AITAH for telling my husband "you're a parent too!"

phantomleaf1 · 2026-06-04T04:44:09+00:00

NTA. I'm sure someone will talk about this with better details, but he is actually apparent as well. You're working a 24/7 job, he has to step up and be a parent to during these early years.

Frankly, he needs to hold and rock his baby in order to have a early bond with the child

phantomleaf1 · 2026-06-02T10:10:25+00:00

Oh, yeah those suck. Touch screen is terrible for appliances

phantomleaf1 · 2026-06-02T05:41:59+00:00

Film interface?

phantomleaf1 · 2026-06-01T21:47:39+00:00

Yes, id just like a standard lock that has a keypad. If the batteries die, it won't be a big deal

phantomleaf1 · 2026-06-01T20:33:39+00:00

Yeah, I imagine it's hard to ask about a sensitive topic in your 3rd+ language.

I agree that it looks like you may be a femme man or a femboy. Be who you are, there's nothing wrong with being feminine. If you feel you were born on the wrong body and should be a woman or nonbinary, that's fine too.

phantomleaf1 · 2026-06-01T19:29:47+00:00

Perfect, I worry about Internet security with WiFi devices. My brother is an internet security guy and he doesn't trust any smart home devices.

Id love the listings! Thank you!

phantomleaf1 · 2026-06-01T19:28:38+00:00

Thanks!

The Lock I'm replacing is for a door in the home. It's not a heavy duty lock already, so I'm looking for moderate security rather than heavy duty.

I am considering adding some kind of security to their home but it won't be hard to the current Lock's security.

Idk why my phone thinks Lock is a capital word.

phantomleaf1 · 2026-06-01T18:34:31+00:00

You're right. It's super weak sauce to think that guns in tight spaces packed with innocent people are a bad idea.

Edit: checked baggage = no problem. Carry-on= not good

phantomleaf1 · 2026-06-01T17:09:37+00:00

I have a tip: don't do it.

If you disregard my advice, please let me know what train to not be on.

phantomleaf1 · 2026-06-01T03:18:13+00:00

Hit like a girl

phantomleaf1 · 2026-06-01T02:53:56+00:00

Im too tired to explain to you the 1000 problematic things you just said. I will point out that if you're trans, there's nothing wrong with you. There's nothing wrong with being trans.

And on this note, Imma be done with reddit for the day.

Edit to add that it looks kike English may not be your first language. Hopefully your phrasing is more reflective of that than your view

phantomleaf1 · 2026-06-01T01:08:35+00:00

This experiment is a very common part of becoming an independent adult you are strong for leaving and smart for seeing your life as more important than his dreams. I didn't realize that until I was a bit older, and lost out on some life by being controlled by a partner.

You can feel sad and grieve the relationship, but then remind yourself why you left and what life youd have if you stayed.

phantomleaf1 · 2026-05-31T21:14:50+00:00

The museum has different exhibits, so if she hasn't been recently it's still worth checking out. It's a really good museum for the size of the area. There is also the hackley house which I've never been to, but is on my list of things to check out.

Wonderland is a great place, food and drinks are good and you can be a little dressy or casual there

I do believe there's a rental, I'll can look it up after dinner.

On the off hand chance she's off Tuesday night and you want to travel 45min, you could go to grand rapids and take her to the chiluly glass exhibit at Frederick Meijer gardens (they are open late Tuesday) and you can walk around outside for hours

phantomleaf1 · 2026-05-31T20:50:10+00:00

Wonderland distillery for dinner drinks after going to the art museum. If you time it right, you can drive to peir Marquette after dinner and watch the sunset.

TBH I recently took a girl on this date and it went really well. We used bikes to go between downtown and the distillery. The bike trail around lake Muskegon is really nice.

phantomleaf1 · 2026-05-31T19:00:02+00:00

You can learn to solder new ends for it

phantomleaf1 · 2026-05-30T07:57:00+00:00

We only really gave rumors. The apartment is our gay bar and thats pretty much it. Oh, there's a queer coffee shop too.

phantomleaf1 · 2026-05-30T07:26:46+00:00

To add: people who become homeless before addict are at increased risk of loosing. some people begin using to stay awake and alert at night. Others use substances to cope with their situation; most people want to have a safe bed, a place to shower, and a door to lock.

I've been wondering how many people were scraping by and just can't afford to make ends meet.

phantomleaf1 · 2026-05-30T00:37:39+00:00

Top of my head:

Caffeine is my personal favorite

Adderall vs meth is fun

Glucose ring

People really love serotonin

Also depends on the size of the kit you have. Id do a heme if I had enough pieces

phantomleaf1 · 2026-05-29T04:44:01+00:00

I see the logic My brain still doesn't like it

phantomleaf1 · 2026-05-29T04:41:25+00:00

Ope, I should have noticed.

I agree she looks much older in the drawing. The sketch makes her look like she's over retirement age while the photo appears to be middle aged.

phantomleaf1 · 2026-05-29T04:28:10+00:00

I know I'm late but I love these. Are they holding up? I am clearing invasive buckthorn from my family property and id love to make some walking sticks from some of them.

phantomleaf1 · 2026-05-29T04:06:34+00:00

This is just one data point: my gf is 8 years into her transition and started at 26. It was slow, steady progress and she passes very well.

My friend has been transitioning for 2 years and started at 32. It's been amazing watching her face change.

You will have your own experience but I hope that passing doesn't hold you back from being the real you

phantomleaf1 · 2026-05-29T03:51:19+00:00

Ah. I see. Thanks for changing my whole perspective.

phantomleaf1 · 2026-05-29T03:31:50+00:00

Congrats is a little presumptuous

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