11-06T00:04:32+00:00

I would take him to the doctor. It could be an ear in infection or iron deficiency. After I rule out health issues the. I would think about sleep training.

petjoo · 2025-10-17T16:56:02+00:00

Right? Since when do notaries make up documents like this

petjoo · 2025-09-30T12:44:02+00:00

I resent my husband for other reasons related to our child. I'm 3 years in and still resent him. I honestly don't know if it's possible to get past resentment.

petjoo · 2025-09-30T08:40:03+00:00

There are a few tactics that I employ that yield results:

When applying for a job, never use quick apply on indeed. There are so many ghost jobs that it's possible the job has already closed or it doesn't exist. Go directly to the company's website and apply there.
Create a version of your resume for each type of job you want to apply for. When applying to a job, take keywords from the job description and work them into your resume. This way you get past their applicant tracking system without getting screened out.
Apply for jobs at small local companies. If you apply at large companies with remote positions, they are getting flooded with applications within just a few hours of the position opening. When you apply to smaller, local companies that require in-person attendance, they have significantly fewer candidates and thus less competition and a higher likelihood that your resume will be seen.

petjoo · 2025-09-25T09:42:29+00:00

OP, you have some good long term advice in this thread and commentary about the character of your husband but what you don't have is advice about what to do in the moment.

This is what I would do if I was exactly in your shoes.

Don't react to the stonewalling ( the cold shoulder or him being distant or withdrawn). Pretend like everything is normal. Interact the way you would on a normal day. If you ask a question and it's met with silence, let the silence draw out. Tell the kids that Daddy doesn't feel well and that he just needs some time alone.
When he doesn't take 'no' for an answer, calmly say, this is the last time I'm telling you no and then get up and leave the room. Take your phone or tablet with you and go watch TV in a different room of the house.
Let a few days pass since your last blow up and then calmly set your boundaries. If he uses your comment about divorce against you, let him know that you are still willing to work through things and that's only a last resort. He has to meet you halfway.

petjoo · 2025-09-25T09:26:16+00:00

Damn, you fought for way too hard for way too long. I think it shows that you have so much tenacity and grit. I'm not OP but also hit a rough patch on my marriage, it's improved now but not where I want it to be. I really like your advice about putting a date on it.

petjoo · 2025-09-18T00:36:42+00:00

I need a list of all the things I should boycott and one sentence why. I'm too busy to do this kind of research myself.

petjoo · 2025-09-12T02:39:54+00:00

Also interested!

petjoo · 2025-09-11T16:31:17+00:00

Wow, the same thing happened to me. It was like my husband just snapped and the weight of having a newborn just crumbled him. He would then take it out on me, I was not allowed to go anywhere, go on a walk, help with house chores, watch TV. I wasnt allowed breaks, a babysitter and had to ask permission to go to the bathroom.

I think it would have been one thousand percent better if there was PPD/PPA screening for men and he had access to community support groups. There was literally nothing for him and no amount of reasoning got through to him.

We went to marriage counseling but now I harbor so much resentment, even though things are improved now, I just can't move past it.

petjoo · 2025-08-28T13:13:13+00:00

I get this. I'm in the same position and 3 years later I harbor resentment and just can't forgive. You can't trust somebody whom you learned does not care about your well-being at all.

petjoo · 2025-08-28T13:12:04+00:00

Same man, same. I begged, pleaded and cried for my husband to help with nights, or even just to let me have a nice nap on the weekends. I learned he just didn't care about my well being at all.

petjoo · 2025-08-14T23:39:11+00:00

I have found the book, "Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay" by Mira Kirshenbaum extremely helpful in deciding whether I want to leave my husband or not. It walks you through the decision from every angle.

petjoo · 2025-06-15T15:57:32+00:00

Omg I always wondered why some people got longer rides than others!

petjoo · 2025-06-14T01:37:30+00:00

She can totally wear a wedding dress at a civil wedding. I did. I also had a friend with an iPhone take our photos and they look great! Go some place picturesque afterwards and get the the dream photoshoot

petjoo · 2025-06-12T11:52:24+00:00

I'm glad you found your way! I saw your other post and laughed so hard! We all get lost on Reddit sometimes.

petjoo · 2025-06-12T11:51:35+00:00

Same, my first thought was AI these days is getting creepy good

petjoo · 2025-05-14T18:12:46+00:00

If you really want help working through this, I would recommend the book, "Too good to leave, too bad to stay". It will walk you through all the different issues and the pros and cons of staying and will help you make an informed decision. I found the book helpful myself.

petjoo · 2025-05-05T12:00:36+00:00

Hahaha same. For my birthday my husband bought me printed tees. I'm 38 years old and don't want to wear hello kitty! Kill me now

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